The Cult of Feminism

According to Wikipedia“Feminism is a collection of movements and ideologies aimed at defining, establishing, and defending equal political, economic, and social rights for women. This includes seeking to establish equal opportunities for women in education and employment.”

Feminism has also evolved over time, and historical differentiation has been attempted using the labels first-wave feminism, second-wave feminism and third-wave feminism.

Thus feminism has many tribes holding contrary views on a number of significant issues, as portrayed in the chart below. Further details regarding different forms of feminism can be found here.

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valentiThe vast majority of feminists active in both social media and in lobbying government for policy change are at home on the right hand side of this chart. This group includes Jessica Valenti (pictured right) and Anita Sarkissian. These feminists are by far the most problematic in the context of the sorts of issues discussed in this blog.

In early 2015 only 18% of Americans considered themselves to be feminists (down 10% from 2013), and with most of those only having a superficial knowledge of feminist theory and its tawdry history. In Britain now the percentage of people claiming to be feminists is even lower, sitting at just 7%. Nine percent of respondents in the British survey asserted that feminism was “irrelevant”.

Nevertheless, the feminist hierarchy has no qualms about claiming to be the font of wisdom with regards to what (all) women want and how they should live their lives. Indeed the feminist’s sense of superiority knows no bounds, and they believe themselves to be equally well-qualified to lecture on how men think, and should live their lives.

When challenged in public debate, feminists are often quick to state that feminism is not about hating men. When confronted with hate-filled statements by prominent feminist spokespersons they then shift to the NAFALT (‘not all feminists are like that’) strategy. Yet how often does one hear feminists directly engaging with,  and you know … actually rebuking, these alleged outliers within their movement? Umm, rarely? never?

As various posts in this blog demonstrate, although feminists nominate equality as their primary goal they vigorously pursue policies which create or maintain inequality, even going so far as to obstruct the efforts of others seeking to foster equality. Feminists compound their duplicity by using all available means to stifle and silence those holding opposing views, rather than engaging in open and positive dialogue.

There can be little scope for mutual respect and co-operation given that the bulk of feminists choose to position the male half of the population on a spectrum the ends of which are marked by indifference and loathing.

“Aw, come on ladies! Fuck this “equality” bullshit. I don’t want equality. I want some fucking LIBERATION!  … Equality with men implies men are the standard. Fuck that bullshit. Men are the fucking oppressors! I want liberation from male oppression!” (Source)

As with very many others interested in men’s issues, I was originally very sympathetic towards the feminist message. Have you ever asked a feminist what reading she has done about male rights and male issues? I have, and I can almost guarantee that they will look at you as if you asked them if they could speak dog language. Having uncovered a surfeit of lies, hypocrisy and double-standards by that stage, this was the last straw for me.

Thus it finally dawned on me that most feminists believe that the only role for men in ‘their’ cause is to submit and be silent. This is clear in much of the material written by feminists, for example this article and the readers comments that follow.

Men are required to educate themselves about feminist concepts in order to (partially) redeem ourselves, or at least to do as we are told. There is no corresponding expectation on women, presumably as the male perspective is deemed to be so barren that we have no useful insights to impart. And in just one of their many feats of breathtaking hypocrisy, whilst feminists exaggerate the flaws evident in some men they studiously ignore the weaknesses and/or transgressions of many women.

Feminists promote the idea that women were utterly downtrodden before feminism arrived. In fact they have gone further and re-written history to support their belief in a patriarchy. This is explored in these papers: ‘Did men really have all the power throughout history?‘ and ‘Feminism against historical women‘. Yet still it doesn’t end there, as feminists:

  • usually opt to attack their critics rather than deal with the actual issues that they raise
  • persistently and blatantly misrepresent the position of their detractors
  • wilfully misrepresent reality in order to support their position, for example through the use of bogus statistics
  • wilfully misrepresent themselves as the natural spokespeople for women although most women choose not to identify themselves as feminists and/or are opposed to feminist doctrine
  • are hypocrites in decrying bigotry and sexism whilst pursuing an agenda based around such policies

These are symptoms of a movement that now has big issues in terms of its relevancy and credibility. These are symptoms of a movement whose net effect is increasingly one which threatens social cohesion and exacerbates pressing social problems.

A November 2014 reader poll conducted by ‘Time’ found that the word ‘feminist’ was the number one term (and by a large margin) that people would like to see banished. Also discussed here. When feminists found out they were not amused (article nonsense but good readers comments). Unfortunately at that point ‘Time’ chose to back down and apologise – pathetic really.

This 2015 article stated that only 18% of Americans consider themselves to be feminists, although 85% are in favour of equality for women.

Feminism has devolved into what is essentially a powerful fundamentalist cabal of privileged white western women. These people have manufactured an industry instilling a heady brew of victimhood and entitlement to generate substantial personal benefit for its main players, whilst offering perhaps the last remaining state-sanctioned outlet for bigoted self-expression. Indeed some would go further and assert that feminism displays many of the characteristics of a cult – see how many points of likeness you can tick off on this list. The ‘redstockings manifesto‘ is a piece of feminist history about which most current-day feminists would have no knowledge, yet its doctrine still lies at the heart of what empowered feminists are doing in the here and now.

Please read Seven things feminist hate to hear and absolutely can’t talk about, by Janet Bloomfield (22 April 2015) then view Feminism vs truth (22 September 2014) A short video by Christina Hoff Sommers

This June 2014 blog post by Ben Cobley looks at feminism from a left-wing political perspective. It’s quite heavy reading for those not into political theory but interesting and worth the effort.

Pierce Harlan has written an excellent article comparing the approach by feminists towards the treatment of those accused of rape with the lynch mobs of the American deep south.

An article by Julianne Ross (10 June 2014) entitled ‘The 8 biggest lies Men’s Rights Activists spread about women‘ was woefully biased and misleading. In fact the only good thing about it was the scorching rebuttal it led to, courtesy of an incensed MRA (NB: strong language warning).

A great Youtube video by Victor Zen called ‘Why Feminism is a Thing‘, and another one here called ‘Misandry: Let’s ask Tumblr feminists what they think’.

This article is about feminist double-standards when it comes to the issue of informed consent and rape.

This page is quite interesting in that it provides details of invitations issued to various people to provide information supporting their views after they made sexist and/or anti-male statements. And then read http://bellejar.ca/2014/03/28/why-the-mens-rights-movement-is-garbage/ (also reproduced at at http://www.huffingtonpost.ca/anne-theriault-/mens-rights-movement_b_5049999.html).

Sample also this excellent response from MHRA blogger Judgy Bitch

Even Pope Francis has some wisdom to share with us on the topic of feminism:

“What I would like to add is that feminism, as a unique philosophy, does not do any favors to those that it claims to represent, for it puts women on the level of a vindictive battle, and a woman is much more than that,” the pope wrote. “The feminist campaign of the ’20s achieved what it wanted and it is over, but a constant feminist philosophy does not give women the dignity that they deserve. As a caricature, I would say that it runs the risk of becoming chauvinism with skirts.”

More from Pope Francis on the issue of gender differences here.

Feminism has now devolved to the point that using pre-pubescent girls in expletive-laden videos to further their cause is not only seen as appropriate, but as edgy and cool. (See critiques here and here). There is now a second video by the same producers, the main theme of which is domestic violence. A further example of the inappropriate use of children to bang the feminist drum is discussed here.

John the Other defined feminism thus: ”A doctrine built on the pre-supposition of victimhood of women by men as a foundation of female identity. In its goals is always the utilization of the state to forcibly redress this claimed victimization. In other words, the proxy use of violence and wealth appropriation. In whatever flavour, and variation, these two basic features are common to every doctrine using the label feminism. Feminism is therefore, a doctrine of class hatred, and violence.” (Source)

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See also:

36 Stupid feminist questions answered (8 May 2019) Video

The hidden classism of modern feminism (5 November 2018)

Why feminists are bullies, in a nutshell (3 October 2018) Video

Feminism: Qu’est-ce que qu cest? (9 July 2018)

A Scholar Asked, ‘Why Can’t We Hate Men?’ Now She Responds to the Deluge of Criticism (19 June 2018)

Are you weak if you make your man a sandwich? This is why real men don’t marry feminists (15 October 2017)

‘Women Against Feminism’ are mostly just feminists who don’t hate men (31 August 2017)

Kathy Griffin’s Apology Reversal Illustrates Feminism’s Maddening Identity Crisis (6 June 2017)

Camille Paglia Discusses Her War on ‘Elitist Garbage’ and Contemporary Feminism (14 March 2017)

Belinda Brown: Feminism is a toxic toy for the privileged (8 March 2017)

Feminists wage war against romance on Valentine’s Day (14 February 2017)

More divisive than Trump by Corrine Barraclough (4 February 2017)

I didn’t join the march. I’ve had enough of Obama’s hierarchy of grievance (22 January 2017)

The Sisterhood and a Profound Weariness: Unbiased Analysis (4 January 2017)

Having a son went from a dilemma to being the most valuable lesson of my life, by Polly Dunning (21 December 2016) Australia. Related Reddit discussion thread here. God help this poor little boy (and others like him) who should be allowed to grow up being accepted and loved, rather than have his gender bigot mum use him as a sociology experiment based around a perverse misandric cult.

How to make feminism great again (5 December 2016)

Yes, @kmo75947, Feminists Do Hate Men (16 November 2016)

An ex-Feminist’s thoughts on academia and the tactics of third-wave Feminism (18 October 2016) Reddit discussion thread

Most women in 2016 happy to be female, BBC poll suggests (10 October 2016) And so even with the patriarchy and all the dreadful deprivations endlessly described by feminists, more women are glad to be women rather than men.

The trumpet blasts of the monstrous regiment, by Terry Barnes (26 September 2016) Australia. Good read

Generation of young women is ‘wracked by anxiety, lack of confidence and despair’ caused by financial, work and housing problems (22 September 2016) UK

The things feminists say, by Sargon of Akkad (video)

Why ‘Feminazi’ is a perfectly valid word (18 August 2016)

The coming diversity disaster, by Shay Tan (24 July 2016)

Feminists treat men badly. It’s bad for feminism, by Cathy Young (30 June 2016)

Why are modern women angry? (27 June 2016)

6 Feminist Myths That Will Not Die (18 June 2016)

The Reality of Feminism (a short video presentation)

Random Shit 68: Why Modern Feminism is Complete Bullshit: The Ultimate Facts Sheet

“Nice” feminism: How a hate movement uses its grassroots against men, by Hannah Wallen (4 June 2016) Recommended reading

Julie Bindel Is Right: Marriage Can Never Be Feminist (So Don’t Marry a Feminist) (1 June 2016)

The Cult of Feminism, by Krista Milburn (31 May 2016)

Robert Stacy McCain writes many great articles about feminism. Today (25 March 2016) he published two that are both well worth reading:

What Feminism Is and Isn’t and Feminism: Impossible to Parody

And here is a more recent effort called The Myth of the Masculinity Crisis(recommended reading!)

This person goes through all the reasons given to justify the need for feminism, and de-bunks them all one by one (and cites relevant sources)

The Corruption of Feminism (22 March 2016) Video

Why I No Longer Identify as a Feminist (19 February 2016) Recommended reading

The Transformation Of Feminism Into A Hate Movement And Their Censorship Of Free Speech (12 January 2016)

How to fight your way out of the feminist fog, by Allen J Frantzen (undated)

There’s a Special Place in Hell for Feminism (10 February 2016) USA

White women are the angriest Americans, according to a new “rage survey” (4 January 2016) USA

A truthful little peek into how the feminist mind works (1 January 2016) Reddit discussion thread

Has Feminism Made Women Happier? A Comprehensive Review (31 December 2015)

When is a feminist not a feminist? (18 December 2015)

Fear and Loathing: An Oberlin Feminist on Men, Republicans and Heterosexuality (17 December 2015) USA

The Feminist Fear Factor (30 November 2015) Great article for any man who has ever been told that he’s frightened of independent women

What’s so funny about a men’s rights debate? (29 October 2015)

How to be a feminist (October 2015) Video

Equality, Feminism, and the Zero-Sum Game (18 October 2015) Reddit mens rights discussion thread

Feminism = Madness (8 October 2015) USA

Will Feminism’s Next Big “Wave” Finally Be the One That Drowns It? (5 October 2015)

It’s time to shame ‘shame culture’. All this trivial victimisation has to stop (5 October 2015) UK

Anti-feminism is the new feminism, by Elizabeth Hobson (14 September 2015)

Hateful Guardian writer Julie Bindel proposes Feminazi concentration camps for all men (5 September 2015) Further good paper on this subject here (by The Other McCain)

A Critique of Feminism: A Humanitarian Won’t be Silenced about Sexual and Domestic Violence (24 August 2015)

Feminist Tumblr: Don’t Even Ask (2 August 2015)

Feminism in one word (27 June 2015) Video

Feminism and the turn against enlightenment (11 June 2015)

Feminists don’t challenge radical Islam because real misogynists are terrifying (9 June 2015)

Scholar: ‘Grievance Feminism’ Crippling Debate on Gender Politics (5 June 2015)

Belinda Brown: A century of feminism has failed us. Women have betrayed men’s trust (1 May 2015)

Feminism Born from Boredom, Not Oppression (28 April 2015)

7 things feminists hate to hear and absolutely can’t talk about, by Janet Bloomfield (21 April 2015) Recommended reading plus many readers comments

Feminism for beginners, by Ken Gallagher (19 April 2015)

Is Feminism Dangerous, Dogmatic, and Antiquated? Maybe! (April 2015)

The feminist definition of oppression (24 July 2014) Youtube video by Sargon of Akkad

The courage of building bridges (9 April 2015)

Feminism does not mean equality unless you are a misogynist (29 August 2014)

It’s not enough for men to turn up. They have to do the work, by Clementine Ford (13 March 2015)

Sex v. Gender. Understanding political correctness (12 February 2015)

Feminist Author @PennyRed Quotes Bolshevik Commissar’s Anti-Love Advice (17 January 2015)

Nick Reading of Men’s Rights Edmonton talks about raising awareness of the true nature of feminism (7 January 2015) Videos

Feminism: The movement of low hanging fruit (4 January 2015)

Why feminism needs to end: It’s time to work towards equality by Chris Good (6 December 2014) Why we need a parents liberation movement by Jennie Bristow (27 June 2008)

Four reasons feminism is alienating teenage boys (13 November 2014)

A Lesbian Theory of the Penis (11 November 2014)

Is feminism feminism’s ideal abusive spouse? (8 November 2014)

Applying feminism’s Duluth Model to feminism itself

62p AN HOUR: What women sleeping 16 to a room get paid to make Ed and Harriet’s £45 ‘This Is What A Feminist Looks Like’ T-shirts (2 November 2014)

Feminism: Today’s Women’s Ku Klux Klan (31 October 2014)

Radical feminist violence against men in America (14 October 2014)

What misandry means to me (1 July 2014)

Shut Up, because Rape (2 October 2014)

Janet Bloomfield re-writes a feministing.com article about gender hate (14 September 2014)

Feminist activist women are masculinized in terms of digit-ratio and social dominance: a possible explanation for the feminist paradox (9 September 2014)

Feminists care about equality? Bullshit. They stand directly in the way of it (8 September 2014)

A reader’s comprehensive comment on men’s rights, from the Telegraph UK (July 2014) Reddit mensrights discussion thread

Do men hate women – justifiably? (20 June 2014)

23 quotes from feminists that will make you rethink feminism (17 May 2014)

Modern feminism has got it wrong about men (15 May 2014) More than 2,000 readers comments!

Feminism can’t be bad because it’s definition is … (12 March 2014)

See a man talking about feminism: What could possibly go wrong? (7 August 2014) Mangina mocks men who wish to participate in the gender debate. Many readers comments in the same vein, but with some interesting responses.

The fascism of feminism: Domestic violence and family Where feminism went wrong by Janet Bloomfield

Just one in seven women describe themselves as ‘feminist’ (17 October 2012) (UK article)

Leaving the sisterhood: A recovering feminist speaks, by Elly Tams (13 August 2012) with 349 readers comments

7 ways black sociology shows what is wrong with feminism (26 July 2014) Janet Bloomfield

Men: Stand up for yourselves and we will HATE you. The new feminist war cry (29 March 2014) by Janet Bloomfield (Judgybitch) Brilliant + well-researched piece of writing

Excellent analysis of feminism (21 July 2014) by Suzanne Venker

Giving feminism a bad name (28 May 2012)

Women against feminism is a thing. And we’re confused (14 July 2014) and here is one feminist’s thoughtful response ‘Feminism is fabulous, we just have to smile moreFighting sexism in all the safe places (8 July 2014)

The end game of feminism, by Roosh V (13 February 2013) Deals with the many and varied double-standards of feminism

Man-hating feminism more than just a myth (20 May 2013)

Feminism the noble lie, by Robert Sheaffer (1997)

http://washingtonexaminer.com/shocker-fbi-dumps-southern-poverty-law-center-as-hate-crime-watchdog-partner/article/2546305 (Significant because SPLC’s designation of MRA’s as ‘hate groups’ is often trumpeted by feminists)

http://www.avoiceformen.com/feminism/university-of-ottawa-students-trample-free-speech-mensissues/ (Popular feminist strategy to prevent people from being exposed to ‘the other side of the story’)

Feminism hurts women too (12 February 2014)

A catalogue of feminist lies and cruelty (12 February 2012)

http://www.avoiceformen.com/feminism/excuse-me-what-is-so-wrong-with-being-anti-feminist/ 

http://blog.honeybadgerbrigade.com/uncategorized/dear-feminism-nafalt-goes-both-ways-part-1/ by Hannah Wallen (7 May 2014)

Where did feminism go wrong? (2 September 2009)

Why Modern Feminism Is Illogical, Unnecessary, and Evil (2 August 2009)

The paradox of declining female happiness (May 2009)

How the Feminists’ “War against Boys” Paved the Way for Islam (4 September 2006) An extract from which reads as follows:

“In the year 2000, Swedish feminist Joanna Rytel and the action group Unf**ked Pussy entered the stage during the live broadcast of the Miss Sweden contest. She also wrote an article called “I Will Never Give Birth to a White Man,” for a major Swedish daily, Aftonbladet, in 2004. Rytel explained why she hates white men — they are selfish, exploitative, vain, and sex-crazed — and just to make things clear, she added, “no white men, please… I just puke on them, thank you very much.”

https://twitter.com/NadiaKamil/status/451819420793319424

I presume this 2009 article from The Guardian was meant to be tongue-in-cheek but I don’t find humorous

http://www.genderratic.com/p/4240/feminist-rape-culture-statutory-edition/#comment-354005 http://dusamedia.com/the-feminist-cult/

http://www.avoiceformalestudents.com/banners-and-posters-of-misandry/

http://www.infowars.com/twitter-feminists-campaign-to-killallmen/ and http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pZcTG2yFcBE&feature=youtu.be (On the #killallmen campaign)

http://www.avoiceformen.com/allnews/feminist-hate-explodes-on-twitter-with-killallmen/ http://www.nationalreview.com/article/370451/feminist-mystique-kevin-d-williamson

http://swarthmoreindependent.com/2014/03/23/fat-justice-workshop-degrades-women-stretches-truth/ http://anti-feminism-pro-equality.tumblr.com/antifeminism

Take the test: Feminist shenanigans or satire? (30 April 2014)

Finally, have a look at these Karen Straughan (aka ‘Girl Writes What’) videos:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZR3HE-knTJU

Here Karen features in a panel discussion on the topic of “Do we need feminism?”

Karen challenges the feminist paradigm of helplessness (April 2015)

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Related posts within this blog:

On the censorship of non-feminist perspectives and opinions

Beware the ire of an angry feminist

Not all feminists are like that (NAFALT)

On the censorship and erasure of non-feminist perspectives and opinions

In 1913 a gentleman by the name of Ernest Bax wrote:

“When, however, the bluff is exposed… then the apostles of feminism, male and female, being unable to make even a plausible case out in reply, with one consent resort to the boycott, and by ignoring what they cannot answer, seek to stop the spread of the unpleasant truth so dangerous to their cause. The pressure put upon publishers and editors by the influential Feminist sisterhood is well known.” [From The Fraud of Feminism, p.1-2]

In this post I am using a broad definition of censorship that includes blocking or excluding or misrepresenting people/groups or opinions that are at odds with all or part of the feminist narrative.

I should mention that it is not only anti-feminist perspectives that are censored, but also sometimes perspectives offered by men who identify as feminists, or by women who identify as (for example) equity feminists rather than gender feminists.

An example of feminist men being excluded can be seen in this article about a pro-abortion rally in Ireland where men in the audience were told to “know your place” and to remember that “this is a women’s movement“.

Personally, when I read material produced by feminists and see how they respond in online forums, my mind is drawn to the Credit Union Australia adverts shown on Australian TV. In those ads people block out information they don’t want to hear/consider by covering their ears and saying “la la la”. Except that feminists often substitute the la la la with somewhat saltier language.

What is happening is that any view that runs contrary to feminist ideology is branded misogynistic and hateful, and thus automatically unworthy of consideration. In my eyes, alternative viewpoints are not necessarily hateful. Sure they might cause hurt feelings, but that is part and parcel of debate in intelligent adult society.

Feminists say they are addressing both mens and womens issues, and will make the world a better place if we just stay the F**K away and let them do what they need to do. This is a nonsense. Has there been even a single policy change initiated or achieved by feminists that has had a tangible benefit for men collectively? (Cue: sound of crickets)

Good quote about feminism: “That’s what gets me about them — for thirty years, they screamed that slogan [make the personal, political] at the top of their lungs. And then, once men start turning to politics to make the personal political, they start hemming and hawing about whether or not this issue or that one is really a ‘mens’ issue. But somehow, everything on earth is a women’s issue.” (Source)

Let’s be quite clear that we are talking about censorship based on ideology and personal preferences here. I have no problem with moderators taking action against posts that are threatening, incoherent, or peppered with profanity.

So what then are some of the techniques commonly employed by feminists/SJW to isolate those putting forward alternative positions?

Blocking and/or removal of posts or readers comments in online blogs and mainstream media web sites

A major factor in motivating me to create this blog was the annoyance I experience when I’m continually thwarted upon trying to post my views in online fora, for example in blogs, discussion forums, and mainstream news sites like news.com.au.

This blocking or removal of dissenting posts is extremely prevalent in sites related to discussions of gender and feminism. It generally occurs when I, and others like me, put forward perspectives that conflict with cherished notions held by the (usually female feminist) author or moderator. These are people who are, more often than not, singularly unwilling to accommodate alternative positions. I lost track long ago of the number of times this has happened to me … examples here, here, here, here, and here … courteous posts that were either not uploaded, or uploaded but subsequently removed.

This September 2016 article about domestic violence by Rebecca Poulson is an example where readers comments were overwhelmingly critical of the author’s perspective. The author complained on social media of her comments thread being “hijacked”, with many of those comments subsequently being removed by the moderator.

I don’t mean to be pedantic but the use of the term “hijack” demonstrates the sense of entitlement shown by many feminist writers. The definition of this word entails illegal seizure (of an aircraft, ship, or vehicle for e.g.) whilst in transit, and the use of force to make it travel to a different destination. Readers offering their views is neither illegal nor does it involve force, and others are free at any time to offer their own views.

The following collection of reddit discussion threads detail moderator bias and censorship in relation to threads/posts concerning domestic violence and child abuse – See example 1, example 2, example 3, example 4, example 5 and example 6 (27 October 2014) Includes the following quote from a moderator responding to a query as to why a post was removed: “It needs to be the right information from the right people. Here’s a shorthand guide: if you are an MRA or TRP, you need not bother posting. If your information may tend to make women look bad, same.”

Let’s consider the experience of another who has had similar experiences:

M the Atheist wrote on 3 September 2013
“… I found a thread about rape and power and spent the time to read the post and all the comments, did not seem too hateful and had some reasonable stuff … I wrote a very reasonable and objective post about rape, power and rape culture (based on one of GWW’s videos). I included data, reason, personal experience and points from GWW’s video; and was surprised that it got posted …

I went back a few hours later to find that my post was removed; and I could not figure out why. I went through great pains to make it neuter, people inclusive, and posited GWW’s hypothesis in what I thought was a well mannered and calm, dispassionate way.

They had also posted and allowed to remain other males’ posts. So why not mine? I then realized that they only allow mens’ posts to remain if they can destroy them or if they are easily group-attacked.”

Something similar also happened to Australian TV personality David Koch when he sought to respond to an attack on him posted in a feminist web site. Another example here from the UK.

Regularly when I debate rape/domestic violence stats or related issues on newspaper websites I get deleted (26 May 2015) Reddit mensrights discussion thread

And why settle for having a single post or web page removed when you can have an entire site taken down? Major ‘Men’s Rights’ Site Shuts Down After Paypal, Amazon Bans (2 October 2018) (Re: ‘Roosh V’)

Reddit

With the exception of reddit/r/mensrights and a few others, there is a high probability that any post made that challenges the leftist or feminist narrative will quickly be made to disappear. It will either be removed by a moderator on their own volition or on the basis of the post being reported by users of the forum. This is not ‘tin-foil hat’ stuff, it happened to me as recently as this morning.

Two other common occurrences on Reddit, involving those making posts that challenge or question the prevailing feminist/SJW commentary, are:

  • Posts being removed from view to due to down-voting. The speed at which this occurs, plus the large number of votes cast, suggest that this is an organised strategy employed by like-minded activists.
  • Reddit users being banned from posting in particular forums for posting often remarkably benign comments or questions. Examples of this are provided in reddit/r/mensrights on an almost daily basis.

Reddit discussion thread comparing moderator behaviour in mensrights forum versus feminist-dominated forums
Ask feminists-get banned. Post different view-post removed (Reddit discussion thread, August 2014)

Facebook

The same trend is also very evident on Facebook. Many of my posts on the Facebook pages of domestic violence advocacy groups ‘The Foundation to Prevent Violence against women and their children‘ (now called ‘Our Watch‘), and Domestic Violence NSW, were removed and I have been blocked from making any further posts. Why? I thought feminism was meant to be inclusive.

Another common tactic employed by feminists on social media is to lodge reports, which may be exagerated or completely bogus, about Facebook pages maintained by others. They often do so in a co-ordinated manner with their friends/associates, with the aim of having the relevant pages suspended/removed. And in many cases they are successful.

It would be one thing if the administrators at Facebook were applying these rules and restrictions evenly across the board, but that is not the case. What is happening is that Facebook pages with a conservative or egalitarian or anti-feminist slant are being targetted. Meanwhile a blind eye is being turned to questionable content within pages with a leftist/liberal/SJW or feminist slant.

There are further examples and discussion of this trend in articles listed later, in addition to the following:

Feminists take down AFA Facebook page with 70,000 fans (30 June 2017)
Men’s rights Facebook page, A Voice for Men, removed on day of annual conference (10 July 2016)
Facebook removes A Voice for Men’s page (11 April 2016)
York feminists admit ‘censoring free speech’ in Facebook group (23 October 2014)
Feminists post how-to guide on taking down Facebook pages with false reports

Twitter

Developments on Facebook have helped drive many people, both those with anti-feminist/SJW views and trolls alike, across to Twitter where until recently there was a relatively unimpeded flow of ideas and information. Things are now also tightening up there also, both in terms of actions taken by Twitter staff and other users. For an example of the former, google search to see how Twitter have pursued MRA and anti-feminists such as Milo Yiannopoulos. More recently Twitter has introduced tools to enable greater censorship (see here and here).

Many feminists/SJW not only block those that they encounter, but also make use of shared block-lists. Clementine Ford, for example, blocks 133,000 Twitter accounts and invites other feminists to use her list.

Another Australian feminist, Van Badham, revels in her ability to block in this 2019 article.

This means that a Twitter user can find him/herself blocked from another user’s stream even when they have never had contact with that particular person or group. In some cases this may occur simply because your account was red-flagged due to others that you follow.

I have lost count of the number of times I have been blocked –  Here are two examples:

In my first example a feminist journalist by the name of Lindy West blocked me. I don’t know Lindy from a bar of soap, but apparently she considers my views on anything/everything to be unacceptable. Really Lindy? As one cheeky reader commented in response to this article, perhaps you’d be better off blocking Twinkies instead.

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At least in my second example I actually had some contact with the blocker (Tara Moss) before the hammer fell. That single solitary tweet is shown below:

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Worse still, such arrogant dismissal of alternative views is now spreading to publicly-funded femocrats in the Australian public service.

There are further examples and discussion of this trend in articles listed later, in addition to the following:

DESPERATE: Twitter Now Trying To Quarantine Alt-Right After Failure To Destroy It (29 August 2016)
Milo exposes ‘damaged girl’ Clementine Ford (2 August 2016)
Twitter Bans Conservative Blogger, “Kill Trump” Account Still Active 6 Months Later (22 February 2016)
How authoritarian activists are censoring Twitter (10 April 2015)
Twitter is censoring accounts before a single tweet goes out (12 November 2014)
Twitter to be policed by feminist group (10 November 2014) and a related comment by Cathy Young (21 November 2014)

Lobbying against planned events by anti-feminists or men’s rights advocates and/or disrupting events whilst they are underway

In what is becoming a popular strategy to prevent opposing views being heard, feminists are setting off fire alarms at venues hosting MHRA or anti-feminists speakers. If you want to get some idea of how widespread this form of nuisance ‘activism’ is becoming then google on the words ‘feminist protesters pull fire alarm’. Go ahead – you can start by reading this and this. And only recently feminist protestors disrupted a presentation by CAFE.

See also:

Christina Hoff Sommers debated Roxane Gay in Sydney & Melbourne in late March 2019. Refer this article and linked Twitter stream for now, whilst I try to locate a better review (oh and here’s a SMH offering with reader’s comments). Apparently Gay’s leftist supporters focussed on disrupting the event rather than letting an actual debate take place.

Senator Stoker targets Sydney Uni’s handling of the demo against Bettina Arndt (26 October 2018) Video. There is no “crisis” … so expect little/no action from Australian universities and/or relevant gov’t agencies.

A University of Texas function in support of Brett Kavanaugh is disrupted by an unhappy leftist (October 2018) Video

Why Do Feminists Protest Men’s Rights Events? (20 November 2017) Video, with related Reddit discussion thread here.

Protesters clash, one arrested, outside The Red Pill screening (11 May 2017) University of Sydney, Australia

Wellesley College Professors Say Offensive Speakers Like Laura Kipnis ‘Harm’ Students and Shouldn’t Be Invited (22 March 2017) USA

Bucknell Professor threatens his conservative students (13 February 2017) Video

UC Berkeley cancels Milo Yiannopoulos event amid violent protest (1 February 2017) USA with further details in this article

MILO UC Davis Event Cancelled After Leftists Tear Down Barricades, Engage In Violence (13 January 2017) USA

UC Berkeley Extremists Dox Student MILO Event Hosts, Post Personal Details & Workplace Address (12 January 2017) USA

Leftist protestors disrupt Shapiro lecture screaming About Swastikas, Booed Out of Event (17 November 2016)

Columbia U. Students Tear Down Posters Advertising Christina Hoff Sommers Visit (22 October 2016)

Feminists remove flyers advertising an “offensive” talk by Christina Hoff Sommers, claim that their vandalism is “freedom of speech” (1 October 2016)

Milo Yiannopoulos at Depaul: Chicago Shutdown #2 (26 May 2016) USA
Rutgers students protest journalist Milo Yiannopoulos’s visit to campus (10 February 2016) USA with related reddit discussion thread here
See the articles in this other post, regarding actions taken by York University (UK) in November 2015 to stop discussion of male issues on International Men’s Day
Masked feminists pull fire alarm yet again at men’s equality lecture in Ottawa, get kicked out by police (6 October 2015) Reddit discussion thread with linked video.
Speaker shouted down at Portland State (13 May 2014)

Uninviting, heckling and/or ejecting non-feminists or anti-feminists attending feminist events

Bristol University Feminist Society seeks to ban anti-feminist speaker (7 November 2015) Video
Uninvited (22 October 2015) Suzanne Venker uninvited as speaker at Williams College
Breitbart editor ejected from Amber Rose Slutwalk by police (3 October 2015)
Female Group Ejected From Comic Expo For Criticizing Feminism (18 April 2015)

The term ‘anti-democratic’ is way too insipid to describe this pattern of behaviour. This is something more negative, much darker and more pervasive, and which all but precludes any meaningful dialogue. Indeed the direction in which this is already heading is that any comments that are deemed to be anti-feminist and/or sexist will be made illegal on the grounds of combating hate-speech (example). Opposing this trend, at least for those that have the means to take legal action, is legal precedent such as this.

A curious aspect of feminist censorship is that one of its key functions is to block open debate of their own issues. Even the noisiest feminists only want to be heard when they can control the ‘dialogue’. Otherwise … well this challenge by Milo Yiannopolous to Anita Sarkeesian (thus far) illustrates what shrinking violets even high-profile feminists can be when someone else seizes the initiative. Mike Buchanan’s web site features many examples of his own unacknowledged public challenges to feminists to debate significant issues.

Feminists don’t want to debate issues or engage with their opponents, they want to neutralise them by almost any means necessary. What follows is a brief extract from Rules for Radicalsas cited in a blog post by Anne Althouse:

“Pick the target, freeze it, personalize it, and polarize it. Cut off the support network and isolate the target from sympathy. Go after people and not institutions; people hurt faster than institutions. (This is cruel, but very effective. Direct, personalized criticism and ridicule works.)”

Some articles on the general issue of the gradual death of free speech and/or the unwillingness of the liberal left to engage constructively

Inside the near meltdown of Roxane Gay and Christina Hoff Sommers’s Australian tour. The conversation series didn’t work out as planned (April 2019)

The Counterproductive Suppression of Heterodox Views on Race (10 September 2018)

A chilling study shows how hostile college students are toward free speech (18 September 2017)

Pro-feminist web site ‘Vice’ blocks archiving of their pages (4 July 2017) Caught out too many times publishing false/misleading ‘information’, so prefer to hit and run (& hide the evidence)?

Ayaan Hirsi Ali and the cultural erosion of free speech (5 April 2017)

Camille Paglia: Women Aren’t Free Until Speech Is (21 March 2017)

Campus censorship ratchets up, by Matthew Lesh (16 March 2017)

The left’s sickening superiority complex, by Corrine Barraclough (18 February 2017)

American colleges are approaching a constitutional crisis (28 December 2016)

Liberal minds have snapped shut like clams, by Janice Turner (26 November 2016) UK

Milo interviewed by the BBC (30 October 2016) UK. Video

Jonathan Pie tells the people of the left why Donald Trump won (10 November 2016) Video. A CLASSIC

A university professor speaks out (7 October 2016)

Polite disagreement is now “Hate Speech”, by Andrew Bolt (1 October 2016)

Two good articles in The Australian on 24/25 September 2016 (if you can get behind the paywall): ‘What more in the name of love?‘ by David Crowe, and ‘Straight-out hate in politics of identity‘ by Brendan O’Neill. Neither article specifically mentions feminists, yet very accurately describe their tactics.

CNN’s Sally Kohn: It’s ‘good’ if conservatives feel unable to speak on campus (17 September 2016)

Free speech and the media are too often in a marriage of convenience (12 September 2016) Author unsurprisingly neglects to mention that leftists/feminists are probably the worst offenders with regards to this form of bias.

Sydney University accused of bias after lecturers likened conservative politicians to Nazis (22 August 2016) Australia

Why we need to hear what controversial people say and not silence the debate (21 July 2016) Australia. This article appeared in The Conversation, normally a soapbox for SJW/feminists, so no surprise they pulled this article from the front page of their web site in haste.

Rita Panahi says we’re paying a vicious price for free speech (19 July 2016)

Why today’s young women are just so FEEBLE: They can’t cope with ANY ideas that challenge their right-on view of the world, says a top academic (9 June 2016)

Free speech: Under attack (4 June 2016)

Bomb threat ends Milo Yiannopoulos event at UCLA (1 June 2016)

UMass Amherst students throw temper tantrum at free speech event (26 April 2016) USA

Judge Jeanine: The Left Will ‘Stop at Nothing to Prevent Free Speech’ (13 March 2016) USA

Practices such as no-platforming threaten to strangle the roots of freedom (3 March 2016) UK

Guardian closes comments on three topics (1 February 2016)

Online Censorship Website catalogues Censorship Across Social Media (24 December 2015)

When Society Encourages Mean Girls to Bully Boys (26 November 2015)

Prof Greets Incoming Class of Precious Snowflakes with Speech Crushing Their PC Beliefs (5 November 2015) USA

Feminists redefine free speech: “free speech is the right to EDUCATED speech … if you are not involved in being an EDUCATED citizen, you have no right to free speech” and related reddit discussion thread

The Left’s War on Comments sections (27 October 2015)

Free speech is flunking out on college campuses (22 October 2015)

The Anti-Free-Speech Movement at UCLA (15 October 2015) USA

Rise of the Cultural Libertarians (24 August 2015)

Blurred Lines: The Humanitarian Threat to Free Speech (25 June 2015)

Our generation did not invent political correctness, but we can fight it (20 March 2015)

The state of free speech on campus (UK) A Spiked project

Michael Kennedy and John Carpay: Fighting for free speech on campus (2 December 2014)

Freedom of speech on campus is under attack (29 September 2014)

The new conversation: Everyone is talking but is anyone listening?

“Labels are important tools in identifying socio-cultural problems. Privilege exists. Shaming exists. But when we adopt labels, project them onto others, or create new ones, we sometimes take broad social concepts and individualize them. We use labels to silence those who don’t agree with us, which keeps us from engaging in open, honest conversations. Many people with legitimate opinions and solid ideas are afraid to participate because they are afraid they might say the wrong thing, or say the right thing in the wrong way. When people are silenced, the conversation suffers.”

Similar to the above article is this one entitled ‘“No Platform” was once reserved for violent fascists. Now it’s being used to silence debate‘ (18 March 2014) with other good articles on the same topic at ‘The slow death of free speech‘ (19 April 2014) and ‘Free speech withers when we abandon judgement …‘ (21 April 2014)

This other blog post about George Will is also highly relevant to this topic.

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Articles/videos specifically about feminists, and their allies, stifling open discussion of gender issues

“The Google employee behind a ten-page viewpoint diversity manifesto that went viral online has been fired.
James Damore, whose manifesto criticizing the politically correct corporate culture at Google prompted outrage from left-wing employees and social justice warriors online, revealed that he had been fired” (Source) More at:

‘Google Fires Engineer Who Wrote Memo Questioning Women in Tech’ and ‘The Google Memo: Four Scientists Respond‘ (7 August 2017)

Well met, Professor Sullivan (13 March 2017) Video with Karen Straughan

To Milo or not to Milo? (21 February 2017) How the left neutralised a very annoying thorn  in their side. A story rich in hypocrisy given what various feminists/SJW have previously said & done & walked away from without penalty.

7 questions to ask yourself before you leave that comment, by Clem Bastow (7 September 2016) Good comment from reader ‘laborite’

I wish men were as interested in discussing gender issues as women are, by Sonia Orchard (1 September 2016) The outrageous naivity and/or hypocrisy of a feminist asking “Why aren’t men discussing how they’re feeling?

Anti-feminism: The new heresy (17 August 2016) Reddit discussion thread and linked article

Feminist moderator tell guy to STFU re: his views on how men/women portrayed in the media (August 2016)

The irony of feminist censorship (7 August 2016)

UC Irvine suspends college republicans for a year following Milo event (21 June 2016)

Women’s “Equality” Party deletes/disables all comments and ratings for it’s hateful London elections video therefore opposing both freedom of speech AND democracy (26 April 2016)

Being blocked is not the same as being censored, by Clementine Ford (8 April 2016)

Truth wins, Feminists lose (25 January 2016) Canada

Lock Him Up! Feminists Call To Put Milo Yiannopoulos Behind Bars (17 January 2016) UK

Breitbart’s Milo Yiannopoulos: Progressives Shutting Down Discussion by Calling It Harassment (8 January 2016)

From Liberation to Censorship: Does Modern Feminism Have a Problem with Free Speech? (19 December 2015) Video

Clementine Ford tries to silence men (6 December 2015) Video

Censorship for thee, but not for me: the feminist battle cry (1 December 2015)

Domestic violence and the demonization of men, by Bettina Arndt (14 November 2015) Australia

Why is it so deeply aggravating to find moderators deleting moderate comments? (6 November 2015) Reddit discussion thread

Philip Davies MP: ‘Political correctness is damaging men’ (2 November 2015) UK

Archetypal mangina David Futrelle seeks to undermine credibility of film-maker Cassie Jaye because she dared to produce a fair-minded representation of the men’s rights movement. See here, here and here for example

Woman’s Hour: Feminists complain about feminist censorship (4 October 2015)

Why are we so afraid of an anti-abortion activist? (3 October 2015) Australia

Not all comments are created equal: the case for ending online comments, by Jessica Valenti (10 September 2015)

Chrissie Hynde was right about rape. Now feminists want to silence her (31 August 2015)

In this June 2015 paper the One in Three advocacy group recounts the bias and antagonism that they faced whilst contributing to the Australian Senate Inquiry into Domestic Violence

How fainting couch feminism threatens freedom, by Christina H. Sommers (22 June 2015) Video

Nobel Prize-winning scientist, Tim Hunt, says he was forced to resign (15 June 2015) with good follow-up articles here and here.

Why Do Feminists Cook Up Stories About ‘Misogyny’ When They Lose Debates? (11 June 2015)

Georgetown University demands College Republicans edit video showing angry feminist protesters (27 April 2015)

Man arrested twice over a Twitter spat with a cabal of feminists (16 April 2015)

Feminist strategy: containing the non-feminist breakout (23 March 2015)

In college and hiding from scary ideas (21 March 2015) and related mensrights discussion thread

Karen Straughan on why feminists must suppress our voices (17 March 2015)

Columbia student newspaper disables sexual assault comments, while picking and choosing opinions published – Reddit discussion thread and linked article

5 Examples of feminist censorship that will make you rethink online bullying (9 December 2014)

The destructive nature of “It happens to men too!” (21 November 2014)

One of BBC’S Top 100 Women in foul-mouthed attack on ‘InsideMan’ magazine  (21 November 2014)

Liberal Feminists, Stop Smearing Critics As Rape Apologists (17 November 2014)

Hungarian non-feminist online magazine censored at a blogging competition (15 November 2014)

KSU YESBody raises funds to protest KSUM conference (9 October 2014) Persecution and censorship of the activities of a male students group on USA campus

Another story the Good Men Project didn’t want you to see (15 October 2014)

Feminist hysteria is causing the infantilization of women (9 October 2014)

Feminist Laci Green is trying to censor Youtube without consent (27 September 2014)

The Politics of Denunciation (20 February 2014)

Article by Bill Frezza entitled ‘Drunk Female Guests Are The Gravest Threat To Fraternities’ pulled from Forbes. Reddit discussion and linked cached copy of article (24 September 2014) Further commentary here.

BBC ‘Men are raised to hate women’ (7 August 2013)

Comments removed from the recent Anita Sarkeesian article in The Conversation (23 September 2014)

Janet Bloomfield’s Twitter account blocked – again (9 September 2014) and then Thunder00t’s Twitter account also cancelled (16 September 2014)

‘Erasing Dad’ – A documentary being censored by feminists (Reddit discussion thread, August 2014)

Protesters fail to shut down men’s issue lecture, but celebrate anyway (11 August 2014)

Moderation rates above 10% on gender topics (10 August 2014) Reddit discussion thread

Here is an article with many readers comments about moderation at the Guardian web site (11 August 2014)

Christie Blatchford: The Twitter trial of Gregory Elliot (23 July 2014)

The many fabricated enemies of feminism (22 July 2014)

Form a posse men … There’s wimmin need rescuing … Giddy up! (11 January 2014)

Why men don’t get a say in feminism (6 June 2014)

Time to take on the feminist bullies (7 July 2014)

Dear men, STFU (30 May 2014)

http://www.avoiceformen.com/feminism/janice-fiamengo-justin-trottier-on-the-agenda/ and Barbara Kay: A new Salon des Refuses (21 May 2014)

If this is the new women’s movement, it’s no wonder girls don’t want to call themselves ‘feminists’

http://blog.studiobrule.com/2014/04/old-guys-are-not-welcome-at-queens.html with a follow-up post here

http://www.sunnewsnetwork.ca/video/featured/prime-time/867432237001/campus-speech-bullies/3419582098001

http://therightsofman.typepad.co.uk/the_rights_of_man/2013/03/now-official-o2-and-symantec-believe-helping-male-victims-of-domestic-violence-and-sex-abuse-is-hate.html

http://therightsofman.typepad.co.uk/the_rights_of_man/2013/02/the-48-mens-human-rights-sites-feminists-seek-to-censor.html

http://www.mindingthecampus.com/forum/2014/03/disinvitation_season_begins_on.html

http://www.dailylife.com.au/news-and-views/news-features/belgium-to-ban-sexist-comments-20140317-34w68.html

http://femalefedupwithfeminism.wordpress.com/2014/03/08/some-thoughts-on-feminists-shutting-down-those-who-dare-to-disagree/

http://underthegoddess.blogspot.com.au/2014/03/why-challenge-to-violence-against-women_26.html?utm_source=dlvr.it&utm_medium=twitter

http://www.avoiceformen.com/education/equity-without-equity-universities-love-hate-relationship-with-men/

http://mankindglobalmedia.blogspot.com.au/2014/02/video-lesley-stahl-learns-gender.html?spref=tw (On feminist censorship in the scientific community)

And now to close with something a little different, this April 2015 article in The Guardian claims that men post far more comments online (think news and current affairs web sites), and that this has the effect of “silencing” women. The author also claims, amongst other things, that many women are posting online using male names for “protection“. Firstly this begs the questions how could he know how many of those posting were men/women. Secondly it would be counter-productive to assume a male name for this reason when surveys show that men attract significantly more online abuse/harassment than do women. But the best bit is that the moderator removed my comment. They didn’t even leave the usual “Your comment was removed” message. They silenced me!

“The anarchist Bob Black predicted back in 1982 that feminism would eventually become a totalitarian movement to rival history’s most oppressive tyrannies. Most people find this idea absurd due to gynocentrism, “women are wonderful” and neoteny (and frankly, male vanity). However Black made the point that feminism — since its arguments are completely illogical and do not stand up to scrutiny — could not maintain power except through censorship.

Feminists are attempting to turn all of society into a “safe space” for feminists (not women, not children, certainly not men, just feminists). That includes cyberspace. As more and more people debunk feminist ideology online, calls will grow to “end online misogyny,” with predictable results. There is already a huge chilling effect underway.” (Source)

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Not all feminists are like that (NAFALT)

In this post I want to address two related issues. The first is the standard feminist cop-out when publicly confronted with some truly egregious comment or action by a self-identified feminist. That default response is to assert that the feminist in question is some sort of outlier or crank, and not representative of feminists generally, viz. “yes, but, not all feminists are like that!”.

Of course it is damning of feminism as a movement that the ‘real’ feminists never seem to criticize the ‘bad’ ones. In fact it seems to me that the only women or girls that feminists ever criticize are the ones who are openly critical of some or all aspects of feminism.

A related feminist concoction arises in the form of the term ‘straw feminist‘,  as used to describe (what feminists claim to be) an evil and inaccurate caricature of a feminist invented and used by MRA to denigrate the feminist cause. What an insult to our intelligence … why would we need to invent such a person when we can see and hear them with our very own eyes?! Denial on a grand scale or simply ignorant of reality?

See also:

Suzanne Moore: Why I was wrong about men (5 September 2016) Another hater. Related Reddit discussion thread here.

I’m Sick of Having to Reassure Men That Feminism Isn’t About Hating Them (9 August 2016)

“Nice” feminism: How a hate movement uses its grassroots against men, by Hannah Wallen (4 June 2016) Recommended reading

Everybody Hates @PennyRed (And Really, How Can You Blame Them?) (22 March 2016)

Why Do People Hate #Feminism? #8 – Yes All Feminists, by Sargon of Akkad (8 March 2016) Video

Feminists don’t hate men? (5 March 2016) Video response to a male feminist

Conservative Feminism, by Nina Silander (19 August 2015)

Guardian Columnist Julie Bindel Says Put All Males ‘In Some Kind of Camp’ (6 September 2015)

5 Feminists Who Will Completely Amaze You (14 May 2015)

Not all feminists are like that‘, a video by John the Other

An open letter to feminists: “What are you doing about it?”(25 January 2015)

Sex trouble: Radical feminism and the long shadow of the ‘Lavender Menace’ (14 July 2014)

“Nice” feminists: How a hate movement uses its grassroots against men, by Hannah Wallen (10 February 2014)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AQWoNhrY_fM (by GirlWritesWhat)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h6qg8Up3PnU (by A Voice for Men/John the Other)

http://www.genderratic.com/p/3300/misandry-nalt-and-nafalt-and-how-feminists-can-rebut-the-charge-that-they-are-all-man-haters/

http://reyekomra.wordpress.com/2013/06/23/the-national-organization-for-women/

http://breakingtheglasses.blogspot.com.au/2013/04/yes-all-feminists-are-like-that.html#.U0oDOlWSySo

http://www.reasonobeysitself.com/blog/feminism/on-not-all-feminists-are-like-that/

http://www.reasonobeysitself.com/blog/?page_id=1531

http://it-goes-both-ways.tumblr.com/post/56899376763/not-all-feminists-are-like-that-johntheother

http://www.avoiceformen.com/feminism/not-all-feminists-are-like-that-3/

http://www.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/22w99g/feminism_is_a_popular_institution_for_which_all/?utm_source=twitterfeed&utm_medium=twitter

See also this reddit discussion: http://www.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/23a4p2/an_example_of_feminism_done_right/?utm_source=twitterfeed&utm_medium=twitter

The flip side: Not all men are like that Once again, some great insights amongst the readers comments at the end of the article

Take the test: Feminist shenanigans or satire? (30 April 2014)

The second thing I want to do in this post is to profile some feminists who really ARE not like that. These are people who do support equality, and are on the same page with many of the issues of concern to MHRA. It must also be recognised that many of those now active in the Mens Human Rights movement were formerly feminists but crossed over upon realising the flaws and hypocrisy of both feminist doctrine and feminist activism. An excellent example of such a person is Warren Farrell, the author of the seminal work ‘The Myth of Male Power‘. 

Another example of a feminist who saw value in the message of the Mens Human Rights Movement is provided in this video interview

Doris Lessing (See also http://www.theguardian.com/uk/2001/aug/14/edinburghfestival2001.edinburghbookfestival2001)

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Christina Hoff Sommers is an American author and former philosophy professor who is known for her critique of late 20th century feminism, and her writings about feminism in contemporary American culture. Her most widely discussed books are Who Stole Feminism? How Women Have Betrayed Women and The War Against Boys: How Misguided Feminism Is Harming Our Young Men. Although her critics refer to her as anti-feminist, Sommers thinks of herself as an equity feminist who faults contemporary feminism for “its irrational hostility to men, its recklessness with facts and statistics, and its inability to take seriously the possibility that the sexes are equal – but different.”

“The orthodox feminists are so carried away with victimology, with a rhetoric of male-bashing that it’s full of female chauvinists, if you will. Also, women are quite eager to censor, to silence. And what concerns me most as a philosopher is it’s become very anti-intellectual, and I think it poses a serious risk to young women in the universities. Women’s studies classes are increasingly a kind of initiation into the most radical wing, the most intolerant wing, of the feminist movement.”

Christina Hoff Sommers is mentioned in this article: http://masculistfeminist.hubpages.com/hub/Is-Antifeminism-Useful-For-Mens-Rights-Mostly-Yes-Sometimes-No

http://www.avoiceformen.com/feminism/why-still-a-feminist-a-question-for-christina-hoff-sommers/ (16 June 2014)

And here is Christina is in an interview and profiled in a more recent article (13 April 2015)

Camille Paglia, who was recently asked “what’s wrong with American feminism today, and what can it do to improve?“, to which she replied:

“After the great victory won by my insurgent, pro-sex, pro-fashion wing of feminism in the 1990s, American and British feminism has amazingly collapsed backward again into whining, narcissistic victimology. As in the hoary old days of Gloria Steinem and her Stalinist cohorts, we are endlessly subjected to the hackneyed scenario of history as a toxic wasteland of vicious male oppression and gruesome female suffering.

College campuses are hysterically portrayed as rape extravaganzas where women are helpless fluffs with no control over their own choices and behavior. I am an equal opportunity feminist: that is, I call for the removal of all barriers to women’s advance in the professional and political realms. However, I oppose special protections for women, which I reject as demeaning and infantilizing.

My principal demand (as I have been repeating for nearly 25 years) is for colleges to confine themselves to education and to cease their tyrannical surveillance of students’ social lives. If a real crime is committed, it must be reported to the police. College officials and committees have neither the expertise nor the legal right to be conducting investigations into he said/she said campus dating fiascos. Too many of today’s young feminists seem to want hovering, paternalistic authority figures to protect and soothe them, an attitude I regard as servile, reactionary and glaringly bourgeois. The world can never be made totally safe for anyone, male or female: there will always be sociopaths and psychotics impervious to social controls. I call my system “street-smart feminism”:  there is no substitute for wary vigilance and personal responsibility.” (Source)

Karen DeCrow (1937-2014)

http://www.avoiceformen.com/mens-rights/a-karen-decrow-appreciation/

http://m.theatlantic.com/politics/archive/2014/06/the-now-president-who-became-a-mens-rights-activist/372742/

toolateSome other relevant posts within this blog:

About feminism & how it’s not about hating men
On the censorship of non-feminist perspectives and opinions
Beware the ire of an angry feminist
If feminists have a genuine case then what’s with all the distortion, lies and exaggeration?

On the issue of traveller safety

The issue of traveller safety encompasses many topics such as sexual assault, robbery and scams, motor vehicle accidents, food poisoning, STD’s, animal bites, etc. Within the mainstream and online media however most attention is directed to sexual assault, and most media coverage of traveller safety focuses on threats to the personal safety of women. It’s as if males are immune from muggings, drink spiking, motor vehicle accidents, etc, or are deemed  to be incapable of benefiting from advice.

Nevertheless, out in the real world, males are just as vulnerable to these threats as are females. No one questions that women are deserving of support and advice in relation to the issue of traveller safety. But it would appear that men being men, well you know, they should just suck it up. Or something.

Actually I just read a post in a feminist blog that informed me that men don’t need this sort of advice because men “can look after themselves“. Well to the extent that men *can* look after themselves whilst travelling, they do so chiefly by following the same sort of advice that they offer to women (and then get called victim-blamers!). Funny thing that.

Aside from feminist bias I can’t think of a logical reason why journalists persist in compartmentalising, along gender lines, their coverage of this issue … that is unless the goal is simply to perpetuate a myth of eternal victimhood.

And so it is that much of the online discussion of traveller safety is devoted to women railing against the injustice of being unable  to dress like a hooker – according to local mores – without getting approached with offers of work.  Oh, wait, perhaps the patriarchy made them do it? Just what is the big deal about briefly modifying one’s normal fashion style? Those people promulgating this crazy notion of polite compromise as being akin to outright capitulation, have a lot to answer for.

Guys, on the other hand, seem to be able to enjoy their holidays just fine without the need to show off their butt cheeks whilst shopping in the market.

No, no-one deserves to be harassed or raped. In an ideal world we could wear whatever we chose, and go where-ever we wanted at any time of the day or night, without attracting judgement or a violent response. 

But it’s not an ideal world, and it is foolish to ignore patterns of behaviour correlated to higher levels of threat, in favour of feel-good public rituals and esoteric babbling about the need to “educate” men and boys. Sounds a lot like comfortable insulated upper middle-class delusion to me. The criminal underbelly of society, along with the mentally ill, naughty boys (and girls!) one and all. They just need a good talking to, and a couple of good Powerpoint presentations should do the trick.

Christian schools have been teaching the “do not steal” lesson for a couple of thousand years now, and we still seem to have a bit of a problem with theft. I am not saying that there is no place for education, but I sure wouldn’t be relying on it as the biggest stick in my armoury.

Oh, but heaven help any man who attempts to join the discussion and helpfully suggest tips like “don’t get drunk or take drugs”, “dress conservatively” or “don’t walk alone at night”, for they are immediately labelled victim-blamers and rape-apologists!

This theme, that the behaviour of women never causes nor contributes to the problems they encounter or anything bad that happens to them, is a feminist mainstay. And dare you suggest otherwise then you are the bad guy, even if you really don’t think you are … because your mind has been corrupted by “cognitive bias’ and ‘systemic sexism’. Move over Scientology!

An example of a recent article about traveller safety that demonstrates this narrow fem-focus can be seen at http://www.chiangmainews.com/ecmn/viewfa.php?id=3795

An alternative position is provided by this article – http://matadornetwork.com/change/travel-safety-is-not-a-gendered-issue/

Did you know that some airlines have a policy of not seating unaccompanied minors travelling on airplanes next to men? I guess that haven’t read my post about female kiddy-fiddlers.

Airline discrimination table
http://mensrightsmelbourne.com/2014/03/24/sydney-fireman-john-mcgirr-accuses-virgin-of-discrimination/
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Airline_sex_discrimination_policy_controversy

And so in April 2014 a Australian feminist journalist by the name of Tracey Spicer wrote an article about how she didn’t want her children sat next to men on flights – see the article and related discussions here and here. This article in a feminist web site contributes nothing to the debate but there are some interesting points buried amongst the readers comments.

Yet despite the fact that men on planes are a cause for concern, on account of them probably being perverts and all, these men stepped in to help the flight attendants when help was needed.

Oh, but I love this article, it contrasts feminists silence about men being required to sit away from unaccompanied children, with the requests of ultra-orthodox Jewish men to be sat away from women.

On a positive note, in July 2014 an article by Amanda Blair entitled ‘We’ve become too paranoid about men in the company of children‘ highlighted the way many people assumed the worst when men were observed in proximity to children in playgrounds, shopping centres, etc. This UK newspaper article addresses the same issue, as does this item.

This blog post discusses an article by Wendy Tuohy on the same topic, but which in this case drips with hypocrisy bearing in mind the pronounced feminist bias of her prior repertoire of articles and offerings on social media.

This family-oriented tourist attraction in England has taken the step of banning unaccompanied adults from entering, though I suspect that unaccompanied women would not encounter a problem.

 See also:

Drunk flyer kicked off plane, arrested for disgusting act (18 February 2019)

Women-only plane seating needed to combat sexual assault and midair ‘manspread’ (7 December 2018)

Air India starts selling seats in female-only section (17 January 2017)

Angry woman slaps airport worker in London after missing her budget flight with Ryanair (13 January 2017) UK

Businessman tests airline on gender discrimination by saying he can’t sit near men (25 October 2016)

Women-only train carriages? What a ridiculously regressive idea (4 May 2016) Australia. Pro-feminist article attracting more that 1,200 comments

City of Perth trials pink ‘female-friendly’ safe bays with better security (13 April 2016) Australia

Women-only ‘pink carriages’ idea for Aussie trains causes controversy (5 April 2016) and ‘Pink carriages’ for women only draws fire from feminists and commuters

Travel advice: Five places that women shouldn’t travel to (3 December 2014) The focus of this article appears to be mainly ideological dangers. In such places one might catch sexism from a seat in a bus.

On false accusations by women against men/boys

This post mainly deals with false accusations or allegations by women in relation to sexual harassment, sexual assault, and domestic violence.

False allegations in relation to online harassment are dealt with in this post. False allegations in relation to paternity fraud are dealt with in this post.

One of the common false claims made by feminists is that men’s rights activists assert that most women who claim to have been raped are lying. Personally I have never seen or heard this statement made by any MHRA. What is often stated however is that there are substantial and unacceptably high numbers of women making false rape accusations, and that this problem should be acknowledged and treated seriously (including charging the false accuser where appropriate).

Being the subject of a false accusation of sexual assault can be, and often is, a traumatic and life-changing experience for anyone. False rape allegations also minimise and demean the suffering and the credibility of victims of actual rape.

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Let’s start with the Wikipedia entry for false rape allegations, which extracts data from many different studies. This highlights the practical difficulty in differentiating between false rape allegations, unproven allegations, and ‘not guilty’ verdicts for example. It does however refute the suggestion made by many feminists that false allegations are either non-existent or absolutely negligible.

Here in Australia I came across the following information:

“A Victorian study, which analysed 850 rapes reported to the police over the period 2000–03, found that only 2.1% of reports were designated as false by the police. In these cases, the alleged victim was either charged or told that she would be charged unless she dropped the complaint. While this only represents a fraction of the sample, there was a much larger proportion of cases where police were confident, or reasonably confident, that the allegations were false, but there was no attempt to institute charges against the alleged victim.” (Source here and related reddit discussion thread here)

This article ‘How often do women falsely cry rape?’ gives quite a fair and balanced intro to the issue and can be read in conjunction with the Wiki entry cited above. Further recommended reading:

‘Dangerous rape myths: Part 1 / Part 2′ by Hannah Wallen (13 December 2014)
13 reasons women lie about rape‘ by Janet Bloomfield (10 December 2014)
Ten reasons why false rape accusation are common‘ by Jonathan Taylor (1 August 2014)

A further summary of the false abuse and rape allegation literature can be found in a 2013 book by Phillip Cook and Tammy Hodo titled ‘When Women Sexually Abuse Men‘. While statistics in this literature are problematic, Cook and Hodo report four studies that found false allegation rates of 62 percent, 41 percent, 50 percent, and 60 percent.

How and why do women falsely claim to have been sexually assaulted? There are a number of factors underlying the false rape phenomenon, starting with the widespread and exaggerated picture of men as persistent and unrepentant aggressors.

This article mentions women who claimed to have been sexually assaulted after their drink was spiked, yet in almost all cases were not found to have any drugs in their system. (See also this discussion thread). This video provides a detailed analysis of the issue. I’s suggest that it’s highly likely however that there are in fact far more instances of drink-spiking by women – with the intention of theft (example here).

It might well be that many women are exercising bad judgement and then, rather than accepting accountability for what subsequently occurred, look about for someone or something to put the blame on. Were this be indicative of a broader trend re: women’s propensity to shift blame, clearly there is considerable potential for false rape allegations to occur.

The damage to young men who are falsely accused is further magnified via the growing number of university campuses that run kangaroo courts (quite separate from the judicial system) to punish those accused of rape.

Some of the wording used in this article caught my attention:

“We have concluded that we cannot go forward with prosecution because there is not a reasonable likelihood of conviction at trial,” said Senior Charging Attorney Jane Nicoletti-Jones. “In (this case), the statements of a witness other than the suspect or alleged victim were an important part of our decision.”
Although officials declined to comment on this case specifically, it illustrates some of the hurdles that accusers and their advocates face when filing sexual assault complaints.” (my emphasis added)

In this case a witness or witnesses cast doubt on the accuracy of the rape accusation, but in this feminist journalists eyes such eyewitness statements are merely “hurdles”. Who cares about the truth or justice anyway … we just need to get those rapists men in jail.

See also http://falserapesociety.blogspot.com.au/2010/06/orlando-false-rape-epidemic.html

Whilst false accusations are only one of several factors contributing to false imprisonment, it’s worth mentioning that 99% of the prisoners exonerated due to the efforts of the Innocence Project were male, and that more than half of them were initially found guilty of rape.

The list of links below concern specific cases involving false allegations against men by women (and in some cases by women against other women). Such reports now appear in the media on virtually a daily basis. As a consequence many further cases can be readily sourced via online searches. Scroll down the page for sources providing a general discussion of this topic.

She Falsely Accused Two Police Officers Of Rape. She Was Sentenced To Just 23 Months in Jail (13 July 2019) USA

Arkansas woman must register as sex offender after she tried to frame her husband for rape and child porn possession (4 July 2019) USA

Taxi driver framed for rape now scared to carry females (26 June 2019)

Caitlin Gray, 20, in court after accusing good Samaritan of indecent assault, stalking (25 June 2019) Australia

‘We believe you’ – watch this YouTube video (18 May 2019)

She Didn’t Get An ‘A’ So She Accused Professor Of Sexual Harassment. Then She Held Ex At Knifepoint To Destroy Evidence (14 May 2019) USA

‘Jared’ and ‘Kate’: A false-allegation #MeToo saga that police and prosecutors got right, by Diana Davison (25 April 2019) USA

‘Divorce and the Silver Bullet’, by James C. Coren (16 April 2019)

Ian Mulgrew: Father seeks justice after son’s abduction (7 April 2019)

The Daniel Jones story appeared on 60 Minutes (Australia) on 7 April 2019 – details here

West Virginia mother charged in false abduction report (6 April 2019)

Woman’s rape lies exposed by CCTV showing she was at Morrisons (2 April 2019) UK

How fake allegations landed an innocent man in jail (18 January 2019) Australia

Woman’s cruel plan to frame husband (3 December 2018) Australia. Read the story first, and then see how a feminist media outlet responds ‘The woman who framed her husband’: Why this story shouldn’t be front page news today‘ (4 December 2018)

“This dishonest woman might exist – in fact, lots and lots of dishonest people exist – but there are thousands more victims for whom the stigma of reporting domestic violence, and not being believed, means they’ll never come forward.

When we see the front page story about a man falsely accused of rape, or framed for domestic violence, we’re allowed to feel sympathy for him. But we need to remember that his story is the exception, not the rule, and often the rule – in this case, countless honest victims – fades into obscurity.

Because when something is normal, it doesn’t make the news. And that’s the saddest part.”

#MenToo: Defending Dartmouth’s Todd Heatherton (21 November 2018) USA

Woman given suspended sentence for making false rape claim (20 November 2018)

She Accused A Cop Of Sexual Battery. Here’s How Her Story Fell Apart (14 November 2018)

Canberra woman admits to falsifying rape claim that saw her former partner jailed (7 November 2018) Australia

Senate Judiciary Refers ANOTHER Kavanaugh Accuser For Criminal Investigation (2 November 2018) USA

After a year of #MeToo, American opinion has shifted against victims (15 October 2018)

SCOTLAND: Woman wins £80,000 in damages from man cleared of raping her in St Andrews (5 October 2018)

I wonder how common it is to have false accusations of sexual misconduct? (3 October 2018) Twitter discussion thread

Teenager, 18, who lied that her ex-boyfriend drugged and raped her is fined £200 for wasting police time (11 June 2018) UK

False accusations are harmless, so they say (6 May 2018)

Student Liam Allan’s rape charges scrapped after 40,000 messages from accuser revealed in court (16 December 2017) UK

Goldfields woman fined $4,000 after falsely accusing taxi driver of sexual assault (27 November 2017)

Mother who cried rape after a one night stand with hero police officer she met on a dating website is jailed for 27 months (16 October 2017)

Ontario Woman Must Pay $24,000 To Man She Accused Of Rape, After Losing Appeal (30 September 2017)

Father-of-five taxi driver was shunned by local Muslim community after student, 22, falsely accused him of groping her when he refused to accept her kebab-soaked £10 note (20 September 2017)

“Pointon broke down in tears and asked if she could drop the charges when her account was challenged by police … Judge Christopher Batty told her: “Your malicious complaint has done a huge disservice to those seeking justice through the police and courts.”

Why do judges never make the point that false rape allegations are very damaging to men, in part due to their lack of anonymity, and offer them some sympathy?” (Source)

Cambridge don is cleared after his PhD student fiancee accused him of assault (15 September 2017) UK

Rape Case Against USC Student Dismissed After Judge Sees Security Video (4 August 2017)

Bruises: Police brutality or false accusations? (27 June 2017) with video footage here

Former college co-ed, 19, who falsely accused two football players of rape at a party to get sympathy from a prospective boyfriend faces TWO YEARS in jail in plea deal (17 June 2017)

Woman ‘made up sex attack claims against 15 men and sent innocent man to jail for 7 years’ (14 June 2017) with further details here

Sydney man plans to sue police after two years battling rape allegations (2 June 2017)

Innocent man locked up 19 days after ex-wife makes up story: ‘You hurt every real victim out there’ (1 June 2017)

Man reveals how his life was ruined when a fellow student accused him of attacking her after she was egged on by ‘friends’ (7 May 2017) UK

Rape charges to be dropped against immigrant teens in Md. case (5 May 2017)

Lynn University Settles With Student Police Say Was Falsely Accused Of Sexual Assault (3 May 2017)

‘The nightmare will stay with me forever’: Teacher at a £33,000-a-year school who was falsely accused of rape by a student is now unemployed and living off benefits despite being cleared by a jury in just 15 minutes (16 April 2017) UK

Uber bans female rider over false rape accusations (8 April 2017)

Texas woman staged her own kidnapping and sexual assault, police say (23 March 2017) Subsequent police reaction described here.

Feminist claims to have been attacked by a group of men, caught out lying (20 March 2017)

College Student Pleads Guilty To Slashing Her Own Face, Making Up Post-Election ‘Hate Crime’ (8 March 2017)

Another false accusation of rape on a college campus (27 February 2017)

Teen charged with lying about being raped by college football players (22 February 2017)

Female teacher, 35, falsely accused a male colleague of being a paedophile by posing as a sexually abused 14-year-old pupil and calling Childline to say he’d groped the ‘child’s’ breast (1 February 2017)

Emmett Till: Woman who triggered 1955 murder of African American boy admits lying about harassment (29 January 2017)

Video about women lying about rape (23 January 2017)

Teenage waitress jailed after editing video to make it sound like police officer was threatening to rape her (5 January 2017)

Derby mum of two spared jail after admitting blackmail over false rape claim
(21 December 2016) UK

Man wins $20k over rape, implant claims (4 December 2016) NZ

‘We’ve been branded rapists with no evidence whatsoever’: Two men cleared of sex attack on married British woman in Dubai reveal their relief as case collapses and they are free to fly home (25 November 2016)

Fox News ‘golden boy’ Tucker Carlson almost had his career derailed after a woman falsely accused him of raping her in a packed Kentucky pizza restaurant (21 November 2016) USA

Troubled woman with a history of drug use who claimed that she was assaulted by Donald Trump at a Jeffrey Epstein sex party at age 13 made it all up (8 November 2016)

Woman accused of filing false rape complaint in Bristol seeks program (5 November 2016) UK

Woman’s Facebook message from 2009 undermines sex-assault conviction against ex-husband (4 November 2016) Canada

Woman admits to reporting false rape (26 September 2016) USA

Is Hrithik Roshan prepping up for a final showdown with Kangana Ranaut? (29 September 2016) India

Angelina Jolie accused of smear campaign to win full custody of kids (24 September 2016) Johnny Depp just went through a similar experience (except in that case he was alleged to have abused his wife rather than children), and now it’s Brad Pitt’s turn. More on that divorce here.

Vicious whispers led to doting dad’s murder (13 September 2016)

Woman admits to making false rape claim: police (12 September 2016)

Female student admits to incredible lie that got Auburn football player kicked off team (9 September 2016)

Chris Brown was ‘set up’ by beauty queen who claimed he stuck a gun in her face – and she has history of making false accusations, his lawyer claims (3 September 2016)

If a gay guy can get reported to the police 3x for sexual assault against a woman, what’s the chance of most reports of sexual assault being true? (29 August 2016) Reddit mensrights discussion thread

Ex’s lawyer: Video shows woman beating herself up (26 August 2016) USA

German model who made false rape allegations ordered to pay fine (22 August 2016)

Fifty Shades of Innocence by Cathy McCulloch (10 August 2016)

Woman made two 999 false rape calls to get a free lift home from the police (28 July 2016) UK

Woman charged in Boscobel infant’s death first blamed father (28 July 2016)

New York woman is charged with fabricating story of her own abduction after police spend ‘six figures’ on investigation and chase down 400 leads (24 July 2016)

An International Timeline Of False Rape Allegations 1674-2015

Cheerleader claims domestic abuse, cellphone video taken by boyfriend shows her as the aggressor (9 July 2016) Reddit discussion thread and linked video

Israeli women lie in divorce, 99% commit perjury (29 June 2016)

Police: Toledo woman threatened boy into having sex with her (15 June 2016) USA

Pauline Hanson claims women make frivolous DV complaints (10 June 2016) Australia

Vengeful student who told her ex-boyfriend she would ruin his life then lied to police about being beaten and strangled by him is jailed for 15 months (8 June 2016)

City lawyer accused of sex assault after a brief encounter with a colleague behind Waterloo station faces no further action because of lack of evidence (6 June 2016)

Cheerleader claims domestic abuse, cellphone video taken by boyfriend shows her as the aggressor (25 May 2016)

Woman ‘mutilates Chihuahua to fake miscarriage’ (24 May 2016)

Taxi driver’s CCTV lands ‘sex attack’ liar Claire Carr, 20, in jail (21 May 2016) UK, with related Reddit discussion thread here

Calling out false abuse allegations (16 May 2016)

Hawthorn players cleared of rape allegations (9 May 2016) Australia

Father, having falsely done 8 years in prison for raping his step-daughter, fighting deportation. Step daughter coming out telling that the mother threatened her to come up with the bogus charges (27 April 2016)

Why Are False Allegations of Domestic Violence Rarely Prosecuted? (22 April 2016)

Woman pays for accusations (21 April 2016) Canada

Girls told to write letters of apology to man they falsely accused of sex crime (5 April 2016) UK. This story bucks the trend

Truth and deception: Ghomeshi verdict a good day for justice (24 March 2016) Canada

‘Trouble just happens to find you’: Hazem El Masri opens up about the toughest time in his life (14 March 2016) Australia

Woman lies to justify denying her child contact with dad (4 March 2016) UK video

Woman accused of lying about rape to cover up consensual rendezvous at motel (1 March 2016)

Woman Sentenced to Electronic Home Monitoring for False Rape Accusation (1 March 2016) USA

Shaun Kenny-Dowall not guilty of assaulting former partner Jess Peris (29 February 2016) Australia

It is easier to believe that young men would rape a woman than to believe a woman would have unconventional sex (26 February 2016)

Get Someone To Bruise Your Face ~ A Real Womans Advice On Domestic Violence (20 February 2016) Australia

Reddit Father’s Story Reveals Interesting Societal Bias (13 February 2016)

Man in prison for 18 years to be freed after accuser recants (17 February 2016)

My year of hell: Commuter accused of ‘preposterous’ sexual assault case wary of travelling with women (9 February 2016) UK

Report: Affair with former co-worker reason for Myrtle Beach woman’s rape claim (2 February 2016) USA

Jackie’s rape story was false. So why hasn’t the media named her by now? (11 January 2016) USA

Woman who falsely claimed she had been raped so she could resit her A-levels is jailed for two years (24 December 2015) UK

Female Landlord tried to Accuse Man of Rape but Failed, because Cam! (13 December 2015)

Bloomington woman charged in false rape report (10 December 2015) USA

My story of what happens when a man is falsely accused of Domestic Violence (2 December 2015) Reddit mensrights discussion thread

Maths teacher is struck off for posing as a 13-year-old girl to accuse headmaster of sexual abuse after she was sacked for ‘professional incompetence’ (28 November 2015)

The real ‘Hunting Ground’ (18 November 2015) USA

Woman charged with falsely accusing a man of sexual assault and other crimes (18 November 2015)

19 Harvard Law professors pen letter denouncing ‘The Hunting Ground’ (11 November 2015) USA

Woman made false rape allegation against man she was angry with – court (29 October 2015) Ireland

Canberra mother ‘forum shopped’ for a quick divorce in the United States (26 October 2015) False accusation of domestic violence to get speedy divorce/custody. Australia

Deutsche Bank Executive Wrongly Fired on `False’ Sex Complaints (25 September 2015)

“… the court agreed with Joy’s arguments that the lender’s investigation was handled differently because he’s a man.

“The whole factual matrix on which the decision to dismiss was based was, in itself, infused with, and tainted by, discrimination,” Judge Graeme Hodgson said in the ruling. “The conclusions on the claimant’s behavior are founded on stereotyped assumptions of how a man behaves.””

A loving father’s life destroyed by child sex abuse lies peddled by his own daughter (1 November 2015) UK

Former Congressional Candidate Admits Sending Death Threats To Herself (29 October 2015)

BBC shows its contempt for victims of false rape allegations yet again (6 October 2015)

SOLICITOR WRITES: DV system abused by false allegations (25 September 2015) Australia

Peak Fake Rape (23 September 2015) USA

Woman sentenced to five-day short detention order for false rape claim (17 September 2015) Singapore

Police officers investigated over rape, domestic violence claims which saw prison guard wrongfully jailed (16 September 2015) Australia

University of Michigan sex assault finding thrown out (15 September 2015)

Former NSW police worker guilty of false rape claims against prison guard ex-boyfriend (26 August 2015)

Rohtak Sisters’ Molestation Claim False, Says Police SIT; Counsel Alleges Bias (19 August 2015) India

When prosecutors believe the unbelievable (16 July 2015) USA

Case study of a situation involving false allegations of sexual assault by a father (March 2015) Australia

“I’m sorry Kelly but 3 days is rubbish.  My ex partner went straight to the Courts and just filled out a form 5 days before Christmas and alleged that I had stalked her, threatened her and abused her and our son.  I had to wait three MONTHS before I had my day in court.

I went to court armed to the gills with evidence of her lies and after waiting 6hrs in the court rooms I had 5 mins in court where no body asked me anything, not a word.  Her lawyer changed the story at the last minute and then the lovely magistrate decided to postpone the next determination hearing 6 weeks down the track.  

I went close to 5 months without seeing my son all because of my ex partners lies. No evidence.  Nothing. Never touched her, never threatened her.  Ever. 

But I was determined to be guilty until proven innocent, and all on the say so of one bitter, twisted person.  No one cared about me or my side of the story.  The only ones who cared were the lawyers (a prominient law firm) who asked for $10K up front before they would even represent me.  

In the end she dropped her accusations after we had to go to court the second time.  Her penalty for perjuring herself twice? Nothing.  Her penalty for slandering me for 6 months? Nothing. Her penalty for denying my family access to their grandson over Christmas? Nothing.  Her penalty for denying my son access to his father? None.

I came so close to topping myself on several occasions during those long dark months that I had to endure being treated like a criminal, like the worst of the worst, the dregs of society.

But I kept on saying to myself that I had to fight for the most important person in the world; my son. I am glad that I had immense support from my family and friends otherwise I probably wouldn’t be here to write you this note.

I am all for very harsh penalties for any person who assaults another but the changes to DV that were made several years ago make basically every possible argument or disagreement in a domestic environment grounds for DV, and all it takes is one person to accuse you and you’re nicked.  Well you are if you are a bloke.

There were penalties for perjury in the DV legislation but they were removed.  Penalties for knowingly making false statements to police and the courts should be treated just as harshly in my mind.  If there are no penalties for lying in court then who can believe what people say in court?” (Source – See reader’s comments from Brett)

False rape accusations tell us something important about America (17 July 2015)

Woman demanded lift home, then falsely alleged rape: prosecution says (20 July 2015)

Mother Incarcerated after Forcing Daughter to Falsely Accuse Father of Sexual Abuse (25 June 2015)

Another example of the deplorable way reporters cover false rape claims (24 June 2015)

Woman Who Accused Her Husband Of Beating Her Is Arrested For Domestic Battery (11 June 2015)

Monash University awarded $900,000 in indemnity costs for failed sexual harassment case (11 June 2015)

Scots woman cried rape after man she had first date train sex with ran away at his stop (9 June 2015)

Carole Thomas charged with public mischief (9 June 2015)

Why do women lie more than men? Because we’re ‘nicer’ (5 June 2015)

Canadian examples of false claims of domestic abuse (May 2015)

Alesia Riabenkova (25 May 2015) U.K

Albury sex assault: Investigation finalised (1 May 2015). Notice how no-one actually comes out and says the girl made a false allegation, presumably all too scared that the feminists would get even angrier. No repercussion for the girl making the claim because that would be ‘victim’ blaming. In this article the police even state that they “were adamant they didn’t want the outcome to dissuade people reporting similar incidents. “We encourage anyone who has been the victim of a crime to come forward,” police said. It appears unlikely the teenager who reported the incident will be charged.” Hello! The only crime here was the false allegation. Idiotic PC. Related reddit mensrights discussion thread here

What do we know about false rape allegations? (28 June 2015)

Police charge woman for making up a rape after she was exposed by her own FitBit (24 June 2015)

Married woman’s fake rape claim after consensual sex (14 April 2015)

Canberra man Lewis Todd Meegan found not guilty of rape at Australian National University in 2011 (2 April 2015)

‘Women have mood swings’: Suspended ASU football player’s girlfriend, 19, says she made up claims of abuse out of jealousy and was never hit (2 April 2015)

Former Australian police officer recounts his story of being falsely accused of domestic violence (31 March 2015)

A Man Who Was Falsely Accused Of Rape Shares His Agonising Story (28 March 2015)

Woman jailed for falsely accusing two soldiers of trying to rape her because she was ashamed about drunken cocaine-fuelled threesome (27 March 2015)

Abita Springs woman feigns rape to cover up extramarital impregnation: police (26 March 2015)

Woman lied about rape claim because man ‘was ignorant to her and called her names,’ police say (18 March 2015)

‘Devious’ care-worker who claimed ex lover raped her caught out – after he filmed their one night stand (23 February 2015)

B.C. man wins right to sue rape-accuser for defamation after he was cleared of charge (12 February 2015)

Woman falsely accuses man of rape, and man captures it on video (18 December 2014)

Two girls on a bus in India start beating some young men with their belts. The claim the men groped them. They became internet heros for defending themselves (and womanhood generally). Then the truth gradually leaked out (4 December 2014) And more videos surfaced of them beating men on other occasions.

13 women who lied about being raped and why they did it, by Janet Bloomfield (11 December 2014)

Botched rape case against ACT prison guard dropped after four months in jail (23 November 2014)

Woman allegedly fakes domestic violence to steal money, credit cards from good Samaritans (10 November 2014)

Victory – BBC backs down over dishonest “rape victim” headline (9 November 2014)

Montgomery doctor files lawsuit after ‘excessive’ shocking incident (20 October 2014)

Tawny Blazejowski (19 October 2014)

Wanetta Gibson (15 October 2014)

Father wins custody battle after being falsely accused of sexually abusing his daughter (16 October 2014)

Abuse of protective orders: Judge Judy gets it (14 October 2014)

Kelly Harwood (10 October 2014) and again here

Deanna Griego (10 October 2014)

Girls falsely report being abducted and assaulted (7 October 2014)

Emily Checksfield (2 October 2014)

Pauley Perrette (18 September 2014)

Megan Welter (21 September 2014)

Katherine Bennett (29 August 2014)

Prison officer facing rape allegations freed following suspicions about his accuser (29 July 2014)

The science of false rape allegations (29 July 2014) Video. More value in the comments section due to gynocentric bias of the author

Diane Pike (July 2014)

Conor Oberst rape accuser: ‘I made up lies to get attention’ (14 July 2014) and how do the feminists respond to this? Thoughtful introspection? No, by blaming the victim!

http://news.ninemsn.com.au/national/2014/06/30/05/57/accused-rapist-sues-police

Oxford union ‘rape victim knew her claim was false’ (29 June 2014)

Woman makes false rape accusation against another woman (26 June 2014)

Trainee barrister jailed for false rape claims (27 June 2014) sparking “anger from women’s rights campaigners

Woman who cried rape after getting cold shoulder in Belfast nightclub is jailed for nine months (4 April 2014) and related reddit discussion thread

http://www.newarkadvocate.com/article/20140610/NEWS01/306100026/Rape-charge-against-Newark-man-dismissed-after-woman-admits-lying

http://www.theguardian.com/society/2014/jun/05/law-graduate-guilty-falsely-accusing-boyfriend-rape

http://www.coventrytelegraph.net/news/coventry-news/false-rape-claim-girl-given-7207499

Supreme Court reinstates charges against Billings woman accused of false rape claims (4 June 2014)

Judge orders woman who falsely accused Brian Banks of rape to pay $2.6 million (21 May 2014)

Until proven guilty‘ (27 April 2014)

How False Allegations are treated in the Family Law Act (3 March 2014) Australia. Reddit discussion thread here

Father freed after a decade in jail as daughter admits she lied about him raping her when she was 11 as she was ‘disappointed in him’ (3 April 2012)

http://www.cotwa.info/2014/03/aclu-backs-cameras-on-police-officers.html

Elizabeth Coast’s False Rape Claim Leads To 2 Months Jail In Virginia (21 August 2013) USA. He endured four years in jail – she got two months of weekend detention. BS

http://lancasteronline.com/news/local/woman-gets-to-months-in-prison-for-faking-her-kidnapping/article_3ef3e6d4-c648-11e3-8e55-001a4bcf6878.html
Woman allegedly cried rape 11 times to avoid taking the bar exam (3 April 2014)
Woman jailed after 11th false rape claim in a decade (26 February 2013)
Washington dad awarded USD9 million in false sexual abuse case (See another article on the same case here)

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2593508/Mother-launched-hate-campaign-against-primary-school-headteacher-spread-fake-rumours-claiming-sexually-abused-daughter-walks-free.html

http://www.avoiceformen.com/a-voice-for-men/australia-celebrates-false-accusation-awareness-week/

http://www.nydailynews.com/new-york/bronx/bronx-prosecutor-barred-courtroom-article-1.1746238 (Man in jail for 8 months because prosecutor hid evidence that would have exonerated him)

http://theadvocate.com/news/7201179-123/tables-turn-on-lawyer-who (Female lawyer lies and taxi driver goes to jail – read more here)

http://www.smh.com.au/nsw/strathfield-station-sex-assault-case-charges-dropped-against-man-accused-of-raping-schoolgirl-20140129-31lz2.html#ixzz2rpcWNUmW

http://www.belfasttelegraph.co.uk/news/local-national/northern-ireland/woman-who-cried-rape-after-getting-cold-shoulder-in-belfast-nightclub-is-jailed-for-nine-months-30153782.html

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2563105/Young-mother-claimed-raped-ex-boyfriend-cover-drunken-threesome-two-men-jailed-three-years.html

http://www.f4e.com.au/blog/2014/02/08/married-muslim-woman-had-affair-then-alleged-rape/

http://www.f4e.com.au/blog/2014/02/08/newlywed-who-falsely-claimed-rape-to-hide-affair-walks-free/

http://www.birminghammail.co.uk/news/midlands-news/birmingham-rape-suspect-cleared-appeal-6811366

How to ruin a man’s life over $13 (8 August 2012) Video

Maria di Toro (9 February 2012)

Video of woman caught out making false allegation to police (30 March 2009) USA

His reputation sullied, teacher commits suicide – False accusation leads to tragedy in Virginia city (15 February 2004) Yes, the alleged victim was a boy in this instance but this story is included here to show what a false accusation can lead to.

You can find plenty more like the above by googling on “false rape allegations”, including this article.

Further case-studies/examples can be found in my post in relation to the gender justice gap (aka the ‘Pussy-Pass’).

The next group of links relate to general discussion concerning the topic of false accusations and related matters:

Men should be angrier about #MeToo (3 October 2018)

Vulnerable Women Are Routinely Prosecuted – And Imprisoned – For False Rape Claims In The UK (29 June 2018) UK

When An Accuser Cries Wolf: Repercussions for Making False Allegations of Sexual Assault On College Campuses (26 June 2018)

Laura Kipnis, Rape Culture, and the Disappearance of Sex (18 April 2017)

A travesty of justice (27 February 2017) Recommended reading

Country Where Men Are Legally Mistreated by Women (23 February 2017) Israel

Motives for Filing a False Allegation of Rape (17 February 2017) A Dutch academic study – see table of results on this page.

You know that narrative about train groping and women-only carriages in Japan? About that (19 October 2016) Japan

Veterans face the ultimate indignity (12 October 2016) Australia

False rape allegations – half of reports are false, says America’s most eminent expert (7 October 2016) Reddit discussion thread and linked article

‘No-evidence’ AVOs slammed as threat to basic rights (24 September 2016) Australia

How the Feminist Silence on False Rape Accusations Hurts Everyone, by Toni Airaksinen (12 September 2016)

Illegal immigrants make up rape and sex assault claims ‘to stay in the U.S. longer’. Series of false accusations at detention centers are ‘tactic to beat deportation’ (9 September 2016)

Prosecution or persecution (20 August 2016)

Why do college girls lie about rape? (1 June 2016) USA

New Israeli study: 15% to 40% of rape complaints are lies (26 April 2016) Reddit discussion thread and linked article

We should stop naming people accused of sexual assault (24 March 2016) USA

How to get rich: Accuse a man of rape (15 March 2016) Australian feminist journalist thinks the idea of women lying about rape for financial gain is funny.

The US needs to restore impartiality in dealing with sexual assault allegations (10 March 2016) USA

US EEOC Report: More than half of all allegations of sexual harassment are determined to be without reasonable cause (12 February 2016) USA. Reddit discussion thread and linked data source.

Domestic violence complainant charged with contempt (20 December 2015) Australia

“A NSW Police spokesman said victims should report abuse without fear of being charged by police if they later changed or retracted their statements.”

Almost half of women report having post-sex blues: Here’s how to avoid them (9 October 2015) This phenomenon may well be a factor contributing to the incidence of false rape claims

University of Tennessee reports that more than 20% sexual assault reports are “unfounded” (October 2015) with a similar percentage occurring at Harvard

Police ‘child abuse’ investigations are now undermining justice (18 September 2015) UK

Lisa Longstaff Can’t Stop Lying About Rape (23 May 2015)

Manchester police admit they don’t prosecute women who make false rape allegations (17 May 2015)

Incoming Israeli Justice Minister set to meet Attorney General about policy not to prosecute women who falsely accuse men (10 May 2015)

Barbara Kay: Thou shall not bear false witness … except against men (8 April 2015)

False Accusations of Rape: Lynching in the 21st Century (24 March 2015) A book by John Davis

To the left, lying about rape is just dandy (10 December 2014)

109 women prosecuted for false rape claims in five years, say campaigners (2 December 2014) UK

Factitious Sexual Harassment, by Sara Feldman-Schorrig, MD in Bull Am Acad Psychiatry Law (1996)

Root cause of rape and false rape claims: the ‘regret asymmetry’ between men and women (4 December 2013)

The problem with prosecuting women for false rape allegations (3 December 2014)

Prosecuting rape liars ‘violates human rights,’ and rape victims’ advocates want it to stop (2 December 2014)

Domestic Violence leave – ACTU wage case application and video interview (28 October 2014) Australia. If false accusations of domestic abuse aren’t already a problem, then ‘initiatives’ like this will surely encourage more such claims

Petition to US Congress in relation to false accusations of domestic violence (October 2014)

The next time someone says that “only” eight percent of rape claims are false (7 October 2014)

Delhi Commission for Women concerned with rise of false rape charges (6 October 2014)

How many rape reports are false? (19 September 2014)

Crying rape: False rape accusations exist and they are a serious problem (18 September 2014)

Very few women taken to court for false rape allegations in U.K (5 September 2014)

Mothers against fake rape seek to turn the tide of drunken allegations (27 August 2014)

Why do women make false rape allegations? (27 July 2014)

Ever wondered why most doctors insist on a chaperone with female patients – but not with male ones? It’s generally not motivated by abuse prevention, but rather to prevent false allegations of abuse. A reddit discussion thread (July 2014)

Men defending themselves is harassment, says law professor (23 June 2014)

Men live in fear of teenage girls flirting with them (15 July 2014)

90% of black men falsely accused of rape are accused by white women (22 June 2014)

This article is entitled “College Rape Accusations and the Presumption of Male Guilt” (and with almost 500 comments it’s clearly a hot topic in the U.S.A). See also this related article entitled ‘Judith Grossman: A mother, a feminist, Aghast‘ (with over 1,000 reader comments)

Op-Ed: A timeline of recent false rape cases (15 March 2013)

The ’50 actual facts about rape’ not entirely ‘actual’ (4 November 2012)

http://chronicle.com/article/In-Making-Campuses-Safe-for/127766/

http://www.wnd.com/2014/03/college-facing-trial-for-branding-innocent-student-rapist/

http://5newsonline.com/2014/05/01/student-filed-false-ua-campus-rape-report-police-say/

Nanny jailed for crying rape after one-night stand (21 November 2012)

http://falserapesociety.blogspot.com.au/2010/05/catherine-comins-actual-quote-about.html

And now read this revealing piece about modern campus courtship

http://www.usatoday.com/story/sports/ncaaf/2014/04/03/jameis-winston-florida-state-rape-investigation-title-ix-civil-rights/7262359/

http://www.avoiceformen.com/feminism/false-claims-of-rape-and-harassment-are-now-employed-by-activists-as-tools-of-social-change/

Further sources on this topic include: 

A hand response to those who say false rape accusations should not be punished (14 May 2016) From Reddit mensrights

Feminism And The Manufacture Of A Modern Misogynist (18 December 2015)

http://owningyourshit.blogspot.com.au/2014/02/whispers-of-dissent-within-feminist.html?utm_source=twitterfeed&utm_medium=twitter

http://uberfeminist.blogspot.com.au/2014/04/false-rape-allegations.html

Flooded by false rape accusations (25 November 2013)

Family Court of Australia (2009): Mother falsely claims abuse by father and is admonished by judge but still granted full custody. WTF?

96% of women are liars, honest (9 December 2004) Based on a survey of 5,000 women in the UK

An October 2004 article on the frequency of false rape allegations

http://www.centerforinquiry.net/blogs/entry/the_anatomy_of_false_accusations_a_skeptical_case_study/

http://www.angryharry.com/reWomanNeverLie.htm

http://www.angryharry.com/Flooded-By-False-Rape-Allegations.htm

http://m.washingtontimes.com/news/2014/mar/30/political-hunt-for-sex-abusers-puts-military-justi/?utm_source=RSS_Feed&utm_medium=RSS

http://www.newrepublic.com/article/116768/latest-target-mens-rights-movement-definition-rape (The article is biased against men but there are links to useful online resources within the readers comments section)

http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2014/02/22/sex-booze-and-feminism.html

http://www.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/1zqgro/if_no_means_no_then_what_does_yes_mean/?utm_source=twitterfeed&utm_medium=twitter

http://justinvacula.com/2014/04/04/when-feminism-is-incompatible-with-skepticism-2/

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On chivalry

Upon entering the search term ‘feminist good manners’ into google one day, one of the first papers to crop up was one entitled No chivalry, thanks”.

The author of that article sought to differentiate between the notion of ‘good manners/politeness’ on the one hand and ‘chivalry’ on the other. Her position was that good manners are mostly OK, whilst ‘chivalry’ is bad. I agree with her that chivalry can be a negative factor … but not for the reason she states.

Let’s detour for a moment to visit www.thefreedictionary.com, where upon entering the term “good manners” we bring up the following related words:

  • courtesy
  • personal manner, manner – a way of acting or behaving
  • niceness, politeness – a courteous manner that respects accepted social usage
  • urbanity – polished courtesy; elegance of manner
  • graciousness – excellence of manners or social conduct
  • chivalry, politesse, gallantry – courtesy towards women
  • respectfulness, deference, respect – courteous regard for people’s feelings; “in deference to your wishes”; “out of respect for his privacy”
  • civility – formal or perfunctory politeness

The definition of the term ‘chivalry’, on the other hand, includes “The qualities idealized by knighthood, such as bravery, courtesy, honor, and gallantry toward women”, and “kindness and courteousness especially towards women or the weak”.

Back now to the ‘No chivalry, thanks‘ article where the author takes aim at two criticisms of feminism, which she describes as being:

The “cake and eat it too” complaint: “This anti-feminist argument says that women want to be independent and strong when it’s convenient for them, but they don’t want to lose the option for men to buy them dinner, open doors, and all around make them feel special. We want all the rights afforded to men, but that we also want to be treated better than men. Feminists want special, not equal, treatment, or in other words, they want their cake and to eat it too”, and

The “feminists hate manners!” complaint: “Other anti-feminists have chosen to smack-talk feminism by claiming that any stance which truly speaks out against chivlary (sic) is actually an affront to good manners.”

The author indicates that she’d “like to dismantle these complaints”, but in fact her views only serve to reinforce the validity of those complaints whilst undermining the feminist perspective generally. Her comments include:

The core of my disdain for chivalry is that it’s rooted in a gendered premise. Its very notion is that women need special assistance and wooing, which I flat out disagree with. Given this, I can say fully that I do not want or expect chivalry. In that way, the “cake and eat it too” complaint is nonsense to me. I do not want any person to look at me and treat me differently based off of (sic) my gender, even if that treatment is favourable.

(Mod: My emphasis added. LOL … I think we could readily find a plethora of exceptions to that with respect to feminist goals and achievements generally!)

“The same goes for stereotypes of all sorts–just because something is “nice” (ie Asians are so smart!) doesn’t make it any less racist. So with chivalry, just because it’s “friendly,” doesn’t make it any less sexist.”

“All in all, I simply feel that chivalry and feminism are inherently incompatible. I would never expect to be treated both equally and special. That’s an oxymoron. In fact, I’m not entirely sure that there are women who actually are advocating for both. Yes, some women want chivalry, but I would suspect they do not typically identify as feminists. To me, it seems a to be a straw man situation, as is the claim that feminists are really attacking manners. Nevertheless, it is important for us to understand the arguments used against our viewpoints, no matter how trivial.”

So in short, many feminists abhor chivalry because they perceive it as a pattern of behaviour intended to subjugate and patronise women, and as a manifestation of what they term ‘benevolent sexism‘.

Ah, but it gets confusing. In yet another of their breathtaking displays of hypocrisy, feminists strongly rely upon and encourage chivalry to achieve their goals. Look at all the calls for men to mobilise against other men in stopping domestic abuse and rape. Consider the #HeForShe campaign and many other similar campaigns. In none of these examples do feminists call for, or support, corresponding  campaign for women to support men or men’s rights.

In contrast, the core of my ambivalence in relation to chivalry is that:

  • I believe in gender equality, and chivalry cannot and should not exist where there is true equality
  • Chivalry is the fuel that drives the actions of ‘white knights’, men who make it their duty to hamper progress on raising awareness and acceptance of men’s rights issues.
  • Chivalry stands in the way of objective reasoning. Chivalry causes men to conflate the often unreasonable assertions and demands of feminists, with the welfare of women generally. I see this happening in almost every mainstream media article that permits readers to contribute comments, wherein men attack one another in the mistaken belief that any progress on achieving mens rights is not just a set-back for women, but somehow akin to spitting in their face. If only such men would make an effort to familiarise themselves with not just the specific issue under consideration, but also both the nature of feminism and of men’s rights advocacy generally.

More thoughts on good manners and chivalry

Good Samaritan case: Woman who lied about sex assault faces court (15 May 2019)

Two terribly unchivalrous ladies (3 October 2018)

Court sheriff sacked for breaking up a fight between two women (3 October 2018) Australia

Modern dating experiences including ‘ghosting’ and ‘breadcrumbing’ leave three in four women feeling that chivalry is dead (2 August 2017) Women have been doing these things to men since whenever, now more men are giving back the same and it’s suddenly unfair

‘Good Samaritan’ bullied, beaten and called a kidnapper after helping lost child (29 June 2017)

This reader’s comment by ‘SantaOrange’ in a Reddit discussion thread addresses why chivalry is a major constraint to making progress on men’s rights (10 May 2017)

Here’s a recent newspaper item that features a prat-like whinge from a woman who would like men to leave her alone – after they perform whatever service she requires. Presumably men are meant to  magically realise that she is a feminist and is not interested in social overtures. But on the other hand they are magically meant to know that although she is a feminist, she does appreciate men helping her by performing manual labour in relation to her overweight carry-on luggage. Perhaps if she held up a sign providing all this information, then men might be more co-operative/compliant. A subsequent online discussion can be found here.

And here is an article on the subject of holding doors open (plus readers comments) in a feminist blog.

Here is an article entitled ‘He also pays for his own dinners‘ that , in a patronising tone, sniffs at the notion of men displaying chivalry and their motivations for doing so. The best thing about the article was this readers comment:

“The most generous and helpful thing a man can do for a woman on an individual level is to hold her accountable – no letting her off because she’s female.

If traditional expressions of chivalry are important to women, let women do them. My girlfriend brought me flowers last night because I had a bad day. Fine. I’ll cook her dinner sometime.

Listen men, chivalry backfires. If you pay for the first date you’re losing a valuable opportunity to screen out the women who will see you as nothing but an ATM machine. And there’s no such thing as paying for a first date anyway. When you pay for a first date, you’re making it cheaper for her to go on another date with somebody else. You’re just subsidizing her search for the perfect man. Do yourself a favour and make women chip in for their quest for Mr. Right.

And men, while we’re on the subject of chivalry, remember you’re not a human punching bag. Make it very clear at the beginning of the relationship: if she ever hits you, screams at you, or calls you names, or tries to humiliate you in front of your friends, or destroys any of your property on purpose, or tries to use sex as a bargaining chip, that’s the end of the relationship, right then, right there. No questions asked. No looking back. Just walk away.

Don’t let your sense of chivalry turn you into a victim. You’re better than that.”

Men are weirdly concerned about trans women’s use of female bathrooms, according to new study (December 2016) How to take a good thing – men’s ingrained protective instinct towards women – and paint it as a negative.

“Men were 1.5 times more likely than women to have concerns about transgender women using women’s bathrooms.”

Man stabbed in Southbank while coming to woman’s aid (25 February 2017) Australia. It appears the female being assaulted left the scene – did you she render any assistance to her rescuer? Don’t be that guy. Timely that this incident occurred the same week as this article in The Conversation.

Dave Chappelle on how women killed chivalry (21 November 2016) Comedy video

Home Hill stabbing: British journalist Tom Jackson attacked as he went to aid of Mia Ayliffe-Chung (26 August 2016) Tom sadly later died from his injuries.

Damseling, chivalry and courtly love (part two) by Peter Wright (17 July 2016)

Belinda Brown: Women exploit men’s chivalrous instincts (12 June 2016)

Chivalry is not dead when it comes to morality (8 June 2016) We’re more likely to sacrifice a man than a woman when it comes to both saving the lives of others and in pursuing our self-interests, a team of psychology researchers has found.

Where are the stand up men? (29 May 2016) This special snowflake rant earned itself some rather forthright readers comments. Further commentary here.

The Confused Male: Do women really want what they say they want? (3 May 2016) UK

Chivalry: A learned deathwish, by Paul Elam (25 April 2016)

Would you be a Good Samaritan? Chinese kung fu student JAILED after saving woman from sexual harassment on a bus (22 April 2016) China. The woman ran away

Liz Hayes relives terrifying moment 60 Minutes crew were attacked (21 March 2016) Australia. Careful Liz, don’t let the feminists hear you admitting that – it’s kind of the opposite of their precious narrative …

“I just knew, they wouldn’t hit me … I was glad, right then, that I was a woman. I felt they wouldn’t hit me because of that, and that might mean I could slow things down a bit. I’m pretty sure if I was one of the guys I probably would have been hit as well.”

Good Samaritan Norman Olsen dies in hospital (24 February 2016) Australia

Female bouncers, sin bins should be considered as part of lockout laws, psychologist says (19 February 2016) I think female bouncers would be less likely to get punched due (in part) to chivalry, but the idea appears to contradict the feminist position on DV whereby men seen to be just as likely/more likely to hit a woman.

Chivalry and the Law: How Women Get Off, by Krista Milburn (15 February 2016) Recommended reading

Feminism, sex-differences and chivalry (7 February 2016)

Boats for women, by Mark Dent (12 January 2016)

Chivalry still a force to be reckoned with, by Miranda Devine (12 December 2015)

“The most despicable thing about the feminist movement is that it exploits male protective instincts and male virtues such as self-sacrifice for the “greater good” in order to expand female privilege. It doesn’t actually challenge these gender roles in any meaningful sense. But I agree it’s time to put an end to chivalry. The cat is out of the bag and it’s not going back in.” (Source)

Man is crushed to death by falling elevator in New York City (1 January 2016)

Video captures man’s attempt to catch woman falling 11 storeys (1 January 2016)

If men owe women chivalry, what do women owe men? (30 November 2015)

YOYO 19: One day a month, stop protecting women (30 September 2015)

The sad reality of today’s male-female dynamic. I have women I love in my life and I wish things were different. It’s sad people have to think twice before helping others (9 September 2015) Reddit discussion thread

Why don’t we have stories about women sacrificing themselves for the men they love? by Janet Bloomfield (9 July 2015)

Men must stop playing by the rules, walk away, and claim their autonomy. The gender contract is null and void. If a new social contract is to be agreed, it must be agreed by free men (18 June 2015) Reddit mensrights discussion thread

Model receives death threats after splitting bill on date (22 April 2015)

Chivalry but equality: The feminist double-standard, by Prentice Reid (21 April 2015)

What ever happened to chivalry? by Peter Wright (13 April 2015)

Opinion: Chivalry, not gender politics, dictates who pays for that first date, by Caroline Marcus (12 April 2015) Notice not one reader comment in support of this hypocritical sexist tosh

John Stuart Mill on chivalry (31 March 2015)

Chivalry could indicate hidden sexism, study finds (10 March 2015)

Chivalry isn’t dead: Why feminists still want a gentleman Reddit discussion thread and linked article (15 February 2015)

I’m a Feminist and I Still Want These 7 Gentlemanly Gestures. Do You? (20 February 2015) and related reddit mensrights discussion thread

White Ribbon Campaigns: Promoting medieval chivalry (25 November 2014)

And more recently, an article entitled ‘Equality is essential but so is chivalry‘ (Herald Sun 16 June 2014). This one very much in the all rights/no responsibility vein. It starts of bemoaning the fact that nobody stood up for a pregnant woman on a train and then goes on and on from there. The usual feminist theme of … there’s a problem, men caused it, and it’s mens responsibility to fix it … to our specifications. No readers comments were permitted – wonder why? Thank goodness that this MRA made the time to prepare a great rebuttal.

Why women need to start asking men out … because men have no balls (9 September 2014) The author of this incredibly sexist article, notable only for the caustic criticism of the 1,200+ readers comments that follow it, was Lauren Martin.

Jennifer Lawrence Nude Pics Highlight Ongoing Struggle With Chivalry (2 September 2014)

How to be a 21st Century ‘Gentleman’ (12 September 2014) I liked this reader’s comment: “Are there any classes teaching women some basic etiquette, too? Why are we just gripping on men when women need just as much a major make-over on behavior”. This theme is oft repeated – recent versions here and here, and with a rebuttal article here

Feminists and their progressive allies think that children swearing edgy and humorous – provided it’s for a ‘good’ cause (October 2014)

Why I no longer hold doors open for women (9 September 2014)

Why didn’t I stop to help a woman in need?‘ (5 August 2014) The article is fairly ordinary but there is some excellent material amongst the readers comments section.

Pantene ‘Not Sorry’ video tells women to stop apologizing so much (18 June 2014)

From “Women assault elderly man” to “Shame on men” in easy steps, by Jim Muldoon (1 March 2014)

Women are fine with sexism … as long as it benefits them (22 October 2013)

The One Good Man (16 March 2011)

Now for the background to this article you’ll need to take a look at this other blog post. In the article feminist author, Lauren Rosewarne, lashes out at those concerned about comments made by a federal parliamentarian. That politician told journalists that she wanted a male partner who was rich, well-endowed and who didn’t talk. Lauren haughtily admonishes us, today the sane amongst us dismiss such notions as laughably repressive and egregiously controlling.”

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Beware the ire of an angry feminist

Whilst most of them labour on in denial, the fact is that feminists can be particularly spiteful and relentless in the manner in which they attack those who question or criticise their jaundiced view of the world. Although not according to this feminist:

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Feminists are also not averse to turning on allies, particularly the men who openly support them (for examples see 12/ 34/ 5/ 6/ 7/ 89). Wow, don’t they just love dishing it out?

Consider the vendetta against Tanveer Ahmed, which you can read about in this blog post. Consider the reaction to a pro-feminist initiative by students at Sydney Boys High School. And the list goes on and on.

Now as I mentioned in the “About this blog” post, women who publicly defend men and men’s rights issues are especially loathed by feminists. Click on this hyperlink and read an example of some conservative women who wound up with targets on their backs in this manner.

And two more examples of women targeted by feminists are Erin Pizzey and Catherine Hakim:

Erin Patria Margaret Pizzey is an English family care activist and a novelist. She became internationally famous for having started one of the first women’s refuges (called women’s shelters in the U.S.) in the modern world, Chiswick Women’s Aid, in 1971, the organisation known today as Refuge. Pizzey has been the subject of death threats and boycotts because of her stance that most domestic violence is reciprocal, and that women are equally as capable of violence as men. Further details about Erin here and here

Catherine Hakim is a British sociologist who specializes in women’s employment and women’s issues. She has worked in British central government, and as a Senior Research Fellow in the London School of Economics. She is currently a Senior Research Fellow at the Centre for Policy Studies. She has published extensively on labour market topics, women’s employment, sex discrimination, social and family policy, as well as social statistics and research design. She has published over 100 articles in academic journals and edited collections, and over a dozen textbooks and research monographs. She is best known for developing preference theory and her criticism of many feminist assumptions about women’s employment.

Apparently even worse still are women who not only criticize feminism, but do so on the basis of its overt misogyny towards women. This is discussed in a post by a well-known female MRA, Alison Tieman.

The high-tide line of the spectrum of feminist outrage may well be Claire Khaw, a (partway serious and partway tongue-in-cheek) social commentator who maintains blogs called the ‘Battlefield of Love‘ and ‘The Voice of Reason‘. A little strong for the sensibilities of many, yet at the same time probably a fitting counterpoint to ghastly feminist commentators like Anita Sarkeesian or Amanda Marcotte. Here is one of Claire’s recent items.

And yet at the same time, feminists have a deeply unenviable propensity to quickly play the ‘frightened and oppressed victim’ card should the tables be turned (aka ‘cry bully’).

Perhaps the most common way in which feminists lash out is through employing what is known as shaming tactics. At other times, though their response can include tactics such as online bullying, stalking and threats, and/or the lodgement of false or exaggerated claims to Twitter/ISP’s/etc in order to have the accounts of their targets closed.

In another post I talk about a recent Australian example involving the ‘Sunrise’ TV show. In one of the media articles that ensued, Michael Lallo suggested that only feminist women posting online attracted threats of violence/death … with of course the threats being made by men.

Well Michael, time to open your eyes and wake up … and you can start by checking out these sources:

Feminist aligned terrorists promote violence and share tactics openly on Facebook: New meme: “If You Own a Meninist Shirt L Will Not Hesitate to Stab You” (5 December 2016) Reddit discussion thread with linked article.

The Dark Web of Feminist Political Agenda (24 June 2016) Australia

A 19 Year Old Liberal-Feminist Tries to Kill a Street Preacher Because “Words” Hurt Her Feelings (29 May 2016) USA

Feminists and white knights plan vendetta against author of the ‘Return of Kings’ web site (2 February 2016) Australia. Feel the hate and see the spittle around the mouths of those who have probably never read a single article within the ROK site. Check out the surfeit of shaming language in this Daily Mail article. But this article is the most worrying of all – the hypocrisy of people who claim to be opposed to violence, only to then encourage others with that goal in mind.

Academic finds 84 serious threats of violence directed at Roosh and Return Of Kings readers (13 March 2017)

Women’s hate, violence and death threats (November 2013)

Women and white knight’s hate at Stephen A. Smith (July 2014)

Attack on the home of the founder of the group ‘Fathers 4 Justice’ (28 July 2014)

University prof pleads ‘no contest’ after attack on pro-life students (25 July 2014)

Irate women screams at pro-life kids: “No uterus … no right to talk about it!” (11 July 2014)

Feminist Declaration of War Against the Non-Feminist World, by Fidelbogen (9 April 2014)

http://www.avoiceformen.com/feminism/feminist-lies-feminism/when-is-a-death-threat-funny/ (27 November 2011)

http://www.avoiceformen.com/allnews/swedish-dissenting-feminist-receives-death-threats/ (18 January 2014)

Evidence Collection – Patterns of feminists making death threats (18 June 2013)

http://www.avoiceformen.com/feminism/when-feminists-attack/ (8 December 2011)

Feminist Enemy Number One. Christina Hoff Sommers might need a safe space (June 2015)

In addition:

See also:

The future is female. And she’s furious, by Cathy Young (28 January 2019) Recommended reading

Why feminists are bullies, in a nutshell (3 October 2018)

Anti-Brett Kavanaugh protesters go wild (October 2018) Video. USA

Russian feminist splashes bleach onto the crotchs of men sitting on public transport in order to protest ‘manspreading’ (27 September 2018) More here

Title IX Complaint Filed Against Professor Behind WashPo ‘Anti-Male’ Column (28 August 2018) This is regarding Professor Suzanna Danuta Walters who authored the infamous “Why Can’t We Hate Men?” column in the Washington Post

‘How I took the female cyber bully who used Facebook to ruin my life to court. And won’ (13 November 2017)

Distinguished Georgetown Prof Spreads Personal Info Of Political Opponents To Intimidate Them (22 May 2017)

‘Anti-feminism’ posters at American University investigated as a ‘hate crime’ (10 March 2017) I wish I could say that government agencies are above this type of absurdity, but …
UK Police Force Re-Educating 1,400 Officers To Treat Misogyny As ‘Hate Crime’ (9 March 2017)

To Milo or not to Milo? (21 February 2017) How the left neutralised a very annoying thorn  in their side. A story rich in hypocrisy given what various feminists/SJW have previously said & done & walked away from without penalty.

Good Word for the Contemptible Straight White Male, by Timothy Cootes (19 February 2017)

Islamic State using feminism to lure Australian women into becoming ‘Jihadi Brides’ (12 February 2017) This must be at, or close to, ‘peak stupid’.

Rebel reporter assaulted at Women’s March (22 January 2017) USA. Male feminist, Dion Bews, assaults female journalist then female feminists help him escape into the crowd and tell the journalist to “calm down”. Meanwhile, also at the Women’s March, an anti-Trump protester sets a girl’s hair on fire. What pathetic hypocrites these people are. And another article in a similar vein.

Anti-bullying advocate Roz Ward harasses bystander (21 November 2016)

Annaliese Nielson, founder of start-ups GodsGirls, Crushee, and the exclusive Los Angeles … decided to start an expletive filled tirade on a Lyft driver … Nielson took issue with the drivers bobble head figurine and was determined to create a violent confrontation (28 August 2016)

Feminism Has Enabled My Husband to Be Lazy and Selfish (26 August 2016) Further proof that only a masochist would marry a feminist. See related Reddit discussion thread here.

Feminist journalist: All men are rapists and should be put in prison and then shot (15 August 2016)

Feminazi Zealots Adopt Feminazi Zealot Tactics To Get An MP Sacked For Pointing Out Their ‘Zealotry’ (13 August 2016) UK

HuffPo Women’s editor, Alanna Vagianos, says that pointing out that most of those dying violently in the USA are men is “extremely offensive” and that those making this observation should STFU (12 July 2016)

George Christensen the most abused MP on Twitter, election analysis shows (1 July 2016) In Australia, conservative male politicians receive the most online abuse (no women in the top 20 … male privilege?)

Feminists treat men badly. It’s bad for feminism, by Cathy Young (30 June 2016) USA

On @Anne_Theriault and the Endless Futility of Feminist Revenge Fantasies (17 June 2016)

The Facebook Page Wars of 2016 : Profiling Rose S Garston (19 April 2016)

How A Torpedoed Kickstarter Campaign Unintentionally Revealed An Unlikely Unit of Cyber-Terrorists (18 April 2016) USA

These Are The Strange Cookies This Mom Brought To A 2nd Grade Class (5 April 2016) Feminist takes rejection badly

Student feminist group ‘Campus Witches’ attack a man while he eats his lunch after he harassed his ex on Twitter (1 April 2016)

The persecution of Sage Gerard at Kennesaw State University (KSU) (11 March 2016)

Anti-feminist activist Lauren Southern has urine poured on her (5 March 2016) Canada

Great Men Under Siege – The Fiamengo File Episode 14 (28 February 2016) Video

Brought Milo Yiannopoulos to Rutgers and Liberals Freaked Out (13 February 2016) USA

Sir Tim Hunt To Leave Britain: How Feminists Chased Away One of Britain’s Geniuses (18 December 2015)

If not for double-standards, she’d have none at all (1 December 2015) Australian feminist with a long history of perpetrating hateful online bigotry and abuse, has man sacked for calling her a ‘slut’

Feminist administrator and professor threaten male journalist with false accusations and ‘muscle’. This is what it’s like to be a college student in 2015 (10 November 2015)

Spain: feminist march against “gender violence” turns into anti-male cesspool. Also, a few women were assaulted for reclaiming equal support for men (9 November 2015) Reddit discussion thread

Feminist tries to get me fired: BACKFIRES SPECTACULARLY (3 November 2015)

She ain’t honest (Nurse Ratched) (29 September 2015) Discussion concerning feminist journalist Clementine Ford

Miranda Devine: Demonising men won’t stop domestic violence‘ … and here is an example of the predictably vicious and misleading feminist reaction: ‘Sorry Miranda Devine, but domestic violence isn’t a poor person’s problem’ (27 September 2015). Miranda responded to her feminist critics first with this article, and then this one.

Em Rusciano: Good riddance Mark Latham (17 August 2015) Australia

When ‘Slutwalk’ Feminists Attack Lauren Southern (25 June 2015)

You have to watch rabid feminists attack Daily Beast writer for daring to defend man accused of rape! (7 February 2015)

The hatred of the modern feminist (30 January 2015) Australia

Amanda Marcotte: The David Duke of Feminism (9 January 2015)

Vandalized: Residence of U-M Student Who Dared to Mock Trigger Warnings (15 December 2014)

‘All women should be banned from barber shops’ (26 November 2014)

One of BBC’S Top 100 Women in foul-mouthed attack on ‘InsideMan’ magazine  (21 November 2014)

Twitter is censoring accounts before a single tweet goes out (12 November 2014)

Opinion You’re Going To Hate: Women aren’t Oppressed, They’re Actually The Most Protected Class In Our Society (14 October 2014)

Don’t bully me because I’m a feminist (14 June 2013)

Is there a cyber war on women? (2 February 2014)

What @AdamRichman Learned (2 July 2014)

http://femalefedupwithfeminism.wordpress.com/2014/03/08/some-thoughts-on-feminists-shutting-down-those-who-dare-to-disagree/

Feminists post how-to guide on taking down Facebook pages with false reports

http://mensrightsarehumanrights.wordpress.com/2014/03/24/ellie-slee-likes-to-issue-threats-and-believes-that-this-is-acceptable-do-you/

http://j4mb.wordpress.com/2014/03/08/miss-ann-dree-mikebuchanan11-die-please/

http://www.avoiceformen.com/feminism/the-reaction-to-the-women-eating-on-the-tube-site-shows-exactly-how-sexist-hypocritical-and-humourless-feminism-can-be/

http://rooshnme.blogspot.com.au/2013/05/women-who-hate-women.html

A blog post about ongoing feminist attempts to discredit a lobby group serving the interest of people who have been falsely accused of sexual assault

List of links of women making online threats (Reddit discussion thread, September 2014)

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Here are some articles discussing hateful sexist diatribes by feminists about men

Julie Bindel calls for men to be jailed and then shot (15 August 2016)

The anti male language that you read about and shrug off as just venting hot headed feminism …is real. (6 June 2015) Reddit mensrights discussion thread

Petition To Have Bahar Mustafa, Goldsmith’s Diversity Officer, Who Tweeted ‘Kill All White Men’, Sacked Reaches 12,000 (20 May 2015)

#Howtospotafeminist the only guide you’ll ever need (6 May 2015)

‘Kill all Men’: Lib Dem activist in hate speech scandal (17 April 2015)

My comment to Jezebel regarding the feminist who aborted her male son (11 February 2015)

Samantha Allen is a feminist writer – here is a recent example of her work. Another article in which she proudly states that she hates men is discussed here (source article available here)

Reading feminist theory (23 August 2014)

When they fuck us (29 July 2014)

Can feminists do anything on their own? (15 August 2014)

Meet the woman who wants to reduce the male population by 90% “for peace” (22 August 2014)

Add these to the misandry Hall of Fame (19 June 2014)

Abolish the white race, abolish men – presentation by a feminist in a public library (2 June 2014)

http://www.avoiceformen.com/feminism/radfem-hub-the-underbelly-of-a-hate-movement/

https://twitter.com/CathyYoung63/status/421485004426711040/photo/1

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JJGZM2jtMpg

http://deltabravo.net/cms/plugins/content/content.php?content.316″ target=”_blank

http://www.cultural-misandry.com/feminism-the-hate-group-2/

http://evebitfirst.wordpress.com/2010/10/07/a-rant/ http://imgur.com/4EZHcLc (‘Feminism vs decency’)

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Related posts within this blog include:

About feminism & feminist antipathy towards issues faced by men
Regarding online harassment
On violence carried out by women and girls
On the censorship of non-feminist perspectives and opinions

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Domestic violence is not a gendered issue – Why the pervasive sexist bias against men?

Domestic violence (DV), also referred to as Intimate Partner Violence (IPV) or Family & Domestic Violence (FDV), is a shocking blight on the community. This is a scourge that inflicts substantial negative impacts on the lives of countless men, women and children. Whilst definitions have evolved and broadened, DV is loosely defined as “physical, sexual, or psychological harm by a current or former partner or spouse“.

It is important to acknowledge that DV encompasses man on man, women on women, man on woman, and woman on man violence (both cis- and transgender). Further, in many instances violence is perpetrated by both partners as shown in the accompanying diagram. There is also a strong nexus between the incidence of child abuse/neglect and subsequent perpetration of domestic violence by affected individuals upon reaching adulthood.

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The Wikipedia entry for ‘Epidemiology of domestic violence‘ provides readers with useful background information on this topic. For those willing to read something a little meatier, I would recommend this paper by esteemed DV researcher Malcolm George. Malcolm walks the reader through the historical context to the current debate about gender differences in violent behaviour and the way that society responds to the issue.

Many of those working within the DV sector, particularly here in Australia, only choose to acknowledge one element of the problem – that part involving male perpetrators and female victims. It is no coincidence that most staff within these government agencies, universities and NGO’s are strongly influenced by, and biased towards, feminist ideology. The feminist position is unequivocal, and it is that domestic violence = men’s violence towards women. Here is an example of that mindset, and here are many others.

This routine failure by feminists to recognise and discuss male victims, female perpetrators and bi-directional violence is no accident or coincidence. It is a deliberate strategy to build their brand, and in so doing demonise the overwhelming majority of men who have never, and would never, hurt or abuse their partner.

As a result, and in order to support the feminist narrative, a great deal of ‘cherry-picking’ and misrepresentation occurs in relation to the statistics provided in DV literature. In addition, the design and implementation of survey instruments is too often tainted with bias. This issue, that of feminist efforts to hide or discredit legitimate research and/or generate false or misleading statistics, is explored in this further blog post.

You will note, as you scroll down this page, that there are a multitude of sources of DV statistics, particularly the United Kingdom and the United States. Here in Australia, much less research has been undertaken – particularly in relation to male victimisation. One of the more significant sources is the Australian Bureau of Statistics Personal Safety Survey 2012, which found that one in three victims of domestic abuse were male. The results of overseas studies generally found levels of male and female victimisation that were closer to parity, and in some instances even higher rates of victimisation for men that women.

Unfortunately many journalists display remarkable tunnel-vision when addressing the topic of IPV. Indeed some have suggested that the media is complicit in the same sort of systemic gender bias against males noted earlier amongst those working in the field of DV.

Turning to my first example, an article called ‘Til death do us part’ which appeared in The Australian newspaper. It consisted of five pages of heart-wrenching coverage of men’s violence towards female partners, but made no mention of any other form of domestic violence, i.e. m-m, f-f, or women on men. Similarly this February 2014 article from The Mail newspaper also neglected to mention that men can be victims too.

Fiona McCormack also ignores male victims and female abusers this item on Australian ABC TV … except in an aside where she implies that anyone who raises the issue of women abusers is only seeking to “excuse” the behaviour of male abusers. This is very much akin to the feminist predilection of labelling anyone who questions various aspects of sexual assault (e.g. false rape allegations) as being “rape apologists” “victim blamers” etc.

Now let’s turn to this article by Charlie Pickering (more about Charlie here). Charlie is concerned that more attention is paid to the issue of random one-punch attacks on men, than on the violence visited nightly on women people in their homes. He goes on to state:

“For a long time, the term domestic violence has softened and normalised what is really going on. A more accurate term is ‘men’s violence against women’. Not ‘violence against women’, because that takes the responsibility for it away from those who need to be made responsible.”

This belief, that by acknowledging male victims and female perpetrators, we are somehow ignoring the validity and the pain of female victims is absurd, yet unfortunately commonplace in public discourse. The fact that there may be somewhat fewer male victims does not, nor should not, make domestic violence a gendered issue.

A precious few writers, like this one, suggest a more practical and unbiased approach to the issue:

“When it comes to the statistics about domestic abuse, it doesn’t matter to me how many men to how many women experience domestic violence. Domestic violence is a power issue more than a gender issue. Intimate Partner Violence affects men and women, and I really do not care in what proportion …

Within anti-domestic violence advocacy, there seems to be a trend to pit female victims against male victims and vice-versa. I do not know who is behind it, nor do I know if there is a “who” to blame. I do know that blame has no place in this fight against domestic abuse, especially when victim blames victim for any reason …

In a perfect society, men and women are equally protected under the law not because more laws were made to protect one sex but because in each mind and heart of all people, women and men are respected equally, and the individual contributions or crimes are our only measures of judgment. However, this ideal is as far away from our current reality as the idea that no person would seek power over another.”

Many others within the wider community have, however, embraced a biased and incomplete representation of DV, liberally salted with misinformation, at face value. Who could blame them, given that so many sources are bellowing out the same relentless message about male perpetrators and female victims, whilst studiously ignoring other elements of the issue.

Here in Australia, let’s look at this page within the web site of the Department of Social Services entitled ‘Women’s safety’, and the linked 28 page literature review prepared by ‘Urbis’ consultants at a cost of $220,000. One would have assumed, especially given the enormous cost, that the review would have encompassed all forms of abuse and perpetration. But, unfortunately, it did not.

In fact the review states that “Male perpetrators of domestic violence or sexual assault against men and female perpetrators of either offence against men have not been considered in this literature review. It is acknowledged that in practice the great majority of programs will be targeted towards men who commit domestic violence or sexual assault against women.”

Yes, that makes perfect sense … there are no programs for female offenders so let’s pretend they don’t exist. Such circular logic is (almost) unbelievable. And no, there is no corresponding ‘Mens Safety’ page within the DSS web site.

To be fair, the authors of some studies do admit that there are many female perpetrators and male victims, and that little research has been directed towards these groups. They also admit that there are probably many similarities between male and female perpetrators of IPV. They then invariably proceed, however, to offer a variety of justifications to continue their focus on the ‘domestic violence = Mens violence towards women’ model (example).

When misleading statistics are repeatedly exposed the feminist reaction is to move the goalposts by expanding the reach of the definition of domestic violence to encompass sexual violence, and less tangible forms of non-physical ‘violence’. This serves to both maximise the perceived magnitude of the problem, as well as support the anti-male narrative.

Naturally those areas where female perpetration is substantial, such as child abuse and elder abuse, are totally ‘out of bounds’. This theme is explored in this separate blog post. The same approach has been taken by feminists to prop up the notion of the existence of a ‘rape culture‘ in western societies.

Those of us concerned about men’s rights seek to have all aspects of domestic violence considered, as well as seeking remedies to specific issues such as:

  • the lack of resources to assist abused men and their children
  • laws and legal procedures that are based on the assumption that the male in the relationship is the abuser
  • negative and biased behaviour towards men who seek assistance, for example the screening of (only) male callers to abuse help-lines to determine if they are in fact perpetrators (example)

A selection of statistical sources that haven’t been doctored to support the feminist narrative

Male Victims of Domestic Violence Suffer Severe Effects, Canadian Study Reports (15 April 2019)

Assessing the risk of repeat intimate partner assault, by NSW Bureau of Crime Statistics & Research (December 2018)

Are a third of domestic abuse victims men? (6 December 2018) UK

Dunedin study gender violence truths (13 June 2016) Video

References examining assaults by women on their spouses or male partners: An Annotated Bibliography by Martin S. Fiebert. This bibliography examines 286 scholarly investigations: 221 empirical studies and 65 reviews and/or analyses, which demonstrate that women are as physically aggressive, or more aggressive, than men in their relationships with their spouses or male partners. Here is a link to an updated June 2013 version of Fiebert’s bibliography.

Partner Abuse, Volume 1, No. 1, 2010 The first edition of a new journal created to showcase academic research into domestic violence without gender bias

Partner Abuse State of Knowledge Project – Facts and Statistics on Domestic Violence at-a-Glance. Sponsored by the Journal Partner Abuse, November, 2012. This study is also discussed in this article
Male Victims of Intimate Partner Violence in the United States: An Examination of the Review of Literature through the Critical Theoretical Perspective, by Caroletta A. Shuler (2010) and related reddit discussion thread

Extensive listing of mainly North American research findings related to domestic violence (29 April 2015)

Family violence in Canada: A statistical profile (27 January 2011) Almost equal numbers of male and female victims of DV

Symptoms of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder in Men who Sustain Intimate Partner Violence: A Study of Help-seeking and Community Samples (2012)

Partner Violence as Female-specific in Aetiology

Intimate partner violence: Facts and statistics (1 September 2014) Included some discussion of ‘Patriarchal Dominance’ theory

Domestic violence rates are higher for homosexual couples than for heterosexual couples (18 November 2013)

Preliminary Examination of a Mutual Intimate Partner Violence Intervention Among Treatment-Mandated Couples (2013)

Male victims of domestic violence: A Substantive and Methodological Research Review by Michael S. Kimmel (2001)

Women who perpetrate intimate partner violence: A review of the literature with recommendations for treatment (January 2007)

Disabusing the definition of domestic violence: How women batter men and the role of the Feminist State by Linda Kelly 2003

Unprecedented domestic violence study affirms need to recognise male victims (21 May 2013)

One-third of domestic violence victims in active-duty families are men (27 August 2014)

Partner Violence Against Men in England & Wales and the Gender Bias of Public Bodies (2014)

Aggression in British Heterosexual Relationships: A Descriptive Analysis

The Truth About Domestic Violence – You’ll Never Believe… (a must-see video on Youtube)

Research into domestic violence-related deaths (USA/2010) More for men than women

Newer perspectives on domestic violence (April 2010)

http://freethoughtblogs.com/hetpat/2014/06/11/can-we-finally-nail-down-those-male-victim-statistics/ (United Kingdom)

See recent Swedish DV research here

Differences in Frequency of Violence and Reported Injury Between Relationships With Reciprocal and Nonreciprocal Intimate Partner Violence (2006)

“Almost 24% of all relationships had some violence, and half (49.7%) of those were reciprocally violent. In non-reciprocally violent relationships, women were the perpetrators in more than 70% of the cases.”

A summary of credible research about domestic violence

This video features an incredibly fast rundown of published domestic violence research that runs contrary to the feminist position (15 June 2016)

http://www.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/28smbv/gender_symmetry_in_domestic_violence_and_why_it/

http://scholar.google.com/scholar?hl=en&q=gender+symmetry&btnG=&as_sdt=1%2C5&as_sdtp=

http://www.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/c3lvm/faq_studies_showing_high_frequency_of_women/

A 2009 source but which still contains some useful information and references

Some Australian statistics/background info

ABS Personal Safety survey results 2016

Senior public servants demonstrating their unswerving support for the feminist narrative regarding FDV (12 April 2017) Video

Western Australia: half of reported domestic violence harm caused by 2% of offenders (15 December 2016)

ABS violent crime statistics released July 2016

Behavioural change program for men at risk of committing domestic violence launched in ACT (14 June 2016) Violent/abusive women are completely left out of this program – an outrageous demonstration of gender bias (lodge a complaint here). More on crazy developments in the ACT at ‘Domestic violence levy: Canberra sets an absurd precedent‘ (18 June 2016)

Is a national approach needed to address domestic violence in Australia? (1 April 2016) Provides brief overview of what’s happening in each state

ABC Fact File: Domestic Violence in Australia (6 April 2016)

More than 125,000 women homeless because of domestic violence (15 February 2016). The only figures for male victimisation that were mentioned – because they appeared to support the feminist perspective – were drawn from this media release from a government agency. What’s not mentioned though is that the relatively low numbers of men seeking assistance are indicative of factors other than simply lower rates of male victimisation, incl.:

  • the rampant genderbias of ‘help-lines’, advocacy groups and even government agencies
  • the (widely-known) lack of resources available to help male victims (with or without children, and
  •  the much greater incidence of non-reporting of DV by men (compared to women)

FactCheck Q&A: is domestic violence in Australia on the decline? (3 February 2016) Also includes 75+ readers comments

Australian DV statistics fact-sheet produced by the organisation ‘One in Three’

Domestic Violence in Australia: Are women and men equally violent?

Domestic Violence, by Chris Lloyd (21 January 2015) Very thorough, especially in relation to Victorian DV statistics

Anglicare WA survey summary with further details available from Anglicare WA’s web site (2014)

2014 article that discusses teen dating abuse and found roughly equal number of male and female abusers.

Boys Victims of Dating Violence, Too (29 January 2016) USA

This paper by the Australian Domestic and Family Violence Clearinghouse is also worth reading, although I disagree with aspects of it. It is entitled ‘The Gender Debate in Domestic Violence: The Role of Data‘ (May 2013)

An April 2014 discussion about domestic violence and its relationship to urban planning practice.

http://mensrightsmelbourne.com/2014/03/26/domestic-violence-by-women-over-the-past-eight-years-rocketed-by-159/

Intimate Partner Abuse of Men, by Tilbrook, E.,  Allan, A., and Dear, G. (2010)

Articles on IPV sourced from the ‘A Voice for Men’ web site (various authors)

The irrefutable proof is in: DV is not gendered (except when it is, which is most of the time) by David King (2 August 2016) Australia. Recommended reading

Steven Pinker: sex, violence, and failure of enlightenment (11 September 2015)

This article and related reddit discussion concern a move in Victoria, Australia, to alter the law in relation of using self-defence where death of a partner occurs (article) (discussion)

NCFM Vice President responds to criticism about MRA’s and the AVfM conference in Detroit (25 July 2014)

Recruiting domestic violence spies by Jim Muldoon (18 July 2014)

http://www.avoiceformen.com/mens-rights/domestic-violence-industry/the-cycle-of-the-female-abuser/ (15 July 2014)

http://www.avoiceformen.com/mens-rights/the-state-of-play-for-men-domestic-violence/

http://www.avoiceformen.com/feminism/feminist-lies-feminism/the-feminists-great-equality-lie/

http://www.avoiceformen.com/mens-rights/domestic-violence-industry/australian-domestic-violence-hysteria/

http://www.avoiceformen.com/men/mens-health/callout-to-australian-british-and-canadian-men-for-help/

On male victims of domestic violence by M. R. Walks (17 February 2012)

http://www.avoiceformen.com/allnews/flawed-domestic-violence-survey-challenged-by-mens-health-advocates/

http://www.avoiceformen.com/mens-rights/domestic-violence-industry/when-a-girl-hits-you/

http://whatmenthinkofwomen.blogspot.com.au/2010/10/dv-debate-paul-elam-against-feminist.html

General articles on Intimate Partner Violence drawn from other sources

The demonization of Australian men, by Augusto Zimmermann (14 February 2019)

Growing number of men reporting domestic violence to police, ONS figures reveal (22 November 2018)

The proportion of male victims who told police about their domestic abuse increased from 10.4% in 2014-15 to 14.7% this year as charities said more men were shaking off the stigma of talking about their suffering.

How Victoria’s family violence system fails some victims – by assuming they’re perpetrators (14 November 2017) I thought this paper was going to talk about men being misidentified as DV aggressors, but oh no, apparently it happens to women all the time <facepalm> and men exploit this to obtain intervention orders to protect themselves (& their children) from women who aren’t really hitting/abusing them.

Studies Show Lesbians Much More Likely to Beat, Sexually Abuse Their Wives Than Heterosexual Men (15 August 2017) This article contains several dead hyperlinks – the relevant references are as follows:

The National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey (NISVS): 2010 Findings on Victimization by Sexual Orientation (January 2013)
Victimization Over the Life Span: A Comparison of Lesbian, Gay,
Bisexual, and Heterosexual Siblings (2005)
When your rapist is a woman (30 March 2016)
Lena Dunham Didn’t Molest Her Sister, but Female-on-Female Sexual Abuse Is Real and Awful (4 November 2014)
Lesbian intimate partner violence: Prevalence and dynamics (2002)
Victimization and Perpetration Rates of Violence in Gay and Lesbian Relationships: Gender Issues Explored (1997)

Dear Feminists: Stop Denying The Connection Between Alcohol And Domestic Violence‘ by Corrine Barraclough (2 May 2017) Australia

Questions about violence against women are for all, not just migrants, by Wendy Tuohy (24 April 2017) Not even a hint that men are also victims of DV = substandard journalism for which there is no longer any excuse.

Why gender can’t be ignored when dealing with domestic violence (28 March 2017)

Domestic Violence: A Male Problem? (23 March 2017) UK

10 lies abusers tell themselves (and others). Calling out the common deceptions. (11 February 2017) Interesting article re: how abusers rationalise their actions

Flowers = Domestic Violence. Feminist hypocrisy at its peak (8 February 2017) Australia

The Duluth model is working as designed; you won’t smart mouth her again (3 February 2017)

On the psychology of domestic violence, by Ally Fogg (13 January 2017) UK

Shocking domestic abuse statistics don’t show the real picture: it’s even worse (14 December 2016) UK. This is one of several articles written by feminists in response to the recent release of stats showing the large (and increasing) number of male victims. Essentially they say ‘it doesn’t matter how many men are victims, women have it worse and we should focus entirely on them’.

Tory MP Faces Abuse From Feminist Colleagues After Opposing Sexist Bill (17 December 2016) UK

Stopping Fathers Committing Family Violence (13 December 2016) The Victorian Government (Australia) ignores female perpetrators of domestic violence – it’s something only dads do! Disgusting bias

More than one in three victims of domestic abuse are now men (10 December 2016) UK

San Antonio Judge Rules Men Not Capable of Being Victims of Domestic Violence (2016) USA

Sydney police officer breaches AVO (2 December 2016) A female officer, if that’s relevant

Should we scrutinise ALL reports of family violence? by Jasmin Newman (22 November 2016)

Domestic violence convention would make men ‘second class citizens’ (19 November 2016) Ireland

The fight against domestic violence needs to look beyond blaming men, by Stephanie Ross (6 November 2016) Australia

Governments accused of failing to fully recognise role of alcohol in family violence  (27 October 2016) Australia

Domestic violence: Perpetrators would receive warning texts and videos (21 October 2016) Australia

Black women’s lives matter too, by Nyunggai Warren Mundine AO (15 October 2016) Australia

Evidence for impact of Domestic Violence Perpetrator Programmes: College of Policing evidence commentary (undated) UK

“This ‘review of reviews’ concluded that no clear impact of DVPPs has been identified, and that effects on further victimisation have been small.”

To stop domestic violence, we need to change perpetrators’ behaviour (5 October 2016) This article in pro-feminist The Conversation completely ignores the reality of female abusers and the lack of counselling services for them.

It’s time to admit the truth about domestic violence, by David Leyonhjelm (27 September 2016) Australia

Force game-changer: Deputy Commissioner Wendy Steendam on a mission to end violence against women (23 September 2016) Australia

BBC & Notts Police Chief publicise non-existent “hate crimes” against women whilst ignoring fatal domestic violence against men (22 September 2016) UK

Why does the CPS report on violence against women include men in the stats? by Ally Fogg (7 September 2016)

Denying female domestic violence, by Augusto Zimmermann (28 August 2016)

Douglas Todd: B.C.’s domestic-violence programs based on ‘false’ theory (21 August 2016)

Always beating up on men, by Bettina Arndt (20 August 2016) Recommended reading

Gulags for New Zealand men (18 August 2016)

This is one of countless examples of how feminist DV advocacy groups seek to minimise both women’s role in perpetrating abusive behaviours, and its degree of impact on male victims.

Study findings on domestic violent present ‘challenging picture’  (16 June 2016) New Zealand

“The findings of an in-depth domestic violence study, which showed violent conduct almost evenly split between the genders, are potentially cause for concern, a senior police officer says.”

The gender of domestic violence (8 June 2016) NZ video concerning the difficulty experienced by researchers whose findings showed that women were equally likely to abuse.

Violent Parents – Calling for the End to Child Contact at Any Cost, by Jess Phillips MP (20 April 2016) UK. Article by well-known staunch feminist who implies all abusive parents are men, which as some readers point out is grossly misleading.

ABC’s Q&A program proves that ignorance is still rife about domestic violence, by Anne Summers (15 April 2016) Feminists get so angry when people dare to suggest that misogyny/gender inequality is not THE penultimate cause of domestic violence. I read this piece and think ‘pot-kettle-black’

My province’s government instructs police officers to treat domestic violence with a “gendered lens” and assume that men are perpetrators. How can this be changed? (19 April 2016) Reddit discussion thread with linked reference material. Note that male victims of DV are much more likely to report being “very dissatisfied” by their treatment at the hands of police. Is it any wonder?

Minister for Prevention of Family Violence needs to think about her own family history, by Bettina Arndt (1 April 2016) Australia

A female voice for ‘demonised’ men (16 March 2016) Australia

Changing attitudes towards domestic abuse against men (16 March 2016) UK

Why female violence against men is society’s last great taboo, by Martin Daubney (15 March 2016) UK

The Melbourne suburbs where a parent is most likely to murder their child (12 March 2016) Australia

The scandal of women’s violence towards men, by Melanie Phillips (11 March 2016) To read the full article seems to require a subscription to The Times.

Women Who Emotionally Abuse Men (29 February 2016)

Spain gender laws: A country against men (18 February 2016)

Australians are being told that gender inequality is the root cause of domestic violence. But is it?, by Gay Alcorn (19 February 2016)

Dad domestic violence victim fears courts being used as a weapon (22 January 2016) Australia

The solutions: ‘We can make it better’ | Behind Closed Doors (31 December 2015) NZ

For Nelson Women’s Refuge manager Katie O’Donnell, the solution to New Zealand’s domestic violence problem is more straightforward. “People say it’s a really complex issue. Well, it is a complex issue but also it isn’t – guys just have to stop doing it”

Vera Baird, a British regional ‘Police Commissioner’, disseminates a Christmas message implying that men who budget their finances carefully do so in order to “economically abuse” their partners (25 December 2015)

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Dear Daddy: Viral video highlights how sexist jokes contribute to culture of violence against women (16 December 2015) Australia. Same old stuff, demonising men and putting full responsibility on them to ‘fix’ domestic violence whilst ignoring female perpetration of violence.

Blindfolded with a White Ribbon, by Geoffrey Luck (27 November 2015) Australia

Silent Victims, by Bettina Arndt (14 November 2015) Australia

A simple solution to domestic violence, a video by Janet Bloomfield (15 October 2015)

The surprisingly common reason John hits his partner (14 October 2015) Of course a male batterer is profiled, but watch the fur fly when someone suggests a contributing factor that doesn’t fit the feminist Duluth Model.

The cause of both domestic violence and terrorism is angry men (6 October 2015)

Turnbull’s response to domestic violence ignores the evidence (6 October 2015)

Miranda Devine: Demonising men won’t stop domestic violence (27 September 2015) Australia – with an example of the predictable feminist reaction here. Miranda responded to her feminist critics firstly with this article, and then this one.

Domestic violence package: A great start, but it will only get us so far (25 September 2015) Australia

Domestic violence called “Violence against Women” (21 September 2015) A Reddit Australia discussion thread that followed an ill-informed comment by newly-installed Prime Minister Malcolm Turnbull

Men’s anti-Domestic Violence advocate says scourge “is a male problem” (13 September 2015) Plenty of readers comments that are highly critical of the White Ribbon Campaign Ambassador quoted in the article

The Hidden Politics of Family Violence (8 August 2015) Australia

Why men feel aggrieved in family court interventions (11 August 2015) Australia

To change attitudes to family violence, we need a shift in gender views (22 July 2015) Disgracefully biased article from The Conversation wherein the feminist author laments Australians growing realisation that DV is not a gendered issue, dismissing this as a “misunderstanding”.

Domestic Abuse: ‘It is not a women’s issue and it is not a men’s issue. It’s a human problem’ (14 July 2015) Ireland

Lawrence Ben Eliezer on Institutionalized Feminism within the Criminal Justice System (14 July 2015) Canadian video

Retiring magistrate Ron Kilner says domestic violence laws have been exploited (11 July 2015) Australia. Interesting how politicians, judges, etc, only begin speaking freely and honestly about gender-related issues upon their retirement. (see my post on this theme here)

Family violence: the focus should be on support, not mandatory reporting (3 July 2015) This links to an article in the ABC web site, but the same article was also published in The Conversation. Feminist authors remains true to type by ignoring male victims and abusive women. Australia

Rosie Batty – The Opposite Case (28 June 2015) Australia

Patriarchy vs Facts: Domestic Violence (PART I) (23 June 2015) Video

Men experiencing or perpetrating domestic violence have higher incidence of mental health problems (20 May 2015)

Domestic violence a ‘silent epidemic’ in gay relationships (30 May 2015) Australia

Mark Latham on why Labor can’t get it right on domestic violence (16 May 2015) and the obligatory feminist bite-back (this one being one of the milder responses)

$16m for dom violence but $1.2b for terrorism (14 May 2015) Australia

UK article about the high level of violence amongst lesbian couples (7 May 2015)

Miranda Devine: The brutal truth about domestic violence (5 April 2015)

Dating violence protections empowering for young men, women (2 April 2015) USA

Violence against women should mean the end of any high profile career (30 March 2015) See great reader’s comment contributed by Mark Dent

Reddit TIL discussion thread about recent CDC research claiming more men are victims of partner abuse (23 March 2015) USA and related mensrights discussion thread

Tara Moss: ‘We can’t let trolls hijack the domestic violence conversation’ (5 March 2015) Australia. This is the feminist concept of a “conversation” – we talk & you shut-up. If you try to join our conversation then you are a troll. And, as is becoming increasingly common of late, no reader’s comments were permitted on this article.

Men forgotten in violence debate‘ by Tanveer Ahmed (9 February 2015), with follow-up article, Feminism in crisis as male supporter expresses view of his own (9 February 2015)

Domestic Violence: How taboos veil the truth‘ by Don Edgar (27 January 2015) Australia

Can domestic abusers be rehabilitated? (1 February 2015) Gynocentric/pro-feminist bias but worth reading in conjunction with the comments contributed by readers

When it comes to Domestic Violence, she says she wants equality – however when faced with a discussion of male victims – she labels it a failure and bitches about statistics #oneistoomany (25 January 2015)

Cutting off unfaithful penises, apparently justified and hilarious (15 January 2015)

Telstra introduces domestic violence leave (13 January 2015) Australia. Article implies only women are victims of domestic violence and leaves us guessing as to whether the company policy is sexist/discriminatory – or just the journalism

Domestic Violence – Donald Dutton Debunks The Gender Paradigm (25 November 2014) Youtube video

Domestic Violence Against Men: Why We Need To Pay More Attention To Vulnerable Males (6 November 2014)

5 Facts about domestic violence to consider this November (and every other month too) by Janet Bloomfield (28 October 2014)

This feminist writer has the gall to attack men’s rights groups on the basis that they are uncaring about the plight of male victims of domestic violence (21 October 2014) Be sure to peruse the readers comments

Our submission to the Home Office consultation on the strengthening of the law on domestic abuse (15 October 2014) Mike Buchanan rails against the rampant anti-male bias evident within both the UK government agencies responsible for dealing with domestic abuse, and within the advocacy groups upon which the agencies confer and rely.

Stefan Molyneux video entitled ‘Domestic violence symposium’ (16 June 2014)

Why don’t we speak up when we see signs of domestic violence? (1 October 2014) This article in a pro-feminist web site provides a stereotypical feminist perspective on the subject. What was notable was that almost all the readers comments attacked the author’s obvious anti-male bias. This article forms the focus of this blog post.

Do we give female domestic violence abusers a pass? (1 October 2014)

In this article a feminist writer, Amanda Hess, attempts to rationalise why domestic violence by a female sports star should be addressed differently than in the case of a male sports star (22 September 2014) Most of the 600+ readers  comments that followed disagreed and told her so in no uncertain terms.

Woman as aggressor: The unspoken truth of domestic violence (19 September 2014)

Trivialising and excusing violence against women (17 September 2014) Author pushes a feminist perspective but there are almost 300 reader’s comments

Women more likely to commit domestic violence, studies show (16 September 2014)

Welsh gender politics putting male and female victims at risk says men’s charity (10 September 2014)

New study of domestic violence: “Women significantly more likely to be physically aggressive” (7 July 2014)

In the US a decline in domestic violence (26 August 2014)

Children most often killed by their mothers (25 September 2012) NZ. This article covers a range of issues other than just filicide.

Is that a frying pan, or are you just unhappy to see me? (2 March 2008)

Men Are More Likely Than Women To Be Victims In Dating Violence, UNH Expert Says (19 May 2006)

http://www.thecitizen.org.au/features/what-about-men-lies-statistics-and-peddling-myths-about-violence-against-women A pro-feminist article that tries to appear even-handed, but it’s worth reading by virtue of the level of detail provided with additional info provided in readers comments.

‘Lollies at a childrens party and other myths: Violence, protection orders and fathers rights groups’ by Miranda Kaye and Julia Tomie (1998). Another detailed but flawed paper in support of the feminist position on DV. Its main line of attack is that available statistics don’t support claims made by men’s rights advocates. It conveniently ignores the fact that most Australian DV research is undertaken by feminists and biased towards finding ‘evidence’ to support a pre-determined conclusion. Thus the accuracy and impartiality of the research is the real issue, rather than the credibility of the whistle-blowers.

The paper also misinterprets and/or takes out of context, many of the comments it attributes to fathers groups in an attempt to portray them as irrational or unreasonable. Finally the authors attack specific statements put forward by fathers groups despite the same arguments having been used (at other times) by feminists in support of their own (feminist) perspective. The authors of this paper, for example, want to jump from one camp to the other (and back again) in relation to the issue of whether behaviour other than physical violence should be included in the definition of domestic violence.

The Modern Day Ducking Stool: Domestic Abuse Programs and Man Shaming (16 August 2014)

More male abuse survivors in rural Ireland are seeking help (27 July 2014)

The Domestic Violence Method (January 2015) Australia

50 domestic violence myths (27 December 2013) USA

Are men really victims of intimate partner violence? (2011) Australia

Women are more violent says study (12 November 2000)

Researcher says women’s initiation of domestic violence predicts risks to women (6 July 2009)

More than 40% domestic violence victims are male, report reveals (5 September 2010) with related discussion thread here (worth reading)

The Gender Paradigm in domestic violence research and theory (2005) Includes coverage of the claim that women engage in violence mainly due to self-defence.

Intimate partner abuse of men (Edith Cowan University, 2010)

Domestic violence: Women abusers on the rise (23 June 2009) Australia

Violent women by Lynette Haas (appeared in the Sunday Mail, 28 March 1999)

Husband abuse: Fact or Fiction by Dr Sotirios Sarantakos (Australia)

Deconstructing Self-Defence in Wife-to-Husband Violence by Dr Sotirios Sarantakos (Australia)

Domestic Violence and the Male Victim by  Anne Lewis & Dr Sotirios Sarantakos (Australia)

Wikipedia entry on domestic violence against men

Domestic abuse community punishments ban planned by Labour (27 July 2014) And unsurprisingly, no mention of male victims.

Sorry for being a man (NZ politician) Youtube video

We need to show it’s just not manly to hit out (9 July 2014) Nonsense article dripping with white knight bias … “The idea that the woman may be equally to blame, even if she is also violent and even the initiator of the violence, is simply not acceptable”

Society’s acceptance of domestic violence? (12 March 2013)

Youtube video interview on DV with Erin Pizzey, Senator Anne Cools & Dr. Martin Fiebert

http://time.com/2921491/hope-solo-women-violence/ (25 June 2014) with related discussion at http://www.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/2942ji/double_standards_that_cause_womens_violence/?utm_source=twitterfeed&utm_medium=twitter

Christina Hoff Sommers on violence against women (Youtube video)

Women ‘more likely to hit their partners’ (25 June 2014), ‘Rise of female relationship terrorists: Study finds women are more controlling’ (26 June 2014), ‘Relationship terrorists study‘ (25 June 2014), Women are more controlling and aggressive than men (26 June 2014), ‘Women more likely to be aggressive in relationships‘, and ‘Confessions of an intimate terrorist‘ Reddit discussion thread and linked article (27 June 2014)

Mothers ‘faking domestic violence’ to keep their children, inquiry told (24 June 2014) Yes, Therese (Edwards), domestic violence IS under-reported, especially those incidents involving female perpetrators – but I doubt that your National Council has expressed any concerns about that issue. By way of background, this article concerns submissions to an Australian government Inquiry into Child Support.

More than 40% of domestic violence victims are male, report reveals (22 June 2014)

When a woman hits a man it’s justified (21 June 2014)

The fallacious stereotype of ‘male violence’ and why it’s being sold to you (11 June 2014) Good Australian article by Adam Blanch. This attracted a spiteful, biased and misleading rebuttal from a feminist by the name of Caitlin Roper. Caitlin herself had earlier published her own item about domestic violence, a response to which was subsequently penned by Australian MRA Greg Canning.

Senator Anne Cools at Toronto conference on domestic violence (2014, video)

Daisy Kler lying to the public by Diana Davison and John Hembling (26 May 2014)

Shifting the gender bias (19 April 2014) An example of one of the all-too-few media articles that recognise and are sympathetic to male victims of DV

VAWA: The American Feminists’ Abuse Industry by Hunter Brooks

The silence of domestic violence

A reddit discussion thread about the anti-male bias evident in the web site of an American domestic violence centre’s web site. Unfortunately such bias (i.e. stating or implying that all men accessing the site are abusers and that all women are victims) is also common in domestic violence centres in Australia.

Male victims of DV who call the police are more likely to be arrested than the female perpetrator (A discussion thread on reddit/mensrights) and then see this article

Solange and Jay-Z: It’s simply not the same if a man is hit by a woman (18 May 2014)

She punched him but he is bigger, so he is deemed the “primary aggressor” (6 May 2014)

http://judgybitch.com/tag/have-you-ever-beat-up-a-boyfriend/

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/men/thinking-man/10752232/Our-attitude-to-violence-against-men-is-out-of-date.html

http://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/brand-what-do-you-do-when-a-girl-hits-you/

Invisible victims: When men are abused

Signs of an abuser apply to women as well as men

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gekyg7yy4Dc&feature=plcp (a ‘Girl Writes What’ video)

http://www.eurekastreet.com.au/article.aspx?aeid=38186#.U0zOOlWSySo (This article has an anti-male bias but there are some good references cited within the readers comments)

http://www.itv.com/news/wales/story/2014-04-07/instances-of-male-domestic-abuse-increases-in-wales/#men-reporting-domestic-abuse-rises-across-wales_346689

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/health/healthnews/10815810/Nagging-could-cost-the-lives-of-hundreds-of-men.html

http://www.theguardian.com/society/2010/sep/05/men-victims-domestic-violence

http://www.oneinthree.com.au/malevictims/

http://whatmenthinkofwomen.blogspot.com.au/2013/07/dr-greg-canning-on-domestic-violence.html

http://www.drceli.com.au/blogs/elizabeth-celi-blog/2011/11/19/male-victims-of-domestic-abuse—an-under-served-group-of-men

http://twnow.com/tech-founder-in-shocking-domestic-abuse-case/ (29 April 2014)

http://www.batteredmen.com/

http://j4mb.wordpress.com/2014/01/11/vera-bairds-response-to-our-recent-public-challenge-concerning-domestic-violence/

http://www.australianmensrights.com/Domestic_Violence_Statistics-Child_Abuse_Australia/National_Times_Really-Women_Bash_Men-Violent_Women_Australia-Study_Kim_Halford_08MAR2011.aspx

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Not our fault so who we gonna blame? The (scary, scary) patriarchy!

Well the term ‘patriarchy’ gets thrown around a lot by feminists. Apparently it’s like hell for women. Sort of a catch-all for all the bad things that happen to women that can’t be (in their minds) blamed either on themselves or one particular guy.

Wikipedia defines patriarchy as:

“Patriarchy is a social system in which males are the primary authority figures central to social organization, occupying roles of political leadership, moral authority, and control of property, and where fathers hold authority over women and children. It implies the institutions of male rule and privilege, and entails female subordination.”

Basically feminists claim that men have constructed, and continue to maintain, a social paradigm expressly designed for our own benefit. If that were the case then it’s hard to explain statistics like these and these, showing men at a disadvantage is so many areas. I figure that us guys could build a better paradigm than that.

Yes, there are ruling elites present within our society. And yes, well over 50% of their members are probably men. But a social system created by men for men? A fairy tale. And don’t anyone dare suggest that the ruling coven of contemporary feminists are in fact a ruling elite in their own right (and one that continues to grow in influence).

The following articles explore the concept of patriarchy in some detail:

The Matriarchy – Patriarchy Continuum (18 January 2016) USA

The top 10 ways men are getting a raw deal in the world of work (25 August 2014)

Why patriarchy is the greatest social system ever created (6 February 2014)

http://www.avoiceformen.com/mens-rights/activism/patriarchy-for-dummies/

http://www.avoiceformen.com/feminism/the-patriarchy-myth-revealed/

http://owningyourshit.blogspot.com.au/2011/07/patriarchy-shmatriarchy.html

http://www.genderratic.com/p/820/a-new-definition-of-patriarchy/

http://www.avoiceformen.com/gynocentrism/feminist-archeologist-accidentally-destroys-feminist-theory-of-patriarchy/

http://www.avoiceformen.com/feminism/the-intersection-of-patriarchy-theory-and-female-accountability/

See also:

http://www.debate.org/forums/Society/topic/39026/

http://fraudulentfeminist.tumblr.com/post/71689573208/i-need-feminism-because-the-patriarchy-isnt

http://www.genderratic.com/p/2645/hypoagency-hypoagency-and-blaming-everything-on-men/

I’ll dig out some more references over time and add them here (feel free to suggest some)

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Privilege, respect, and entitlement

Privilege

Kathy Gyngell: The silence of the males (13 November 2017)

There is no ‘debate’ to be had over the existence of male privilege, by Ruby Hamad (1 June 2017)

Insanity grows on Australian campuses: Melbourne U starts “white male privilege” workshops (30 May 2017)

Do you think women will ever recognise their privilege? (23 December 2016) Reddit men’s rights discussion thread.

Lessons on ‘male privilege’ in $21.8m Victorian schools program (14 October 2016) Australia

Is it ever possible to accept victimhood as a man? (7 October 2016)

Ten privileges of being male (4 October 2016) Video

Women Are Privileged, But Feminism Lies to Us (14 July 2016) USA

I love my female privilege, by Janet Bloomfield (2 April 2016) USA. Video. Don’t miss the viewers comments

Feminism = Theft (2 January 2016)

The truth about male privilege, by Stefan Molyneux (27 May 2015) Video

Finland Warns 900,000 Men About War Conscription; Feminists Remain Silent (9 June 2015)

Louder Than Words: What Modern Feminism Has Actually Achieved (3 June 2015)

The harrowingly oppressive burden of female privilege (9 January 2015)

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I renounce my female legal privileges (11 October 2014)

5 legal rights that women have that men don’t (13 August 2014)

48 Female Privileges, by Sargon of Akkad (7 May 2014) Video

It happened to me: I’m a short guy (30 January 2012)

Abandoning men: Jill gets welfare – Jack becomes homeless (15 April 2011)

How can you be an anti-feminist? Do you not believe in equality?

http://thoughtcatalog.com/chelsea-fagan/2013/02/white-girl-privilege-and-the-problem-with-blaming-all-men/

http://equality4men.com/2013/11/03/10-reasons-we-need-a-campaign-to-end-violence-against-men-and-boys/

Why do white men have any right to give their WHITE MAN opinions about non WHITE MAN issues?

Pray men never take a day off (18 September 2013)

http://youngcons.com/meet-the-poster-child-for-white-privilege-then-have-your-mind-blown/ (reprinted here with many readers comments)

http://www.theonion.com/articles/white-male-privilege-squandered-on-job-at-best-buy,35835/?utm_source=Facebook&utm_medium=SocialMarketing&utm_campaign=LinkPreview:1:Default

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2606501/As-UN-inspector-claims-worlds-sexist-country-Sexist-Nonsense-Britain-best-place-Earth-woman.html

http://thoughtcatalog.com/mark-saunders/2014/04/18-things-females-seem-to-not-understand-because-female-privilege/ and the subsequent feminist response here

http://thoughtcatalog.com/gordon-avery/2014/04/female-privilege-is-real-and-we-need-to-talk-about-it-like-adults/#disqus_thread

http://www.cultural-misandry.com/female-only-programs/ versus http://www.cultural-misandry.com/mens-rights/

http://www.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/230e22/privilege_checking_is_classist_and_ineffective/

http://dontneedfeminism.tumblr.com/post/71296725109/discrimination-of-men-facts

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Respect

A while ago I came across a US state program that was designed to encourage males to have respect for women. The organisation ‘A Voice for Men’ responded with a provocative and graphic statement along the lines of “we’ll have respect for those people who are deserving of respect”. Read the comments that follow the pictures to capture the essence of the ensuing discussion.

David was one amongst the many feminists and camp followers to bite back. David’s article concluded with the statement:

“The logic here is airtight: because some women get drunk and urinate in public, women don’t deserve respect.

I guess men never get drunk and urinate in public, or ever do anything vaguely embarrassing that gets caught on camera?

Is it really asking too much to respect people as people, foibles and all?”

Well David, yes it is too much to ask of feminists apparently. Can you name even one single male “foible” that feminists are willing to accept?

Men do some gross things, and its usually no-one’s fault but our own. The difference is that we admit it instead of denying it to maintain a moral high ground above the opposite sex … or alternatively blaming our behaviour on someone else or some mythical matriachy. Hell when some guys really go too far we even express pointed criticism of their behaviour, and urge them to lift their game. Another significant point of difference, yes?

If feminists were truly into equality then surely they would support a reciprocal program that urged girls and women to ‘Respect men’. No? What’s that I hear? Guffaws of laughter instead? Telling, isn’t it?

In fact on that point, a post that I recently contributed to an online discussion was zapped by a moderator because I concluded with the suggestion that women should respect men (in the same sentence I also said men should respect women). It wasn’t even a feminist site either. This is what things have come to … simply suggesting that women should respect men is just cause to be labelled a ‘redneck’ or similar.

I guess one gender must be more equal than the other, or something.

See also:

CNN Advocates Female Infidelity As Best Way For Women To “Endure” Modern Marriage (6 October 2017)

Bad Girls Advice group removed from Facebook over bestiality posts (22 July 2017)

UCSC Girls: College Boys are Creepy, Arrogant, and Suck in Bed (17 April 2017) USA. So much respect

YouTuber promises to release sex tape (23 January 2017) Feminists can find the time to criticize men on the basis of just about anything, but criticise a woman for eroding respect for women? No way, well not unless they are conservative and/or anti-feminist.

Stripper: There are many girls like Stacey (8 January 2017) Australia. Not seeing any thing here along the lines of an admission of greed, amorality and reckless stupidity. Yeah, girl power

Queensland woman in custody over sex acts with dog (20 November 2016)

Women now use the F-bomb more than men (8 November 2016)

Ladies, you are an utter disgrace (2 November 2016)

Former wife of All Black talks about ‘rampant temptation’ players face (7 October 2016) Notice there is not even a hint of criticism directed towards the girls/women throwing themselves at the players.

Woman arrested for urinating on war memorial (3 July 2016) UK

Ladies, you need to stop husband-shaming (11 May 2016)

Why are married women leaving their men? (14 April 2016)

Mum smoked meth while men gang-raped daughter (6 April 2016) USA

Gold Coast cancer fraud mum sentenced to five years in jail (29 March 2016)

Moment two women who promised a holidaymaker a threesome lead the weary man to a cash machine to empty his bank account after spiking his drink at a Spanish bar (19 March 2016)

Video emerges of half naked woman brawling with another outside late night kebab shop (12 January 2016) UK

Monica Lynn travelled the world for free by getting her dates to pay for it (2 January 2016)

The art of ‘rinsing’ landed these sisters $160,000 worth of gifts (27 November 2015)

Woman who trashed Perth pub toilet in drunk viral video says the exposure has devastated her life (26 November 2015)

It’s time for men to stop putting women down (25 September 2015) Because women never treat men like this

Arielle Engert allegedly offered oral sex to three cops to get all charges dropped (3 September 2015) USA

Woman soaks passengers on Melbourne train after they ask her to turn her music down (31 August 2015) Australia

Disrespecting respectability, dishonoring the honorable, by Dalrock (9 July 2015)

My husband forgot Mother’s Day flowers, so I had sex with someone else (2 May 2015)

Kendall Schler is the world’s dodgiest athlete (20 April 2015)

‘Help! I just accidentally slept with 25 men and I don’t know who the father is…’ (14 April 2015)

University student caught broadcasting live solo sex shows from the campus library (18 November 2014) And if it was a male student he would have been booted not “counselled”

Hello Sunday Morning: Young Australian women are most dependent on alcohol (12 November 2014)

Ladies, It’s Time To Take Responsibility For Your Failed Relationships (11 November 2014)

Vine celebrity Jessica Vanessa quit her job as a kindergarten teacher, now makes six figures from twerking (17 October 2014)

Dwarf stripper gets bride-to-be pregnant on her hens night (11 October 2014)

A question of respect, by Hannah Wallen (14 September 2014)

Women admit to regular lies (29 August 2001)

Russell Brand says no to Katy Perry’s $44 million fortune

The Scarlet Manifesto: The Rise of the Adulterous Woman (13 October 2012)

Sex, lies and ‘rinsing’ guys – Youtube video – Just don’t call them prostitutes

After ditching her family, Occupy mom snags $85k in divorce (28 October 2012)

Women paying for cab fares with blow-jobs (5 March 2014)

Sex-for-drinks scandal erupts in Mallorca (4 July 2014)

Your husband doesn’t have to earn your respect (22 February 2014)

Entitlement

“What happened to the modern man? I think he got left behind and died of starvation because I don’t see any around these days. I went on a date the other night, shocking right? But when the dinner came to an end and we were laughing away into the sunrise and the check came out- he slid it towards me. If you need to re-read that last sentence then please do so now.

Ahh yes, he slid the check to me and asked to split. The worst word in the English dictionary. Right next to debt and vegetarian. I mean, nobody wants to split their pants, their hair line, alcohol, or especially, a check. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not some mega bitch, but guys will always make more money than girls.” (Source)

‘Mercedes Mum’ Margarite Tomovska pleading for money online to fund lavish lifestyle (31 May 2019)

Has Tinder really made the modern women this spoiled & entitled? (3 November 2016) See related Reddit discussion thread here.

Entitled People Are More Likely to Be Disappointed by Life (15 September 2016)

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Why feminists hate debating anti-feminists (26 August 2016) Feminists feel entitled to not have their opinions challenged because only they can know their experience as a woman. Although they see no such contraint to understanding/explaining/judging men’s experiences.

Why are feminists absolutely obsessed with entitlement? (11 April 2016)

The fickle face of feminism: Women are fine with sexism… as long as it benefits them, says new study (5 February 2016)

Stripper: Rich Wall Street executives deserved to be drugged and robbed (30 December 2015) USA

David Futrelle defends female entitlement (23 November 2015) Reddit discussion thread and linked article

“The Alpha Widow” (6 November 2015) Reddit discussion thread

Feminists Are Wrong, Women Are More Privileged and Entitled to Space (5 November 2015)

The most ungrateful woman in the world (24 April 2013) Video

Gender identity triangle (3 June 2015) Youtube video

Entitlement, “Nice Guys”, and Feminism (3 June 2015)

The Reality of #GiveYourMoneyToWomen (31 May 2015)

Chivalry but equality: The feminist double-standard, by Prentice Reid (21 April 2015)

When billionaires divorce: wife ‘needs $8600 a month for groceries’  (25 February 2015)

How the feminine imperative “just happens” by Dalrock (26 December 2012)

‘The Missing Fear’ by Dalrock (9 December 2011)

Appreciation by Rollo Tomassi (14 November 2011)

White House meets with activists calling for gender equity in My Brother’s Keeper (15 July 2014) The current US administration shamelessly panders to the feminist hierarchy. They finally introduce one (1!) program aimed at helping males, and even then they had to exclude white males because of the anticipated backlash. Were feminists willing to make this one small concession? Oh no. Let’s not worry about the scores of pre-existing programs from which males are excluded. It’s pathetic, it really is. When are people going to wake up to what is going on?

Psychologists find that entitlement predicts sexism, in both men and women (7 June 2014)

The culture of narcissism and the female entitlement mentality (25 June 2024)

A Middle-aged Princess grows up

http://www.kidstrangelove.com/2014/04/16/the-1-rule-of-malefemale-interaction/

The top 10 reasons men should avoid princesses (27 March 2012)

A tongue-in-cheek Youtube video about modern-day princesses

What A Shame!Gold Diggers In Training Mothers Teaching Their Little Girls To Marry For Money (21 February 2010) YouTube video

Helena Andrews explains why men should always pay for dinner by Janet Bloomfield (9 September 2013)

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Some related posts within this blog:

Female privilege check-list
If feminists have a genuine case then what’s with all the distortion, lies and exaggeration?
Persistent pro-feminist and anti-male bias in the mainstream media
Karen Straughan and others on feminist shaming tactics
Men in the media. Haw Haw Haw! The jokes on us