Len & The Lamprey: The other side to the issue of financial abuse

I have been thinking of writing a post on this issue for some time, but was finally spurred into action after reading an article entitled ‘The financial abuse that affects 2 million Australian women‘, by Bianca Hartge-Hazelman. Bianca is the Founder & Chief Executive Officer of Financy, a finance publication for women. Bianca informs us that:

“Research indicates that financial abuse, at the hands of one partner over another in intimate relationships, is widespread and common in Australia.”

“Financial abuse is a form of domestic violence which each year costs the economy $15.6 billion, according to the National Council to Reduce Violence against Women and their Children (NCRVWC).”

So how many men are also subject to financial abuse at the hands of their partners? We don’t know as Bianca says nothing whatsoever about *that* side of the equation. Bianca’s article is not unusual in this regard, given that most articles on financial abuse ignore financial abuse perpetrated by women. Another Australian example is ‘Gloves off as the abused take control‘ (18 August 2015), whilst this one is from the U.K.

I could spend hours hunting for relevant statistics, but what’s the point when feminists are invariably nonplussed when confronted with facts anyway. Instead I thought I would take a different tack and recount to you the experiences of a male friend of mine. Let’s call him ‘Len’, and let’s call his ex-wife ‘The Lamprey‘ (or TL for short).

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Len is one of the countless men who have been – and still are being – subjected to financial abuse by women they love, or once loved. His financial exploitation remains ongoing, although the worst is certainly over. He loves his kids, and with a shared custody arrangement in place Len has no choice but to remain in fairly close contact with his ex.

And no, I can assure you that I am not Len, but I do know him well enough to guarantee the accuracy of this account.

Len worked hard and accumulated assets. Although only in his thirties at the time he met his future wife, he was on the way to securing the ability to retire in his 40’s. Anyway they met and fell in love, and moved in together. A little later they married and were subsequently blessed with two youngsters.

The Lamprey had already trained as a teacher and worked in that profession for about six months before latching onto Len. I think she had also done a very limited amount of modeling work. To my knowledge she hasn’t worked another day since the time she moved in with Len.

Whilst living with Len, TL *chose* not to work. AFAIK there was no pressure from Len either way. Len paid for domestic help (i.e. cleaner, nanny, etc), which was just as well given her aversion to grocery shopping and housework. She also sent the kids out to child care at the first opportunity. How lucky that TL had chosen a husband who didn’t mind cooking. So, you might be asking, what did she do with her time?

The Lamprey loved to spend Len’s money. She went out for long lunches with friends at expensive cafes, she went shopping for clothes, and sometimes she took herself to stay at (you guessed it) expensive health spa resorts.

One of TL’s less endearing habits was waiting for Len to come home from work and then – as he began cooking/helping kids with homework/etc, she would say “Oh, I might go and have a shower now“, not to be seen again until dinner was on the table.

All the time Len doted on his wife and kids. He didn’t fool around with other women despite having ample opportunity to do so. They occasionally quarrelled on the few occasions when Len raised the issue of TL’s selfishness and profligate spending, but he certainly was never abusive towards her. Mostly he just let it pass.

Len bought some land in a prestige location and set about building the house of his dreams. It was a long, tiring and costly process. When it was finally finished (after about 2 years) he then, with the now enthusiastic help of TL, set about furnishing it.

By some strange quirk or coincidence, soon after they moved into the new house, TL announced that she no longer loved Len and asked when he could move out. TL had already briefed a lawyer and went straight into ‘attack mode’ to get the most generous settlement achievable. Len was completely blind-sided. He refused to move out so TL rented an apartment – at Len’s expense of course.

As reality set in Len was heartbroken. He tried hard to get TL to attend counselling etc, but she was lukewarm on that idea. Upon realising she had little or no intention of continuing their marriage, and with the added stress of parenting, work and legal proceedings, Len descended into depression and required counselling and medication. His friends and family were worried about both his physical health and state of mind, and incredibly angry about TL’s behaviour.

Allow me to illustrate. On one occasion TL came to collect the children from Len’s house. Len was so ill that he had called an ambulance. TL could not even be bothered to wait with Len to ensure he was OK until the ambulance arrived.

Let’s halt at this point to consider what TL added and subtracted from their 6-7 years of marriage. On the plus side TL contributed two children and companionship for Len.

On the negative side, TL contributed not one dollar to the household budget, did the barest minimum of housework, and when-ever possible farmed the kids out to commercial childcare providers, or to the care of her husband or extended family.

The Lamprey extracted all her very considerable living expenses, 5 star holidays, her divorce-related legal expenses, a large proportion of Len’s assets, and spousal support for 12 months. Len asked TL if he could delay payment of her ‘share’ of the marital home (his dream house) as the real estate market had crashed, and he would have to sell it at a fire-sale price. No, she didn’t care, she wanted ‘her’ money immediately.

I wonder how much of Len’s money, obtained by TL thanks to our outdated and gynocentric legal system, will be preserved for their childrens’ future and how much has already been squandered?

And you know what? Just before her spousal support payments were due to terminate TL had the temerity to ask Len if he could keep the payments going for a while longer. She needed to finish her yoga course before she could earn an income – she said she planned to make a career as an instructor. Thank goodness Len trod on that fabulous idea.

Not long after that, TL moved in with another guy. She married him but wouldn’t give him the kids that he wanted so they divorced not long after. Then she moved in with some retired sugar-daddy type character. So from one sponsor to the next as the fun and/or funds started running out.

Since the divorce TL has failed to meet her responsibilities to provide for 50% child support with respect to both the time she devotes to the children, and to her financial contribution to their support. Len has let her off the hook for the sake of the children, in order to preserve some degree of harmony. He rationalises the situation by saying that if they were still married he would be paying 100% of the kids expenses anyway. Throughout the process Len has been patient and gracious to a fault.

Does TL feel in any way guilty about her behaviour? I haven’t asked her, but I don’t believe so. Hell no. Her attitude, which I suspect is quite common, is that she only took what she had a right to take under the law. So that’s gotta be fair, right? Of course, nil consideration given as to whether the law/family court itself is actually fair. Well, TL et al, it’s not.

Is this not financial abuse? Damn right it is. Am I saying that most divorces are like this? No, but Len’s situation is far from being a rare occurrence in my experience. In fact I don’t think I would know anyone in my network of friends/family/acquaintances who has not seen this pattern play out several times within their own circles. Can it be any wonder that more and more men are reconsidering the wisdom of getting married?

Anyway that’s what can happen when couples divorce (or simply separate in the case of de-facto couples). But the extent of financial abuse of men by women goes well beyond divorce. Consider:

  • ‘Sperm-jacking’, where a woman impregnates herself with sperm recovered from a condom, etc, and then demands child support (refer for example to this item)
  • Intentional pregnancy in the hope of trapping a man in marriage and/or having a child who is financially supported by another (thanks to mandatory child support till age 18) that occurs after a woman falsely tells a man that she is using contraception
  • False claims of pregnancy from women seeking ‘payment’ of claimed abortion expenses and/or alleged child support (where for example they live in another country and are less likely to be trapped in a lie).
  • Situations where a man or boy is raped by a woman, again resulting in mandatory child support (one legal precedent).
  • Paternity fraud where a man is falsely told he is the father and pays child support. There are many instances where men have become suspicious and arranged DNA testing, found they were not the parent, but the court still subsequently ordered that they continue paying child support nonetheless.

In a growing number of cases we shall also see men subject to the same type of financial abuse traditionally experienced by some women. This is the result of the growing number of couples where the man assumes the role of house-husband. This decision may be voluntary or it may result from his inability to secure employment in a work environment that is increasingly favouring women. In such cases the male partner may have either a much lower income than his wife, or no income at all.

I am not surprised that these issues were not addressed in an article on domestic financial abuse by a feminist, for none of them are even blips on the feminist radar screen. And this despite the fact that they can be life-changing events in a man’s life, and in some cases life-ending events. Let that sink in, and ponder on it the next time you hear a feminist crowing about how men should respect women and do more to support them and their causes.

As for me, I cannot and will not respect narcissistic scroungers of either gender.

See also:

My ex left me with 26,000 British pounds of debt (30 April 2019)

Mum received more than $83,000 in donations after ‘pretending to have cancer’ (9 April 2019) UK

The Internet reacts to Cardi B saying she used to drug and rob men (25 March 2019)

Men finally admit to being bullied by their exes over child access, money and love (19 March 2019)

Arizona woman can use fertilized embryos to get pregnant without ex’s consent, court rules (19 March 2019) USA. And *he* has to pay

Men becoming “increasing victims” of coercive control, legal experts claim  (9 March 2019)

When male rape victims are accountable for child support (21 February 2019)

Thousands of dads are left in shock as DIY paternity tests soar (15 January 2019) UK

Domestic Violence and Immigration Fraud Part 2 (20 November 2018) Video

Love-rat faked cancer to dupe three Tinder dates (16 October 2018)

Americans Conned into Marrying Immigrants for Green Cards (14 July 2018)

#MeToo has rich men wary of extortion (8 March 2019)

Three charts on: how emotional and economic abuse go hand-in-hand (20 November 2017) See also reader’s comment by Chris Lloyd illustrating similarity in rates of male/female abuse.

Vancouver women’s shelter sues the victim (6 November 2017)

Millionaires Reduced to Under $10 by Divorce (19 October 2017) A Stefan Molyneux video

Hotshot Wall Street banker says jilted lover drove his Benz into pool (15 October 2017) Men routinely criticized for treating women as sex objects, but women can treat men as success objects/ATM’s with minimal recriminations.

How feminism destroys families (12 September 2017) UK

LIZ JONES: Women NEED diamond rings – it makes hitting men easier (21 August 2017) Liz thinks that both physical abuse and financial abuse of men is OK/justified

Family trusts often cause more harm than good (26 July 2017) Author tut-tuts at men who establish legal structures to protect assets in the event of divorce, or in his words “to avoid the fair division of property after a relationship breakdown”. Because the law is always fair, right? And if someone has to be harmed then it might was well be the husband.

‘My wife didn’t tell me she was trying to get pregnant’ (22 July 2017)

Family finances and family violence: the conversation we need to start, by Moo Baulch (27 June 2017) Hard-line feminist and key figure in Domestic Violence Industry acknowledges male victims – will wonders never cease?

In May 2017 much media attention was given to a practice labelled as ‘stealthing’, whereby men remove their condom during sex without their partners consent (example). Few articles even made passing reference to the fact that women perpetrate a similar act when they falsely claim to be using contraceptives in order to ‘trap’ a man in a relationship and/or secure an income stream via child support payments. This issue was addressed in this article, and then in a follow-up article by Martin Daubney. See also this Reddit discussion thread.

Bell v Landry: paying your wife an ‘allowance’ is an insult (10 May 2017) One-sided wisdom from misandrist journalist, Jenna Price.

Karl Stefanovic and Cassandra Thorburn complete carving-up of assets six months after announcement (6 May 2017) Gee, it costs a guy a lot to keep in touch with his kids nowadays, huh? Another divorce-rape

Man killed himself after being conned out of his life savings by fake girlfriend he met on dating site (5 May 2017) UK

Prostitute allegedly conspired with two male friends to rob cashed-up miner, but inadvertently killed him (4 May 2017)

Millionaire tycoon loses legal fight to stop wife who cheated on him walking away with half of his £150 million fortune (12 April 2017) with related Reddit discussion thread here

When having separate bank accounts is the opposite of independence, by Polly Dunning (21 March 2017) Australia. And again, because only men financially abuse and humiliate their partners.

The biggest financial risk for women today? Embarking on a relationship (19 March 2017) One can always rely on The Guardian to provide an alternative and suitably distorted view of reality.

Unwanted child is no grounds to sue mum for lying about taking the pill: court (4 March 2017)

Now it’s men who are the victims of lonely hearts fraudsters (8 March 2017) UK

Revealed: the hidden problem of economic abuse in Australia (2 March 2017) This article provides corresponding figures for abuse of men, although the definition employed excludes many of the variations of abuse noted in this post.

Economic abuse a relatively unknown form of domestic violence (2 March 2017)

‘Getting divorced? Go after his pension’ (25 February 2017)

Men outraged over paying child support for kids who are not theirs (23 February 2017) USA

Conwoman Sanaa Derbas jailed for dating scam targeting lonely men (23 February 2017)

A website dedicated to trapping men with falsified pregnancy documents, sonograms, test results, etc. is ruthlessly investigated … many male victims interviewed (13 February 2017) Reddit discussion thread with linked video.

‘Reliable honest’ husband who handed his wife, 51, all of his ready cash in a divorce 15 years ago is told he must up her maintenance after she blows the lot on ‘unwise property investments’ (7 February 2017) UK

Chilling confession of ‘Sextortion Queen’ in Philippines (24 January 2017)

‘He took away my money and my freedom’: Financial abuse is just as destructive as physical abuse but often goes unnoticed (22 January 2017) UK

Very much focused on the abuse of women, but at least this article notes that 40% of victims (in the cited study) were male.

When care becomes control – financial abuse cuts across cultures (17 January 2017) Why bother surveying men when financial abuse only happens to women, right?

Nearly a third of parents unwilling to leave estate to their children for fear they will lose it in divorce (4 January 2017)

Nearly half of men who take paternity test are not the real father (3 January 2017) UK

The boss and the secretary: Five reasons powerful men get beautiful girls (20 December 2016) Australia. And another article promoting the notion that only men exploit women.

Woman Claims She’s Paying College Bills With Positive Pregnancy Tests (19 December 2016) USA

This year the most attractive men in the world will lose hundreds of millions to their divorcing wives: Johnny Depp, Brad Pitt and now George Clooney too: his wife is ready to get at least $ 300 million dollars from him (11 December 2016) Reddit men’s rights discussion thread

Mum charged with faking DNA tests to con ex into thinking he was baby’s dad (8 December 2016) UK

Teacher who started a £30m-a-year fashion empire from his garage fights to stop his ex-wife getting £2.7m of his fortune – more than a decade after they split (29 November 2016)

Domestic violence also has an economic penalty – we need to tackle it (29 November 2016) and Financial abuse: The hidden form of domestic violence affecting millions (25 November 2016) Two more articles re: financial abuse that doesn’t even hint that men can also be victimised in this manner

Banks enhance support for family and domestic violence victims (22 November 2016) Australia. The guidelines seem to be reasonably gender-neutral, although I wonder to what extent they will be as applied in real-life. There is also no mention made of the reality of false accusations being made as a form of abuse.

Woman asks her 20 boyfriends to buy her a new iPhone, then sells them all for house deposit (2 November 2016)

Mariah Carey and James Packer split gets nasty with name calling, $50M demand (29 October 2016)

Doctor sues gay friend for child support, 16 years after he first donated sperm to her (27 October 2016)

Sumner Redstone Sues Ex-Companions for Elder Abuse to Reclaim $150M in Gifts (25 October 2016)

Jets, vacation homes, Botox all factors in cancer center founder’s divorce (21 October 2016) USA

Males Out of Work – NYT Does Not Get It (18 October 2016) It’s worth considering that whilst there exists this backdrop of financial abuse, the financial well-being of many men is declining considerably rendering them less able to rebound after losses are incurred.

Marital wallet rape is bad, m’kay? (6 October 2016)

Fake pregnancy: MGTOW (2 October 2016) Video

Blame the Patriarchy! (29 September 2016)

James tells Mariah: ‘Stop spending all my money!’ (26 September 2016)

Man wins fight against paying support for another man’s child (23 September 2016)

ShowerThought about paternity fraud (11 September 2016) Reddit discussion thread

‘I’m not paying for that’: Financial abuse is awfully common (6 September 2016)

Well at least this article acknowledges that some financial abuse of men does occur … only to minimise it by saying “While men are also affected by financial abuse, the majority of cases are women”. Hmm, sounds like so many domestic violence article doesn’t it?

Eddie the Eagle’s fallen flat on his face: Divorce reduces to ski-jump hero to living on egg sandwiches in his shed because his wife has taken £180,000 Hollywood windfall (5 September 2016)

Mum convinces husband to pay for £6,000 boob job then becomes glamour model and dumps him (1 September 2016) UK

“I pleaded with him to lend me the money and knew it would give me a new lease of life” … “I didn’t really have any desire to pay him back. If I had to choose between the boobs and him, it was an easy choice.”

[Parental rights] This is what we’re up against (BURIED in a legal advice sub) (30  August 2016) Reddit discussion thread

Berlin to Require Mums to Come Clean on ‘Milkmen’s Kids’ (29 August 2016) Then read how an Australian feminist thinks this is all about slut-shaming (no mention of the notion of fraud or men being due some modicum of respect.

Comedian Aries Spears: ‘Women … Rape men financially’ through child support demands (24 August 2016)

Sydney mum defrauded lonely men of $2 million (23 August 2016)

American Slavery: Man Paying Child Support for Another Man’s Kid (1 August 2016) USA

US man forced to pay support for a child that’s not his (30 July 2016)

And in a cruel twist, it ‘Turns Out That the Husband’s Job Is Probably the Best Predictor of Divorce‘ (28 July 2016) So those men get hammered twice

Women selling/buying positive pregnancy tests (March 2015) Youtube video

In Defense Of Gold Diggers: It’s Not Always What It Seems (17 January 2015) with related Reddit discussion thread here.

Nurse faked DNA test and pretended friend’s baby was her own to trick one-night stand walks free from prison (1 December 2014)

Relationship problems and money: Women talk about financial abuse by Prue Cameron (2014) Australia

“Financial abuse in a family violence context involves behaviours that ‘control a woman’s ability to acquire, use and maintain economic resources, threatening her economic security and potential for self-sufficiency’” (p13)

Financial abuse of men not even recognised in the definition used for this research project, which subsequently surveyed only women and made recommendations that only applied to women. This despite the fact that most or even all of the specific forms of abuse discussed, such as being dragged into and out of family court, also clearly are also experiences that also apply to men.

Man who paid child support for 22 years can’t get a refund (19 August 2014)

National Organisation of Women (USA) opposes measures that would help protect men from paternity fraud (6 July 2014)

Meet the woman who’s dating her way into meals at top Toronto restaurants (25 October 2013)

How to snag a rich man: Confessions of a gold digger (31 July 2013)

Rape victim in the USA (a boy) is sued for child support (2004) with related Reddit discussion thread here

Should paternity tests at birth be mandatory (12 February 2013) Video

Should we be doing more to expose paternity fraud? (4 September 2015) and related reddit discussion thread

Woman steals ex-boyfriends sperm, has twins, sues for child support(23 November 2011)

http://news.yahoo.com/video/man-may-jailed-not-paying-203459828.html

http://www.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/35rlw6/a_paternity_test_will_be_available_to_buy_over/

Can you make a male baby sitter pay child support?

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Other posts in this blog of relevance to this issue include:

The ‘Marriage Strike’ and MGTOW
On Spousal Maintenance / Alimony
We’ve all heard of the gender ‘income gap’, but what about the ‘expense gap’?
Who pays on dates?
On recognising and supporting male victims of domestic violence

The Cult of Feminism

According to Wikipedia“Feminism is a collection of movements and ideologies aimed at defining, establishing, and defending equal political, economic, and social rights for women. This includes seeking to establish equal opportunities for women in education and employment.”

Feminism has also evolved over time, and historical differentiation has been attempted using the labels first-wave feminism, second-wave feminism and third-wave feminism.

Thus feminism has many tribes holding contrary views on a number of significant issues, as portrayed in the chart below. Further details regarding different forms of feminism can be found here.

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valentiThe vast majority of feminists active in both social media and in lobbying government for policy change are at home on the right hand side of this chart. This group includes Jessica Valenti (pictured right) and Anita Sarkissian. These feminists are by far the most problematic in the context of the sorts of issues discussed in this blog.

In early 2015 only 18% of Americans considered themselves to be feminists (down 10% from 2013), and with most of those only having a superficial knowledge of feminist theory and its tawdry history. In Britain now the percentage of people claiming to be feminists is even lower, sitting at just 7%. Nine percent of respondents in the British survey asserted that feminism was “irrelevant”.

Nevertheless, the feminist hierarchy has no qualms about claiming to be the font of wisdom with regards to what (all) women want and how they should live their lives. Indeed the feminist’s sense of superiority knows no bounds, and they believe themselves to be equally well-qualified to lecture on how men think, and should live their lives.

When challenged in public debate, feminists are often quick to state that feminism is not about hating men. When confronted with hate-filled statements by prominent feminist spokespersons they then shift to the NAFALT (‘not all feminists are like that’) strategy. Yet how often does one hear feminists directly engaging with,  and you know … actually rebuking, these alleged outliers within their movement? Umm, rarely? never?

As various posts in this blog demonstrate, although feminists nominate equality as their primary goal they vigorously pursue policies which create or maintain inequality, even going so far as to obstruct the efforts of others seeking to foster equality. Feminists compound their duplicity by using all available means to stifle and silence those holding opposing views, rather than engaging in open and positive dialogue.

There can be little scope for mutual respect and co-operation given that the bulk of feminists choose to position the male half of the population on a spectrum the ends of which are marked by indifference and loathing.

“Aw, come on ladies! Fuck this “equality” bullshit. I don’t want equality. I want some fucking LIBERATION!  … Equality with men implies men are the standard. Fuck that bullshit. Men are the fucking oppressors! I want liberation from male oppression!” (Source)

As with very many others interested in men’s issues, I was originally very sympathetic towards the feminist message. Have you ever asked a feminist what reading she has done about male rights and male issues? I have, and I can almost guarantee that they will look at you as if you asked them if they could speak dog language. Having uncovered a surfeit of lies, hypocrisy and double-standards by that stage, this was the last straw for me.

Thus it finally dawned on me that most feminists believe that the only role for men in ‘their’ cause is to submit and be silent. This is clear in much of the material written by feminists, for example this article and the readers comments that follow.

Men are required to educate themselves about feminist concepts in order to (partially) redeem ourselves, or at least to do as we are told. There is no corresponding expectation on women, presumably as the male perspective is deemed to be so barren that we have no useful insights to impart. And in just one of their many feats of breathtaking hypocrisy, whilst feminists exaggerate the flaws evident in some men they studiously ignore the weaknesses and/or transgressions of many women.

Feminists promote the idea that women were utterly downtrodden before feminism arrived. In fact they have gone further and re-written history to support their belief in a patriarchy. This is explored in these papers: ‘Did men really have all the power throughout history?‘ and ‘Feminism against historical women‘. Yet still it doesn’t end there, as feminists:

  • usually opt to attack their critics rather than deal with the actual issues that they raise
  • persistently and blatantly misrepresent the position of their detractors
  • wilfully misrepresent reality in order to support their position, for example through the use of bogus statistics
  • wilfully misrepresent themselves as the natural spokespeople for women although most women choose not to identify themselves as feminists and/or are opposed to feminist doctrine
  • are hypocrites in decrying bigotry and sexism whilst pursuing an agenda based around such policies

These are symptoms of a movement that now has big issues in terms of its relevancy and credibility. These are symptoms of a movement whose net effect is increasingly one which threatens social cohesion and exacerbates pressing social problems.

A November 2014 reader poll conducted by ‘Time’ found that the word ‘feminist’ was the number one term (and by a large margin) that people would like to see banished. Also discussed here. When feminists found out they were not amused (article nonsense but good readers comments). Unfortunately at that point ‘Time’ chose to back down and apologise – pathetic really.

This 2015 article stated that only 18% of Americans consider themselves to be feminists, although 85% are in favour of equality for women.

Feminism has devolved into what is essentially a powerful fundamentalist cabal of privileged white western women. These people have manufactured an industry instilling a heady brew of victimhood and entitlement to generate substantial personal benefit for its main players, whilst offering perhaps the last remaining state-sanctioned outlet for bigoted self-expression. Indeed some would go further and assert that feminism displays many of the characteristics of a cult – see how many points of likeness you can tick off on this list. The ‘redstockings manifesto‘ is a piece of feminist history about which most current-day feminists would have no knowledge, yet its doctrine still lies at the heart of what empowered feminists are doing in the here and now.

Please read Seven things feminist hate to hear and absolutely can’t talk about, by Janet Bloomfield (22 April 2015) then view Feminism vs truth (22 September 2014) A short video by Christina Hoff Sommers

This June 2014 blog post by Ben Cobley looks at feminism from a left-wing political perspective. It’s quite heavy reading for those not into political theory but interesting and worth the effort.

Pierce Harlan has written an excellent article comparing the approach by feminists towards the treatment of those accused of rape with the lynch mobs of the American deep south.

An article by Julianne Ross (10 June 2014) entitled ‘The 8 biggest lies Men’s Rights Activists spread about women‘ was woefully biased and misleading. In fact the only good thing about it was the scorching rebuttal it led to, courtesy of an incensed MRA (NB: strong language warning).

A great Youtube video by Victor Zen called ‘Why Feminism is a Thing‘, and another one here called ‘Misandry: Let’s ask Tumblr feminists what they think’.

This article is about feminist double-standards when it comes to the issue of informed consent and rape.

This page is quite interesting in that it provides details of invitations issued to various people to provide information supporting their views after they made sexist and/or anti-male statements. And then read http://bellejar.ca/2014/03/28/why-the-mens-rights-movement-is-garbage/ (also reproduced at at http://www.huffingtonpost.ca/anne-theriault-/mens-rights-movement_b_5049999.html).

Sample also this excellent response from MHRA blogger Judgy Bitch

Even Pope Francis has some wisdom to share with us on the topic of feminism:

“What I would like to add is that feminism, as a unique philosophy, does not do any favors to those that it claims to represent, for it puts women on the level of a vindictive battle, and a woman is much more than that,” the pope wrote. “The feminist campaign of the ’20s achieved what it wanted and it is over, but a constant feminist philosophy does not give women the dignity that they deserve. As a caricature, I would say that it runs the risk of becoming chauvinism with skirts.”

More from Pope Francis on the issue of gender differences here.

Feminism has now devolved to the point that using pre-pubescent girls in expletive-laden videos to further their cause is not only seen as appropriate, but as edgy and cool. (See critiques here and here). There is now a second video by the same producers, the main theme of which is domestic violence. A further example of the inappropriate use of children to bang the feminist drum is discussed here.

John the Other defined feminism thus: ”A doctrine built on the pre-supposition of victimhood of women by men as a foundation of female identity. In its goals is always the utilization of the state to forcibly redress this claimed victimization. In other words, the proxy use of violence and wealth appropriation. In whatever flavour, and variation, these two basic features are common to every doctrine using the label feminism. Feminism is therefore, a doctrine of class hatred, and violence.” (Source)

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See also:

36 Stupid feminist questions answered (8 May 2019) Video

The hidden classism of modern feminism (5 November 2018)

Why feminists are bullies, in a nutshell (3 October 2018) Video

Feminism: Qu’est-ce que qu cest? (9 July 2018)

A Scholar Asked, ‘Why Can’t We Hate Men?’ Now She Responds to the Deluge of Criticism (19 June 2018)

Are you weak if you make your man a sandwich? This is why real men don’t marry feminists (15 October 2017)

‘Women Against Feminism’ are mostly just feminists who don’t hate men (31 August 2017)

Kathy Griffin’s Apology Reversal Illustrates Feminism’s Maddening Identity Crisis (6 June 2017)

Camille Paglia Discusses Her War on ‘Elitist Garbage’ and Contemporary Feminism (14 March 2017)

Belinda Brown: Feminism is a toxic toy for the privileged (8 March 2017)

Feminists wage war against romance on Valentine’s Day (14 February 2017)

More divisive than Trump by Corrine Barraclough (4 February 2017)

I didn’t join the march. I’ve had enough of Obama’s hierarchy of grievance (22 January 2017)

The Sisterhood and a Profound Weariness: Unbiased Analysis (4 January 2017)

Having a son went from a dilemma to being the most valuable lesson of my life, by Polly Dunning (21 December 2016) Australia. Related Reddit discussion thread here. God help this poor little boy (and others like him) who should be allowed to grow up being accepted and loved, rather than have his gender bigot mum use him as a sociology experiment based around a perverse misandric cult.

How to make feminism great again (5 December 2016)

Yes, @kmo75947, Feminists Do Hate Men (16 November 2016)

An ex-Feminist’s thoughts on academia and the tactics of third-wave Feminism (18 October 2016) Reddit discussion thread

Most women in 2016 happy to be female, BBC poll suggests (10 October 2016) And so even with the patriarchy and all the dreadful deprivations endlessly described by feminists, more women are glad to be women rather than men.

The trumpet blasts of the monstrous regiment, by Terry Barnes (26 September 2016) Australia. Good read

Generation of young women is ‘wracked by anxiety, lack of confidence and despair’ caused by financial, work and housing problems (22 September 2016) UK

The things feminists say, by Sargon of Akkad (video)

Why ‘Feminazi’ is a perfectly valid word (18 August 2016)

The coming diversity disaster, by Shay Tan (24 July 2016)

Feminists treat men badly. It’s bad for feminism, by Cathy Young (30 June 2016)

Why are modern women angry? (27 June 2016)

6 Feminist Myths That Will Not Die (18 June 2016)

The Reality of Feminism (a short video presentation)

Random Shit 68: Why Modern Feminism is Complete Bullshit: The Ultimate Facts Sheet

“Nice” feminism: How a hate movement uses its grassroots against men, by Hannah Wallen (4 June 2016) Recommended reading

Julie Bindel Is Right: Marriage Can Never Be Feminist (So Don’t Marry a Feminist) (1 June 2016)

The Cult of Feminism, by Krista Milburn (31 May 2016)

Robert Stacy McCain writes many great articles about feminism. Today (25 March 2016) he published two that are both well worth reading:

What Feminism Is and Isn’t and Feminism: Impossible to Parody

And here is a more recent effort called The Myth of the Masculinity Crisis(recommended reading!)

This person goes through all the reasons given to justify the need for feminism, and de-bunks them all one by one (and cites relevant sources)

The Corruption of Feminism (22 March 2016) Video

Why I No Longer Identify as a Feminist (19 February 2016) Recommended reading

The Transformation Of Feminism Into A Hate Movement And Their Censorship Of Free Speech (12 January 2016)

How to fight your way out of the feminist fog, by Allen J Frantzen (undated)

There’s a Special Place in Hell for Feminism (10 February 2016) USA

White women are the angriest Americans, according to a new “rage survey” (4 January 2016) USA

A truthful little peek into how the feminist mind works (1 January 2016) Reddit discussion thread

Has Feminism Made Women Happier? A Comprehensive Review (31 December 2015)

When is a feminist not a feminist? (18 December 2015)

Fear and Loathing: An Oberlin Feminist on Men, Republicans and Heterosexuality (17 December 2015) USA

The Feminist Fear Factor (30 November 2015) Great article for any man who has ever been told that he’s frightened of independent women

What’s so funny about a men’s rights debate? (29 October 2015)

How to be a feminist (October 2015) Video

Equality, Feminism, and the Zero-Sum Game (18 October 2015) Reddit mens rights discussion thread

Feminism = Madness (8 October 2015) USA

Will Feminism’s Next Big “Wave” Finally Be the One That Drowns It? (5 October 2015)

It’s time to shame ‘shame culture’. All this trivial victimisation has to stop (5 October 2015) UK

Anti-feminism is the new feminism, by Elizabeth Hobson (14 September 2015)

Hateful Guardian writer Julie Bindel proposes Feminazi concentration camps for all men (5 September 2015) Further good paper on this subject here (by The Other McCain)

A Critique of Feminism: A Humanitarian Won’t be Silenced about Sexual and Domestic Violence (24 August 2015)

Feminist Tumblr: Don’t Even Ask (2 August 2015)

Feminism in one word (27 June 2015) Video

Feminism and the turn against enlightenment (11 June 2015)

Feminists don’t challenge radical Islam because real misogynists are terrifying (9 June 2015)

Scholar: ‘Grievance Feminism’ Crippling Debate on Gender Politics (5 June 2015)

Belinda Brown: A century of feminism has failed us. Women have betrayed men’s trust (1 May 2015)

Feminism Born from Boredom, Not Oppression (28 April 2015)

7 things feminists hate to hear and absolutely can’t talk about, by Janet Bloomfield (21 April 2015) Recommended reading plus many readers comments

Feminism for beginners, by Ken Gallagher (19 April 2015)

Is Feminism Dangerous, Dogmatic, and Antiquated? Maybe! (April 2015)

The feminist definition of oppression (24 July 2014) Youtube video by Sargon of Akkad

The courage of building bridges (9 April 2015)

Feminism does not mean equality unless you are a misogynist (29 August 2014)

It’s not enough for men to turn up. They have to do the work, by Clementine Ford (13 March 2015)

Sex v. Gender. Understanding political correctness (12 February 2015)

Feminist Author @PennyRed Quotes Bolshevik Commissar’s Anti-Love Advice (17 January 2015)

Nick Reading of Men’s Rights Edmonton talks about raising awareness of the true nature of feminism (7 January 2015) Videos

Feminism: The movement of low hanging fruit (4 January 2015)

Why feminism needs to end: It’s time to work towards equality by Chris Good (6 December 2014) Why we need a parents liberation movement by Jennie Bristow (27 June 2008)

Four reasons feminism is alienating teenage boys (13 November 2014)

A Lesbian Theory of the Penis (11 November 2014)

Is feminism feminism’s ideal abusive spouse? (8 November 2014)

Applying feminism’s Duluth Model to feminism itself

62p AN HOUR: What women sleeping 16 to a room get paid to make Ed and Harriet’s £45 ‘This Is What A Feminist Looks Like’ T-shirts (2 November 2014)

Feminism: Today’s Women’s Ku Klux Klan (31 October 2014)

Radical feminist violence against men in America (14 October 2014)

What misandry means to me (1 July 2014)

Shut Up, because Rape (2 October 2014)

Janet Bloomfield re-writes a feministing.com article about gender hate (14 September 2014)

Feminist activist women are masculinized in terms of digit-ratio and social dominance: a possible explanation for the feminist paradox (9 September 2014)

Feminists care about equality? Bullshit. They stand directly in the way of it (8 September 2014)

A reader’s comprehensive comment on men’s rights, from the Telegraph UK (July 2014) Reddit mensrights discussion thread

Do men hate women – justifiably? (20 June 2014)

23 quotes from feminists that will make you rethink feminism (17 May 2014)

Modern feminism has got it wrong about men (15 May 2014) More than 2,000 readers comments!

Feminism can’t be bad because it’s definition is … (12 March 2014)

See a man talking about feminism: What could possibly go wrong? (7 August 2014) Mangina mocks men who wish to participate in the gender debate. Many readers comments in the same vein, but with some interesting responses.

The fascism of feminism: Domestic violence and family Where feminism went wrong by Janet Bloomfield

Just one in seven women describe themselves as ‘feminist’ (17 October 2012) (UK article)

Leaving the sisterhood: A recovering feminist speaks, by Elly Tams (13 August 2012) with 349 readers comments

7 ways black sociology shows what is wrong with feminism (26 July 2014) Janet Bloomfield

Men: Stand up for yourselves and we will HATE you. The new feminist war cry (29 March 2014) by Janet Bloomfield (Judgybitch) Brilliant + well-researched piece of writing

Excellent analysis of feminism (21 July 2014) by Suzanne Venker

Giving feminism a bad name (28 May 2012)

Women against feminism is a thing. And we’re confused (14 July 2014) and here is one feminist’s thoughtful response ‘Feminism is fabulous, we just have to smile moreFighting sexism in all the safe places (8 July 2014)

The end game of feminism, by Roosh V (13 February 2013) Deals with the many and varied double-standards of feminism

Man-hating feminism more than just a myth (20 May 2013)

Feminism the noble lie, by Robert Sheaffer (1997)

http://washingtonexaminer.com/shocker-fbi-dumps-southern-poverty-law-center-as-hate-crime-watchdog-partner/article/2546305 (Significant because SPLC’s designation of MRA’s as ‘hate groups’ is often trumpeted by feminists)

http://www.avoiceformen.com/feminism/university-of-ottawa-students-trample-free-speech-mensissues/ (Popular feminist strategy to prevent people from being exposed to ‘the other side of the story’)

Feminism hurts women too (12 February 2014)

A catalogue of feminist lies and cruelty (12 February 2012)

http://www.avoiceformen.com/feminism/excuse-me-what-is-so-wrong-with-being-anti-feminist/ 

http://blog.honeybadgerbrigade.com/uncategorized/dear-feminism-nafalt-goes-both-ways-part-1/ by Hannah Wallen (7 May 2014)

Where did feminism go wrong? (2 September 2009)

Why Modern Feminism Is Illogical, Unnecessary, and Evil (2 August 2009)

The paradox of declining female happiness (May 2009)

How the Feminists’ “War against Boys” Paved the Way for Islam (4 September 2006) An extract from which reads as follows:

“In the year 2000, Swedish feminist Joanna Rytel and the action group Unf**ked Pussy entered the stage during the live broadcast of the Miss Sweden contest. She also wrote an article called “I Will Never Give Birth to a White Man,” for a major Swedish daily, Aftonbladet, in 2004. Rytel explained why she hates white men — they are selfish, exploitative, vain, and sex-crazed — and just to make things clear, she added, “no white men, please… I just puke on them, thank you very much.”

https://twitter.com/NadiaKamil/status/451819420793319424

I presume this 2009 article from The Guardian was meant to be tongue-in-cheek but I don’t find humorous

http://www.genderratic.com/p/4240/feminist-rape-culture-statutory-edition/#comment-354005 http://dusamedia.com/the-feminist-cult/

http://www.avoiceformalestudents.com/banners-and-posters-of-misandry/

http://www.infowars.com/twitter-feminists-campaign-to-killallmen/ and http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pZcTG2yFcBE&feature=youtu.be (On the #killallmen campaign)

http://www.avoiceformen.com/allnews/feminist-hate-explodes-on-twitter-with-killallmen/ http://www.nationalreview.com/article/370451/feminist-mystique-kevin-d-williamson

http://swarthmoreindependent.com/2014/03/23/fat-justice-workshop-degrades-women-stretches-truth/ http://anti-feminism-pro-equality.tumblr.com/antifeminism

Take the test: Feminist shenanigans or satire? (30 April 2014)

Finally, have a look at these Karen Straughan (aka ‘Girl Writes What’) videos:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZR3HE-knTJU

Here Karen features in a panel discussion on the topic of “Do we need feminism?”

Karen challenges the feminist paradigm of helplessness (April 2015)

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Related posts within this blog:

On the censorship of non-feminist perspectives and opinions

Beware the ire of an angry feminist

Not all feminists are like that (NAFALT)