A feminist laments: “Why do so few men turn up to hear women speak?”

An article by Ruby Hamad has leapt to the front of the field in my ‘Foolish Feminist Articles of 2016’ competition. It’s entitled ‘Why do so few men turn up to hear women speak?’. That’s the question, but we don’t have to read too much before we realise that Ruby already knows the answer … men don’t attend because they are disinterested or even contemptuous of women’s issues.

I beg to differ as I think that many men are keenly interested in women’s issues, if only because in most cases these are actually shared issues. It might surprise Ruby to learn that many advocate s for men’s rights were originally very supportive of feminist principles … prior to realising the chasm between dictionary feminism and feminist strategy/priorities IRL. In terms of showing contempt for the opinions of people of other genders, well with feminists I’d say that’s very clearly a case of ‘pot-kettle-black’.

The focus of Ruby’s article was a particular event, the All About Women Festival. “It’s a full day of talks and discussions about ideas that matter to women and provides an important platform for women’s voices … So, invite your friends, your colleagues, your best friend or your sisters.”

Ruby notes “It is astounding to me that men think they have little gain from an event such as this. Men need to hear first-hand what the world is like for women. Men need to listen while women speak.”

Anyhow let’s move on to consider the real reasons why men might have avoided this event, and other similar events in general. I’d also heartily recommend that readers consider the opinions of others as expressed in two related Reddit discussion threads here and here.

The first and most obvious answer is that men/men’s groups weren’t specifically invited to attend the event, a feminist event which is clearly presented as being about women and women’s voices. It’s hardly surprising that men might be disinclined to attend for fear of causing upset by intruding on a womens safe space. In other words some men may not have attended the event out of respect for women.

Secondly, feminist’s have a history of telling men who attend their events to keep their mouth’s shut, even in the case of men who identify as feminists. Why then would men wish to attend an event where they would be denied the opportunity of full and active participation, or perhaps even singled out for abuse?

Here’s one of countless examples of that occurring:

“Professor Tompkins praises Jill Johnston (author of the 1973 classic Lesbian Nation: The Feminist Solution) for being “what was then called a ‘ball-buster’: a take-no-prisoners, man-hating dyke”:

There’s even a key scene in the film when she gets really mad at a man in the audience and gives him an intense ball-busting dyke response to what simply seems to be his presence. She says: “Like, I feel a hostile male element in here and it’s bothering me…I don’t mind guys being here but I feel a hostile male element and, um, that’s making me, that’s making me agitated.”

When the young man attempts to engage her she explodes at him: “You better get the f–k out of here or I’m going to kick you right in the balls and get you out of here so fast man…. I don’t like your generalizations, man…. So sit down, shut up, or get out. I feel a hostile male vibe in here, and I don’t like it….You don’t feel it and I feel it. You feel something different than I feel!” (Source)

Thirdly, feminist’s themselves rarely attend events discussing mens issues unless to deliberately disrupt the proceedings, and usually after their earlier attempts to have the event cancelled failed (using lobbying and misinformation campaigns). Go ahead and google on ‘feminists disrupt mens event’ to rustle up some examples (here’s something to get you started). Clearly the notion that ‘women need to listen while men speak’ doesn’t fly. Can’t feminists just be grateful that men don’t stoop to reciprocating feminist’s own actions?

Fourthly, feminists, both individually and collectively, routinely use many and varied forms of censorship to block and silence men who endeavour to reach out to women to tell them what the world is like for men. Details in this blog post.

Does anyone else think the underlying message of this article is that feminists have ‘all rights and no responsibility’ when it comes to presenting their case?

And in case anyone thought that only Australian feminists would be sufficiently detached from reality to complain about men not wishing to attend feminist events, here is an example from the northern hemisphere:

SXSW’s Online Harassment Summit was just one more place for men to ignore women – Good solutions found a small audience (13 March 2016)

“Soraya Chemaly of Women’s Media Center remarked toward the end of a panel about women in the media: “It’s mainly women in this room. Probably we don’t need this information.”

Yes, I’m sure women know it all already. Gee, I bet that event would have been loads of fun if the other attendees were all as arrogant as Soraya.

In closing Ruby, maybe this article provides all the answers you need.

See also:

Men, please stop hijacking women’s issues (18 October 2017)

The Feminist Far Left Is Making More Enemies Than Allies, by Claire Connelly (16 March 2017)

Sydney Girls High School prefects hit back after Sydney Boys’ viral video‘ (13 March 2017)

Dear men: Here is your engraved invitation to join the Women’s March on Washington‘ (14 January 2017) See related Reddit discussion thread here

Munk Debates: The End of Men, by Leslie Loftus (21 November 2013)

How a feminist debate was derailed by asking all men to leave (4 December 2012)

Bring back our girls! (The ‘Empathy Gap’ & The ‘Disposable Male’)

If any further proof was needed that a male life was worth less than a female life, then the global media furore surrounding the activities of Boko Haram provides us with just that proof.

‘Bring back our girls’ indeed. Whilst not wishing to detract from the terrible tragedy of the kidnapped schoolgirls, the associated media coverage raises serious questions about the media’s blindness to the abuse and murder of enormous numbers of boys by both this and similar groups in Africa. Indeed most media coverage of the issues makes no mention of harm done to boys and men at all, see for example this article.

A journalist from the Wall Street Journal, Drew Hinshaw, recently did an online Q&A during which he ignored questions about why the WSJ had made no mention of the harm done to boys/men by Boko Haram. Can’t say? Won’t say? Don’t care?

Yes, you have to search on google (e.g. “what about the boys Boko Haram”) to find the few articles that have been published which actually address all those missing/killed/abused males – see thisthis, thisthisthis and this.

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In our next example let’s move to Europe. In the 2004 paper entitled Gendercide in Kosovo, author Adam Jones investigates gendercide of men in Bosnia by excluding men:

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See also:

17 killed in multiple Boko Haram suicide bombings in Nigeria (12 July 2017) Doesn’t conform to the prevailing gynocentric narrative? = mainstream media silence

Girls killed in shelter fire are the latest victims of Guatemala’s war on women (27 March 2017)

Mojgan belongs to one of the world’s most oppressed groups, and Dutton wants to send her home, by Ruby Hamad (15 March 2017) Australia

Where is the data showing that people are more likely to help a woman than a man (18 January 2017) Reddit discussion thread

Chattanooga School Bus Driver in Fatal Crash Involved in Collision 2 Months Ago (22 November 2016)

“Four of the five were girls”

Defining, Demonstrating, & Understanding Male Disposability (30 September 2016)

Women are being traded as slaves on WhatsApp – here’s how the UN can act (8 September 2016) Article acknowledges men/boys also enslaved, so what’s with the title?

Boko Haram kidnapped 10,000 boys and the world remained silent (16 August 2016)

Social experiment: Who gets given more money in public? Homeless man or hot looking woman (August 2016) Youtube Video

Men get cancer too, but … whatever

Gynocentrism 2.0, compassion, and choice: The underlying root of men’s issues (31 August 2016)

If a boy, a girl, a cat and a dog were abandoned in a park who would be rescued first? Social experiment tests the reactions of passersby… and the results may surprise you (20 August 2016)

The 10,000 Kidnapped Boys of Boko Haram (12 August 2016) See also here

Iconic Australian charity changes its name to ‘Ourtown’ in 2016 after 55 years as ‘Boystown’, as explained by them and as announced in a media article

The empathy gap is shockingly real (9 November 2014)

http://www.avoiceformalestudents.com/continuously-ignored-by-the-mainstream-hundreds-more-men-and-boys-are-singled-out-and-killed-by-boko-haram-whats-the-excuse-bringbackourgirls/

http://toysoldier.wordpress.com/2014/06/07/boko-haram-kills-hundred-of-men-and-boys-in-village-raids-and-theworldremainssilent/

Boko Haram gendercide: A Vote of no confidence in the United Nations (9 June 2014)

http://www.news.com.au/world/boko-haram-kidnaps-another-60-girls-from-nigerian-villages/story-fndir2ev-1226965000035 (Note there is no mention of “men” or “boys” … when bad things happen to males then gender-neutral terms are used (e.g. “villagers” or “people” or “vigilantes”)

Mexico mass grave found near Iguala (5 October 2014) No mention of the gender of the murdered students (yes, they were all male)

http://www.avoiceformen.com/gynocentrism/menarepeopletoo/

White House continues to pander to feminists/ignore male victims (8 July 2014)

Feminism and the disposable male (‘A Girl Writes What’ video)

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At least 19 dead and 50 injured in the concert explosion that Australian feminist Jane Caro refers to, but apparently the welfare of teenage girls is paramount. Slate.com jumped the bandwagon with ‘The Bombing at a Manchester Ariana Grande Show Was an Attack on Girls and Women‘ (22 May 2017). Then many others followed suit, including ‘Manchester bombing was a hate crime against women and girls‘ and ‘Islamists’ hatred of women and gays can’t be allowed to stand‘ (26 May 2017)

After Manchester: The cowardice of feminists (25 May 2017) This article sums up my feelings about the feminist response quite well.

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Regarding gender reversal and sexist double-standards
About feminism & feminist antipathy towards issues faced by men
Persistent pro-feminist and anti-male bias in the mainstream media
How men are portrayed … Haw Haw Haw! The jokes on us
Discrimination against males in the context of humanitarian agencies/causes
On respect and privilege