Coronavirus: Women most affected

Since the beginning of the Covid-19 pandemic the mainstream media has been following what is by now a well-established script. That script is one that involves playing down or ignoring the negative impacts of an issue or situation on men, whilst focussing on the perceived negative impacts on women. It also involves playing up the positive contribution of one gender over the other, with regards to fixing the problem. And if this sometimes involves misrepresentation, exaggeration or even fabrication – as it invariably does – well apparently, so be it.

Australia’s ABC is notable for the extent to which it embraces the leftist/feminist/SJW perspective. On 17 March 2020 the ABC published an article about COVID-19 developments in Australia. Perhaps you might like to scroll down to the item about Hamilton Island.

That article mentions “a man diagnosed with coronavirus who recently travelled to Hamilton Island“. Actually it was a woman. Until this tourist travelled there, there were no other reported cases of COVID-19 in the region. The article also mentioned that the “ABC understands the patient recently travelled from New South Wales where they were first tested.

A regional newspaper article published on 19 March 2020 (pay-wall protected) provides further/clearer details of the incident …

A woman admitted to Mackay Hospital on Tuesday with coronavirus defied health orders and flew to Hamilton Island after being diagnosed with novel coronavirus in Sydney. It is understood the UK tourist, in her mid-30’s, was found on a Hamilton Island beach after NSW Health authorities alerted their Queensland counterparts”.

She is understood to have told health authorities she did not understand the directive to self-isolate after testing positive to Covid-19“.

Domestic violence – or more specifically domestic violence against women – has been one of the major gender issues appearing in the media thus far. I have addressed that issue, or at least one aspect of it, in another post.

Further items related to the impact of Covid-19 on women, and vice versa:

Teenage girl charged after allegedly spitting in police officer’s face (7 August 2020)

Victorian Premier, Police Commissioner shocked by ‘disgraceful’ conduct of anti-masker (4 August 2020) Australia

A woman who coughed on a brain tumor patient in a viral video has been charged with assault, police say (4 August 2020) USA

Police fine woman who allegedly coughed in officer’s face (3 August 2020)

Richmond’s Trent Cotchin’s wife Brooke Instagram post in $45,000 breach (1 August 2020) Because it’s important to take care of your skin.

Victorian woman accused of providing false information at Queensland border (1 August 2020)

Woman fined $4000 for failing to declare Sydney hot spot (31 July 2020)

Melbourne woman fined for not wearing a mask confronts police (29 July 2020)

Coronavirus Queensland: Two teens bring virus to state (29 July 2020) It began with the Chief Medical Officer labelling the women’s actions as “very disappointing”, and this was subsequently explained in this article, this article, and this article. And according to media reports their reason for visiting Melbourne included stealing expensive hand bags. Fools.

Are masks giving men a license to leer? Women report a rise in ‘aggressive eye contact’ (28 July 2020) Newsflash: Men are doing something wrong

Another woman harasses staff at Bunnings (27 July 2020) It remains to be seen whether the mask exemption certificate she claims to have had is legit or not.

A woman noisily objects to being asked to wear a mask in Bunnings, and is then later arrested (26 July 2020) Several linked Twitter posts with videos. She then proceeds to waste time/energy at a local post office (27 July 2020)

Melbourne woman threatens police after refusing mask (25 July 2020)

Conspiracy theorist slammed over ‘dumb’ stunt (24 July 2020) with updated article here. And later it was revealed she was a topless waitress. What? Not a rocket scientist?

Woman kicked off flight for refusing to wear face mask (24 July 2020)

Melbourne coronavirus case slammed for visiting Orbost while awaiting test results (21 July 2020) And as with the earlier Hamilton Island case, in some cases the media hid the fact that the offender was a woman, for e.g. calling her a “person from Melbourne” or simply a “traveller”.

Customer pelts shoe boxes at staff after being asked to wear a mask (12 July 2020)

20-year old Hobart woman arrested for alleged Covid-19 breach (11 July 2020)

Karen seeks to enforce social distancing (10 July 2020) Video

Sydney woman escapes coronavirus quarantine, attempts to board flights (10 July 2020)

Coronavirus lockdown prompts spike in women’s porn (10 July 2020) And as for the claim that women’s tastes in porn is not “grubby” like men’s … try searching on google for ‘women like more violent porn’, and you’ll find sources like this one.

Why are you angry if I wear a mask? (9 July 2020) USA video

‘Costco Karen’ throws tantrum over store’s face mask policy (7 July 2020) Video

Social media influencer Sarah Josephine Liberty fined for quarantine escape (6 July 2020)

Adelaide restaurant slams customer for breaking coronavirus rules (23 June 2020)

Sydney woman turns to OnlyFans after losing cafe job in coronavirus pandemic (2 June 2020) Pro-feminist news.com.au, which run stories like this almost daily, informs us that she’s since made a “huge amount of easy money”. But it’s ok because she “has opted not to do nudity”. Yup, would someone volunteer to confirm that and let me know the outcome?

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(You can read about the wit & wisdom of Clementine Ford here)

UK women bear emotional brunt of Covid-19 turmoil – poll (20 May 2020)

Nurse assaulted in ‘abhorrent’ spitting attack in Adelaide while walking to work (20 May 2020)

Outrage as woman drives an hour and a half with her family to the beach – then complains that others are doing the same! (19 May 2020) UK

Coronavirus Australia: Accused McDonalds spitter’s ‘disgusting’ act (18 May 2020)

The pandemic’s gender bias needs urgent fixing (14 May 2020) USA

Online and ICT-facilitated violence against women and girls during COVID-19 (May 2020)

Queensland beautician sells nudes when virus shuts down business (12 May 2020) How many of these articles is pro-feminist news.com.au going to produce? Click-bait beats the feminist narrative – feminist hypocrisy take a bow.

Coronavirus: Deadly bug has proven that women are the stronger sex (11 May 2020) UK. Well now you can relax a little … women are stronger

NYC nurse, 43, steals coronavirus patient’s credit card as he was on a ventilator three days before he died (8 May 2020)

The pandemic has revealed the weakness of strong men (6 May 2020)

Gold Coast influencer cries as coronavirus affects her income from OnlyFans (6 May 2020) Australia

Women dressed as nurses are stealing packages off porches, Washington state police say (5 May 2020)

New York woman, 27, is charged with attempted murder after she repeatedly stabbed her roommate who criticized her drinking during lockdown in their Upper East Side apartment (5 May 2020)

I lost my marketing job so now I sell sex online (5 May 2020) How empowering for her. All the STEM courses must have been full.

Raunchy celeb Instagram posts (2 May 2020) Blah, blah, blah

Girl charged with spitting on female bus driver (30 April 2020)

Covid’s War on Women (29 April 2020) “Domestic violence is up sharply according to a new research report” … amongst other things. (There’s more on the claimed surge in DV in this other post)

Sydney nurse spent $36k on credit cards stolen from unconscious patients (28 April 2020)

COVID-19’s Gender Gap (22 April 2020)

Woman coughs on officer who shut down birthday party (22 April 2020) USA

‘Disgusting behaviour’: Woman accused of ‘violent’ coughing and coronavirus claims refused bail again (21 April 2020)

Woman who deliberately coughed at police officer jailed for four months (21 April 2020) UK

This girl needs money (20 April 2020) Video by @shoeonhead

Mum’s violent outburst in western Sydney Woolworths shocks onlookers (19 April 2020)

Escort seeing seven men an hour in camper van – insisting it’s an ‘essential service’ (18 April 2020)

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and in case you were wondering what ‘OnlyFans’ is all about (think, a newer variety of Hooking Lite)

Domestic abuse by female family members double in UK amidst lockdown (17 April 2020)

Tweet from Janice Fiamengo re: apparent gender bias in a Canadian Covid-related awareness campaign

Coronavirus Australia: Risque lingerie items we’re buying in lockdown (14 April 2020) Another riveting item prepared by female journalist, approved by female editor, and appearing in pro-feminist media outlet

Women bear brunt of hits to jobs, wages in shutdown, by Shane Wright (11 April 2020)

Disgraceful moment foul-mouthed teenage girls SPIT and cough at an Uber driver while claiming to have coronavirus (12 April 2020)

Coronavirus pandemic exacerbates inequalities for women, UN warns (12 April 2020)

Sanam Naraghi Anderlini, Gender Advisor to the UN, shares her views on Coronavirus and men (12 April 2020) Note that her tweet was subsequently removed. Sounds like she should have the word ‘misandrist’ somewhere in her job title.

“It’s a free country” (12 April 2020) & in another incident … “A 20-year-old woman stopped in Port Macquarie gave police her twin sister’s details before police dropped her home with a warning. She refused to go inside, walked off, gave police the finger and was promptly handed a $1000 fine.”

‘Despicable’ University of Brighton lecturer, 55, avoids jail after spitting at police and telling them she has coronavirus when they arrest her (10 April 2020)

COVID-19: The bystander role has never been more critical in calling out (9 April 2020) That term, bystander, reminds me of this earlier post.

But what’s going on? There appears to have been a change of feminist tactics, as this is the 2nd paper I’ve read today admitting that there had been no boost in the number of calls from DV victims since the commencement of the pandemic.

No spike in domestic violence in Tasmania despite early warnings: police (9 April 2020) Whoops, now that’s awkward. And here’s an unconvincing attempt at recovery by a high-profile feminist spokesperson.

Queensland coronavirus quarantine flouter arrested after third breach (9 April 2020)

Woman eye gouges supermarket worker in NSW (9 April 2020)

Coronavirus: Influencer slammed for posing in bikini made out of ‘used’ face masks (9 April 2020)

Life in lockdown: Sales of pyjamas more than double (8 April 2020)

Police hunting Texas teen who boasted about spreading coronavirus (7 April 2020)

Why women are better than men at beating the coronavirus (4 April 2020)

Hundreds of domestic violence victims in ‘terrifying situation’ of being locked in with abusers (3 April 2020) The only article that I have seen on this theme that mentions male victims. That certainly marks some progress, at least

Coronavirus US: Influencer defends travelling to Florida amid pandemic (3 April 2020) To my way of thinking an influencer educates or inspires, rather than demonstrating solipsism or selfishness.

Instagram influencer Arielle Charnas publishes tearful video message after testing positive for coronavirus and visiting the Hamptons (3 April 2020)

Woman charged after coughing on people (2 April 2020)

“At 9.20am yesterday, a woman was walking south along Sharp Street, Cooma, in NSW, when she allegedly stepped in front of another woman and intentionally coughed in her direction. The woman allegedly continued to cough at members of the public as she walked past them, including a woman with a young child.”

Malaysia apologises for telling women not to nag during lockdown (1 April 2020) Many recent articles express sympathy & frustration on behalf of women forced to isolate with men who (allegedly might) beat them, or at least don’t wash more dishes. But sympathise with men who have to put up with nagging or condescending women …. ooh no …that’s some serious #misogyny. Stop it now, you hear?

More young women in their 20s have tested positive for the coronavirus in Australia than any other age or sex group, according to Health Department data. The surprising find has been put down to their active social lives and higher likelihood of travelling overseas, according to an exclusive report by The Australian.” (1 April 2020)

Tellingly, media outlets like The Guardian reported this as ‘young people’ rather than “young women”. Most of those that didn’t (initially), either amended online copy or removed it within hours of publication.

Woman arrested and fined in South Australia for breaching coronavirus border controls (29 March 2020)

Coronavirus Australia: Woman charged after spitting on officer during vehicle stop (28 March 2020)

Coronavirus: Woman faces terrorism charges after coughing on groceries (27 March 2020) USA

Woman cops $1,000 fine after ignoring orders to self-isolate (27 March 2020) Australia. Good, #PussyPass denied

Is online shaming of COVID-19 rebels effective? Maybe, but not for everyone (25 March 2020) Canada. No mention of gender differentials in this article.

Coronavirus: Woman who returned from overseas with virus begged to keep it secret (25 March 2020)

Bella Hadid shares coronavirus advice while eating burrito topless (25 March 2020) The view of her breasts is somehow important, right?

21st birthday party guests infected with COVID-19 after case linked to Aspen ski trip (24 March 2020)

Brit abroad dragged from pool and arrested for breaking quarantine in Spain (24 March 2020) Surely a strong independent woman.

Self-Isolation Means Many Women Will Be Trapped With Their Abuser (24 March 2020) Just forget about male victims of abuse, OK? It’s just such a rare aberration – not worth worrying about.

Porn star offers to have sex with scientist who discovers a cure for Coronavirus (23 March 2020)

Woman coughs in man’s face after refusing to comply with COVID-19 social distancing (March 2020)

Coronavirus porn is a thing, and of course it is (20 March 2020)

Do I Need to Stop Sleeping With New Guys Because of the Coronavirus? (19 March 2020)

‘The coronavirus is killing far more men than women‘, ‘Majority of NYC’s coronavirus cases are men between 18 and 49 years old’ (20 March 2020), a Janice Fiamengo video entitled ‘More men die: Women most affected‘, and ‘Doctor’s Note: Why are more men dying from Coronavirus?‘ (6 April 2020). Ooh, I hope I don’t break the spell by injecting a measure of reality here.

‘I’m young. I feel my body can handle it’: Tourists ignore social distancing plea (20 March 2020)

‘I have the coronavirus and now so do you,’ a woman allegedly told police as she breathed on them (18 March 2020)

Women Are Hit Hardest By Coronavirus Shutdowns – You Can Help (18 March 2020)

I was shamed for not self-isolating after a ski-trip to Aspen‘ (17 March 2020) I assume that this women at least did not test positive for the virus – or at least not prior to being ‘shamed’.

“Seriously people, this is not the time for judging, finger pointing or shaming. Our world is in uncharted territory, we are all desperately trying to filter through the mass of news we’re consuming eager to decipher what works for us and our families.”

Yes, similar to the way feminists refrain from finger-pointing at, or shaming, men. All the time. Oh please, spare us the tunnel-vision!

Business booming for cam girls amid coronavirus outbreak (14 March 2020)

Travel influencers say coronavirus is ‘impacting income massively’ (13 March 2020)

Coronavirus: Women could be disproportionately exposed to outbreak, experts warn (12 March 2020)

Thousands march in Spain on women’s day despite coronavirus fears (9 March 2020)

This ‘isn’t Mad Max,’ Australian police say after 3 women get into a brawl while panic-buying toilet paper during coronavirus epidemic (8 March 2020)

Did We Forget to Memorialize Spanish Flu Because Women Were the Heroes? (18 February 2019) Women also most affected by earlier pandemics

Don’t read (or listen to) the following items unless you’re prepared to risk popping the feminist soap bubble in relation to Covinda-19:

Lack of men’s health strategies may have cost lives in pandemic (19 June 2020) 

The elusion of men (8 June 2020) U.K. Video

Covid-19 update on health care professionals (17 May 2020) USA

Men who catch coronavirus are more than twice as likely to die from the disease as women, study shows (29 April 2020)

Less than half of confirmed COVID-19 cases are male, so why are more men ending up in B.C. hospitals? (24 April 2020) If more women were dying, can you imagine a health spokesperson describing the situation as “interesting”?

They lived in a factory for 28 days to make millions of pounds of raw PPE materials to help fight coronavirus (24 April 2020) “They” being 43 guys … oops.

Male health care professionals in U.S. make up 62% of all COVID-19 HCP deaths but only represent 25% of health care professionals (19 April 2020)

‘The coronavirus is killing far more men than women‘ and ‘Majority of NYC’s coronavirus cases are men between 18 and 49 years old’ (20 March 2020)

A Janice Fiamengo video entitled ‘More men die: Women most affected‘ and a tweet re: apparent gender bias in a Canadian Covid-related awareness campaign

Doctor’s Note: Why are more men dying from Coronavirus?‘ (6 April 2020)

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Romance-tourism is just nothing like sex-tourism

In one of those rare idle moments I happened to google on ‘sex tourism eat pray love’ and this is one of the first articles that came up:

Rhonda and Ketut as the faces of female sex tourism, by Nigel Bowen (22 Jan 2013)

Yes, don’t be shocked but it’s been claimed that many women mix with local men whilst enjoying their holidays. But relax, because it’s so so different to that nasty sex-tourism thing that men do. I mean it’s not like the boys are prostitutes or anything, and it does seem fair that if they take time off work to show you around then a lady would buy them a meal or small gift. Or two.

Still those MRA scumbags rubbish anything that women value. So how have other feminists explained these very special holiday experiences?

When women pay men for sex, it doesn’t have the same social effect because there is no history of women enslaving men” (Source)

““female sex tourism” oversimplifies the motives of these women and that “romance tourism” explains the complex nature of what these women are engaging themselves in while involved in romance tours. They also explain that the expression “female sex tourism”, “serves to perpetuate gender roles and reinforce power relations of female subordination, romance tourism in Jamaica provides an arena for change” (Source)

“Once, sometimes twice, a month I meet up with Justin, a 36-year-old divorcé. We go out for a meal and maybe to a club before spending the night in a hotel … But what differentiates our dates from the norm is that I pay for Justin’s company, including having sex with him” (Source)

Sex worker clients are increasingly women – and they’re seeking more than pleasure (9 October 2019) Of course they are

‘They want to be stimulated throughout the body’: Bali Gigolos share their secrets (7 May 2017)

Racketeering Refugees: What the Million Marching Pussyhatters Really Want? (28 January 2017)

Female seks tourism (26 November 2016)

Confessions of an Australian male escort: ‘I don’t just get booked for sex’ (9 September 2016)

Lonely Women Paying For Men’s Company (12 August 2016) Video

‘European Sugar Mamas’ – Women sex tourists in Kenya (29 July 2016) Reddit discussion thread

The women who hire male escorts (1 February  2014)

Wealthy Older Women Are Hiring Men In Kenya To Romance Them (22 October 2014)

http://travel.ninemsn.com.au/holidaytype/weird/7942963/cougar-prowl-female-sex-tourism-hotspots

http://www.rachelrabbitwhite.com/women-who-buy-sex-the-secret-life-of-jane/

http://harlotsparlour.com/2010/08/23/women-do-buy-sex/

http://www.smh.com.au/lifestyle/life/why-do-women-pay-for-sex-20131209-2z11k.html

No new posts for many months – why?

Greetings and thanks to followers and/or supporters of this blog. Some of you might have noticed the lack of new posts for the past six or more months, and wondered if I had grown disinterested in the issues addressed herein …

Well, let’s flash back to December 2017. Imagine yours truly and family sitting in a Ford Mustang convertible parked on the side of the road in California. Though it was winter we had the top down and had pulled over to put some warm clothing on, or some such thing.

Sounds pretty cool huh?

Well yeah, but then an unlicensed/uninsured drunk slammed their car into the back of ours whilst they were barrelling along at highway speed. Both cars were write-offs. I have no memory of this, nor of the next couple of weeks of my life. The next thing I was aware of was sitting up in bed in what I thought was a bizarre looking motel room (who chose this place anyway?)

This was in fact the second hospital I had been admitted to by that stage. I learnt that I had been talking for a few days. I wish someone had taped that stuff … it could have been the meaning of life or something very insightful (joking). I was also told that I had been helped/taught to do everything beyond simply breathing. It was like someone had pushed a reset button on a laptop, and I was coming back online.

This unfortunate change of plans meant goodbye to our plans for a special Christmas dinner in Vancouver … and a whole lot more.

Anyway everyone survived, and luckily I was the only member of our family to receive more than cuts and bruises. So it would seem that god kept me alive to continue this blog. Either that or I was just lucky. But that doesn’t sound as profound so I’ll go with the former.

So my head’s been kind of fuzzy and I forgot all my passwords, and you could say that we’ve been rather tied up with medical, insurance and legal matters (unbelievably, only just winding up in August).

And updating this blog was one of the things that suffered.

OK, so what’s to learn from this episode?

    1. Holidays can go from dreamy to nasty very quickly, so enjoy them while you can
    2. Purchase travel insurance! And get it from a reliable provider. If we had not had travel insurance then this episode would have cost us more than US$300,000. Oh, and be sure to provide your partner with details at the start of your holiday, as it’s too late once you’re unconscious
    3. Don’t anticipate getting compensated quickly, don’t expect the process to be easy, and don’t expect to cover all your costs. Our travel insurance claim took over five months to resolve (and was surprisingly time-consuming) and the court case took about seven months.

California has a Victims of Crime compensation process but it won’t address loss of personal property (and in our case for example, the rental car we were driving, and which was destroyed, was considered personal property). Even if the judge orders “restitution” as part of the sentencing process, as happened in our case, unfortunately there is no guarantee you will receive anything … let alone, anytime soon.

Apart from my family not being seriously injured, the only other good news was that the attitude of police/first responders and staff of the relevant District Attorney’s office was consistently respectful, helpful and positive.

Drive safely folks.

Taking a short break – back soon

On holidays and I thought it would be nice to provide a light-hearted change from another soul-destroying account of the ongoing ravages of gynocentrism and its bastard child, 3rd wave feminism.

I therefore dedicate this post to those readers who, like me, are afficiendos of the tradition of high-tea.

Today my partner kindly treated me to a visit to 137 Pillars House in Chiang Mai, Thailand.

Which is kind of funny considering my last post was entitled ‘Who pays on dates?’

pillars

I couldn’t fault the experience. I’ve had high tea in some pretty swanky places, such as the Ritz in London, the Empress Hotel in Victoria BC, and so on … and today’s experience was right up there. Click here for a photo tour of this stylish venue.

And not a harpy to be seen or heard.

So should you ever find yourself in this neck of the woods, come along and eat your fill. Then swan about like one of those mythical patriarchal overlords … if only for a precious hour or two.

Highly recommended

Feminism and Buddhism

I was sitting in a small restaurant in a place called Chiang Dao the other day. At the next table were a group of four American women in their late 20’s or early 30’s. Western woman sitting alone is a common sight in Thailand, but sometimes – as on this occasion – they meet up for a coffee and chat.

chiangdao1Unfortunately I couldn’t but help to overhear their conversation. Were they talking about the beautiful natural environment all about them? No. Perhaps they were discussing the abundant cultural attractions? Nope. They were dissecting their experiences with guys they had met on their travels.

More specifically, they were discussing all the things that those guys had said or done or been, that rendered them unattractive as partners – or even as human beings. According to their toxic banter every one of those men was a loser. It was a bit like the girls described in this article, but ten years on.

With such an unpleasant demeanour, and competition from far more graceful and kindly locals (pictured below), I do hope those female tourists enjoy their solo journey … for the remainder of their holidays and beyond. 

thai_girlMy next stop, just a kilometre or two down the road, was a famous Buddhist retreat where, thankfully, I managed to restore my sense of calm.

Now those women in the restaurant may or may not consider themselves to be feminists. I guess it is possible that they were merely ordinary folk who had been touched with the nasty stick.

Nevertheless on returning home that encounter got me thinking about whether anyone had written anything about feminism and Buddhism, and so I got busy with google and soon found a few references (below).

This blog post entitled Misandry and Mahayana (9 January 2011) is as good a starting point as any.

“I do not intend to be critical, but I simply do not understand how misandry and Mahayana are supposed to fit. Are you professing to adhere to a particular faith, and then immediately bending that faith to suit your neuroses? Are you taking refuge in the Buddha, Dharma, and Sangha for the benefit of all sentient beings just so long as no men are involved? …

Misandry — contempt of men — together with misogyny — contempt of women — are nothing more than gender-specific expressions of misanthropy — hatred of human beings. Since this is the very opposite of Buddhism, why should we give any voice at all to such thinking? Why should we pay this any attention, or give it any ground? Isn’t this something we should try to overcome?” 

See also:

Another post that touches on western women in Thailand is here 

Some relevant discussion threads from reddit/r/buddhism (ongoing)

Dalai Lama’s ‘sexist’ quip ruffles equality activists (25 September 2015)

Women and gender politics in Buddhism (9 May 2009)

Supporting equality for women in Thai monasteries (22 December 2014)

Explorations in Buddhism and Feminism (8 March 2013)

Wikipedia entry for ‘Buddhist Feminism’

To be continued

On the issue of traveller safety

The issue of traveller safety encompasses many topics such as sexual assault, robbery and scams, motor vehicle accidents, food poisoning, STD’s, animal bites, etc. Within the mainstream and online media however most attention is directed to sexual assault, and mostly focuses on threats to the personal safety of women. It’s as if males are immune from muggings, drink spiking, motor vehicle accidents, etc … or are deemed  to be incapable of benefiting from advice.

Nevertheless, out in the real world, males are in fact just as vulnerable to these threats as are females. No one questions that women are deserving of support and advice in relation to the issue of traveller safety. But it would appear that men being men, well you know, they should just suck it up. Or something.

I read a post in a feminist blog that informed me that men don’t need this sort of advice because men “can look after themselves“. Well to the extent that men *can* look after themselves whilst travelling, they do so chiefly by following the same sort of advice that they offer to women (and then get called victim-blamers!). Funny thing that.

Aside from feminist bias I can’t think of a logical reason why journalists persist in compartmentalising their coverage of this issue along gender lines … that is unless the goal is simply to perpetuate a myth of eternal victimhood.

And so it is that much of the online discussion of traveller safety is devoted to women railing against the injustice of being unable to dress like a hooker – according to local mores – without being approached with offers of work.  Oh, wait, perhaps the patriarchy made them do it? Just what is the big deal about briefly modifying one’s normal fashion style? Those people promulgating this crazy notion of polite compromise as being akin to outright capitulation, have a lot to answer for. (Refer to these posts for more on this issue: Post 1 & Post 2)

Guys, on the other hand, seem to be able to enjoy their holidays just fine without the need to show off their butt cheeks whilst shopping in the market.

No, no-one deserves to be harassed or raped. And in an ideal world we could wear whatever we chose, and go where-ever we wanted at any time of the day or night, without attracting judgement or a violent response. 

But it’s not an ideal world, and it is foolish to ignore patterns of behaviour correlated to higher levels of threat, in favour of feel-good public rituals and esoteric babbling about the need to “educate” men and boys. Sounds a lot like comfortable insulated upper middle-class delusion to me. The criminal underbelly of society, along with the mentally ill, naughty boys (and girls!) one and all … they just need a good talking to, and a couple of polished Powerpoint presentations should straighten them out.

Christian schools have been teaching the ‘do not steal’ lesson for a couple of thousand years now, and we still seem to have a problem with theft. I am not saying that there is no place for education, but I sure wouldn’t be relying on it as the biggest stick in my armoury.

Oh, but heaven help any man who attempts to join the discussion and suggest tips like “don’t get drunk or take drugs”, “dress conservatively” or “don’t walk alone at night”, for they are immediately labelled victim-blamers and rape-apologists!

This theme, that the behaviour of women never causes nor contributes to the problems they encounter or anything bad that happens to them, is a feminist mainstay. And dare you suggest otherwise then you are the bad guy, even if you really don’t think you are … because your mind has been corrupted by “cognitive bias’ and ‘systemic sexism’. Move over Scientology!

An example of a recent article about traveller safety that demonstrates this narrow fem-focus can be seen at http://www.chiangmainews.com/ecmn/viewfa.php?id=3795

An alternative position is provided by this article – http://matadornetwork.com/change/travel-safety-is-not-a-gendered-issue/

Did you know that some airlines still have a policy of not seating unaccompanied minors next to men? I guess that haven’t read my post about female kiddy-fiddlers.

Airline discrimination table
http://mensrightsmelbourne.com/2014/03/24/sydney-fireman-john-mcgirr-accuses-virgin-of-discrimination/
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Airline_sex_discrimination_policy_controversy

And so in April 2014 a Australian feminist journalist by the name of Tracey Spicer wrote an article about how she didn’t want her children sat next to men on flights – see the article and related discussions here and here. This article in a feminist web site contributes nothing to the debate but there are some interesting points buried amongst the readers comments.

Yet despite the fact that men on planes are a cause for concern, on account of them probably being perverts, these men stepped in to help the flight attendants when help was needed.

Oh, but I love this article, it contrasts feminists silence about men being required to sit away from unaccompanied children, with the requests of ultra-orthodox Jewish men to be sat away from women.

On a positive note, in July 2014 an article by Amanda Blair entitled ‘We’ve become too paranoid about men in the company of children‘ highlighted the way many people assumed the worst when men were observed in proximity to children in playgrounds, shopping centres, etc. This UK newspaper article addresses the same issue, as does this item.

This blog post discusses an article by Wendy Tuohy on the same topic, but which in this case drips with hypocrisy bearing in mind the pronounced feminist bias of her prior repertoire of articles and offerings on social media.

This family-oriented tourist attraction in England has taken the step of banning unaccompanied adults from entering, though I suspect that unaccompanied women would not encounter a problem.

 See also:

NFL player sues United Airlines, alleges woman sexually assaulted him on flight (21 May 2020)

Two ‘dirty’ female plane passengers leave social media grossed out (9 March 2020). Not so much a safety issue as one of empathy and respect for others around them.

Mum and daughter face court for allegedly attacking pilot in cockpit (4 March 2020) UK

Mother, 38, is spared jail for trying to commit sex act on male passenger on TUI flight after ditching her daughter, 7 (4 February 2020)

Drunk flight attendant busted after passing out for entire trip (10 August 2019)

Kind stranger comforts scared 96-year-old on flight (9 August 2019)

Woman smashes man with laptop during violent argument on aeroplane: ‘Just take her off the plane!’ (24 July 2019) USA

Drunk flyer kicked off plane, arrested for disgusting act (18 February 2019)

Women-only plane seating needed to combat sexual assault and midair ‘manspread’ (7 December 2018)

Air India starts selling seats in female-only section (17 January 2017)

Angry woman slaps airport worker in London after missing her budget flight with Ryanair (13 January 2017) UK

Businessman tests airline on gender discrimination by saying he can’t sit near men (25 October 2016)

Women-only train carriages? What a ridiculously regressive idea (4 May 2016) Australia. Pro-feminist article attracting more that 1,200 comments

City of Perth trials pink ‘female-friendly’ safe bays with better security (13 April 2016) Australia

Women-only ‘pink carriages’ idea for Aussie trains causes controversy (5 April 2016) and ‘Pink carriages’ for women only draws fire from feminists and commuters

Travel advice: Five places that women shouldn’t travel to (3 December 2014) The focus of this article appears to be mainly ideological dangers. In such places one might catch sexism from a seat in a bus.

I thought women were meant to be more empathetic?

Empathy means the ability to understand and share the feelings of another.

Those banging the drum about how more women should be promoted to senior management sometimes seek to support their position with sexist generalisations about how women tend to be more ethical, collegial, empathetic, and so on and so forth.

Earlier generations of Australian women were mostly empathetic to a fault.
Nowadays perhaps not so much.

Empathy with the resident citizens of overseas countries

Some time ago I was reading the results of a survey of overseas travellers. It found that most travellers were disturbed by displays of cultural insensitivity by fellow travellers. Unfortunately the survey did not breakdown its results on the basis of variables such as gender.

This got me thinking about my own experiences living and travelling in Asia.

Thai culture is quite conservative but Thais will rarely inform tourists when they have crossed the border of social acceptability, unless they venture far beyond the bounds of decent behaviour. Expressions of polite conduct such as kreng jai – the Thai version of our ‘good manners’ – is highly important to them.

Mention Thailand and most people think of men behaving badly. And indeed some men do … as do some women. The difference is that those western men who misbehave tend to do so within touristy nightlife areas, in many cases within recognised ‘red light areas’. Their behaviour generally involves drunken debauchery within the confines of go-go bars or the like. There is nothing laudable about this, but at least the local Thai people in such areas tend to be inured to witnessing this type of behaviour. Outside these areas I have witnessed exceedingly few examples of western male travellers displaying overt cultural insensitivity.

In contrast I have seen many examples of western women behaving inappropriately outside the bar precincts. A common issue is that of wearing skimpy and revealing clothing in and around temples, and in public places such as markets or parks. This occurs despite the fact that any guidebook on Thailand clearly states that such clothing is considered unacceptable, as well as there being signs installed in many locations.

On this note I happened across the following comments by a female editor of an English-language magazine in Thailand:

“Then there is the trio of English lasses who were found wandering around Wat Phra Singh a few weeks back in their bikinis! It has nothing to do with cultural insensitivity or ignorance. It is just a willful refusal to give a crap. Their grandmothers would have taken a wooden spoon to their bottoms had they trotted into the local church dressed that way.”

I have never confronted anyone about this particular transgression, but from discussions in online forums the attitude seems to be “this is my style, why should I have to change to suit them?”, or they are old-fashioned/sexist and *they* should change. I have also noticed plenty of instances of western women exhibiting exceptionally intrusive, pushy and loud behaviour in public places (particularly for example during community events).

Anyway that’s what this correspondent has noticed in going about his daily business, but discussions with Thai women revealed some other issues. These were women who either ran businesses, or worked in other peoples shop-front businesses (not bar-related, I hasten to add). I must first explain that Thai women are generally in awe of western women, and in general there is no underlying animosity whatsoever.

One after the other these women told me similar accounts of their dealing with western female customers, and of their surprise, dismay and occasional anger at the rude behaviour they often encountered. This included body language (like eye rolling and pained expressions) plus clicking noises of annoyance, and rude gestures and insulting words.

As noted, these were just my own observations – what do others think? Are western women travelling overseas less inclined to observe and maintain local cultural decorum, than western men? And if so, why? Do you think it might it be related to an increasingly overdone feeling of entitlement, and of being beyond criticism/censure? That sense of feeling oneself to be a ‘special snowflake’?

Singer ‘Bjork’ clearly thought she was a very special snowflake indeed when she saw fit to assault this reporter at the airport in Bangkok. And here’s another western woman showering the Thais with empathy.

Meanwhile back home in the west I have noticed several recent newspaper items like this one … Melbourne woman claims she was targeted by budget airline Jetstar (6 November 2019)

‘No respect for the locals’: Bali tourist blasted over ‘shameful’ bikini act (30 October 2019)

Woman fined for tiny ‘piece of string’ bikini on Philippines island  (14 0ctober 2019)

Bizarre moment British woman ‘bites trader’s hand’ as she tried to free caged chickens in Morocco (3 September 2019)

Tourists at ancient temple in Bali blasted for ‘disgusting’ actions with holy water (14 August 2019)

And then there’s the behaviour of the USA women’s team towards the Thai team in the 2019 World Cup match (12 June 2019)

The incredible outburst that got this tourist jailed for six months in Bali (8 February 2019) And what a fine ambassador for Britain was this particular ‘lady’

And in another blog post we can see that some western women also behave in a racist and/or culturally insensitive manner when they are at home.

Some other incidents wherein which women display an absence of empathy:

Influencer slammed over ‘inappropriate behaviour’ in popular Bali beach (15 June 2020)

Outrage as two female tourists pose with their Mercedes SUV inside Beijing’s Forbidden City (20 January 2020)

Woman threw cat at neighbour’s door because ‘it kept coming into her garden’ (2 July 2019) UK

Feminist, Chidera Eggerue, doesn’t have time to worry about male suicide (Tweet dated 14 March 2019)

‘Fight Club’ organized by teachers at day care caught on camera (30 October 2018)

Tourists facing 10 years in Thai jail over ‘ridiculously drunk’ prank (26 October 2018)

Video shows nurses doubled over laughing as World War 2 veteran dies (19 November 2017) USA

‘Who are they gonna believe, you or me?’: Texas prosecutor fired after drunken Uber tirade (14 November 2017)

When making a sandwich is a crime against feminism, by Miranda Devine (7 October 2017) The lack of empathy by feminists towards others is legendary – here’s another example

‘Poison Ivy’, 17, bullies ‘weak’ men into degrading themselves online before encouraging them to kill themselves (26 October 2016) with related Reddit discussion thread here.

Women more likely to get angry behind the wheel (20 October 2016) UK

First-ever survey of the motivation behind disability hate crime (9 May 2016)

“Around half (49%) of all attacks were group based. Women were involved in most group attacks (men were more involved in lone attacks).”

Inside house of horrors full of dead pets including one dog still chained to its kennel in shocking case of animal neglect (5 May 2016) UK

Rotherham woman offered safe haven to troubled girls – then pimped them out (27 February 2016) UK

Woman pretended to have cancer to get money from her boyfriend so she could pay for plastic surgery (12 February 2016) UK

‘It was the worst flight of my life’ (11 December 2015)

Secret Service Agents: Hillary is a nightmare to work with (2 October 2015)

Anesthesiologist trashes sedated patient — and it ends up costing her (23 June 2015) USA

Russia jails three young women for WWII memorial twerk (27 April 2015)

Egypt investigating how tourists filmed pornographic video near Giza pyramids (8 March 2015)

American sisters deported for naked photos at Angkor Wat (9 February 2015)

Kiwi tourist smashed Buddha statue in Cambodian temple (14 October 2014)

Other sources related to women and empathy:

‘Bali bikini ban’ will help ‘transform mass tourism hot-spot’ (1 October 2018)

Charity boss jailed for stealing thousands meant for burns victims (13 June 2018)

I’ve Gotten Blown Off By Men So Much Lately That I’m Literally Questioning Everything (October 2017) Author displays total absence of understanding that men have been treated this way since forever (well before the advent of dating apps!) Welcome to our world darling. Reader’s comments scathing but accurate.

Stereotype that women are kinder and less selfish is true, claim neuroscientists (10 October 2017)

Newsflash: Less Yelling Means More Sex (6 September 2017)

Gender differences in empathy (27 August 2016) Reddit mensrights discussion thread

Oxytocin Has a Dark Side, Says This Stanford Neurology Professor (6 July 2017)

The Absence of Empathy: Understanding the Psychology of Sociopathic Feminism (26 March 2016)

“You’re gonna get hit. It’s gonna hurt. Accept it.” Lessons from Krav Maga (14 March 2016)

Social contagion: Women more likely to yawn in response to others, study says (2 February 2016)

Ringleader in Texas’ biggest sex-trafficking ring sentenced to life in prison (20 January 2016) USA. This is not a rare exception – many women are involved in the running of human trafficking operations like this one.

Health experts warn of dangerous trend as survey finds women self-criticise eight times a day (4 January 2016) Perhaps the most worrying thing about these research findings is how little of the self-criticism relates to the impact of a women’s own behaviour on others around them … it’s all me, me, me

A Plea to Women (28 November 2015) Australia

The Empathy Gap – Fiamengo File Episode 4 (3 September 2015) Video

Woman’s Hour and the lack of understanding or empathy (1 September 2015) Reddit discussion thread

The only two “Fairy Tales” you need to understand women (1 August 2015)

Why do women have such a hard time empathizing with men? (3 April 2015)

Are men inferior to women? Let’s check the data, by Christina Hoff Sommers (30 March 2015) Video

The angry men of the Internet, by Jasmin Newman (March 2015) Australia

Men are selfish, uncaring idiots (23 December 2014)

No, I will NOT wrap all the presents. Why are women still responsible for the holiday joy? (10 December 2014)

Feminist’s perverse game to misrepresent Anti-fem righteous outrage (Youtube video) 27 July 2014

Q&A: Women are nurturing? How about cruel, especially to one another (24 August 2002)

Sorry, Martin Amis – your kindly women can do cruelty too (16 July 2010)

Mom’s Abuse Makes Man Afraid Of Women (2 November 2010)

http://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/are_women_more_compassionate_than_men

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20130408111841AAwBfyC

http://www.angryharry.com/Who-Is-More-Empathic-Men-Or-Women.htm

http://goingyourownway.com/showthread.php?638-The-Female-Psychosis-part-1-Egocentrism

Elsewhere in this blog see:

On being male or female (incl. innate differences, stereotyping and so on)

On privilege, respect, and entitlement

Mostly female perpetrators, so child abuse is a gendered crime then?

On violence carried out by women and girls