Firstly, you may have noticed an abundance of articles in the mainstream media in recent times concerning personal commercial arrangements known as a sugar-daddy relationship. Indeed some media outlets such as news.com.au run stories on this subject, or similar themes, every couple of weeks … see recent examples here and here and here and here, here and here. Oh, and this one’s a classic (13 April 2021).
Today however I was prompted to create a post addressing this topic after reading a feminist journalist’s interpretation of the sugar-daddy phenomenon:
‘Why is a ‘sugar daddy’ funded education being sold as empowering to women?‘
Kasey Edwards doesn’t think that sugar-daddy arrangements are a bad idea because they are, you know, wrong. It’s not because they involve women debasing themselves via voluntarily entering into a parasite/host relationship. And it’s not because these women aren’t walking out into the world standing on their own two, empowered, feet.
No, such arrangements are a bad idea because the women involved might be held in some way (shudder) accountable if exposed. It was suggested that former sugar-daddies would blackmail their babies as “there’s seemingly no downside for powerful men who have sexual arrangements with less powerful women“.
Gee, I bet there would be more than a few ‘powerful’ men who would disagree with that assessment of where most of the risk lies. Prince Andrew … hello? And here’s a recent Australian example.
The cost of exposure could be either tangible (reduced employment opportunity), or more intangible (slut-shaming). Of course, both of these forms of chastisement might be imposed by other women – especially in the latter case.
Oh, and sugar-baby arrangements are also a bad idea because Kasey sees them as a “cynical abuse of male power“.
Needless to say, no mention was made of the fact that wealthy women procure men/boys in a similar manner. Which would kind of make it more of a wealth thing, rather than a gender thing.
Nevertheless, the likely feminist defence there would be that that doesn’t count, a ‘rare aberration’ yada yada, borne from ‘internalised misogyny’ yada yada, and being a ‘justifiable push-back against male oppression’ yada yada.
What follows now is a selection of articles and perspectives on this topic. There are also a couple of sources dealing with a somewhat related practice known as ‘rinsing‘.
Stay-at-home girlfriend reveals she doesn’t pay for a thing (13 October 2022)
Woman divides after saying her boyfriend pays for everything (30 September 2022)
Jana Hocking: Why you should date a divorcee if you’re single (30 June 2022) Let’s kid ourselves and not label it a sugar-daddy relationship. Not just yet.
Woman quits job to stay home after meeting wealthy man (7 June 2022)
I was duped by a sugar-daddy (6 March 2022)
Polish influencer just sold her love as an NFT for $250K (nypost.com) (29 July 2021)
Mother encouraged her teenage daughter to have sex with a ‘sugar daddy’ so they could both pay for cosmetic surgery (9 April 2019)
Belgians charge CEO recruiting ‘Sugar Babies’ with ‘Incitement to Debauchery’ (8 April 2019) OK, cool even, for the girls doing it but men stay out of it!
University of B.C. ranked 7th for sugar baby arrangements in 2018 (12 March 2019)
‘Unusual way a single mum earns more than $130k a year‘ (18 February 2019) Oh look, it’s news.com.au promoting another variety of ‘hooking lite’ commonly known as the ‘Insta-THOT’
‘You do have sex, but it’s not expected’: Monash student earns $50,000 as a ‘sugar baby’ (9 February 2019). Oh look, it’s news.com.au’s fortnightly sugar-baby theme article. Again.
Single mom facing crippling debt realizes she can make bank by charging men to date her (January 2019)
Woman earns $104k a year working just 16 hours each week (14 September 2018) Not sugar-babies but yet another version of Hooking Lite
Growing Trend Of Older Women Becoming ‘Sugar Mamas’ For Young Migrants (28 July 2017)
My Sugar Daddy Pays Me $12,000 A Month — & Marriage Is On The Table (1 June 2017) USA
Inside the life of a feminist sugar baby, by Roisin Lanigan (21 March 2017)
Sugar Babies: 100,000 Aussie students have signed up to find a sugar daddy (2 February 2017) It’s ironic that pro-feminist news.com.au frequently runs articles on sugar-babies, sending a poor message to young men and women alike. Still, as long as news.com.au gets lots of clicks catering to vicarious thrills, it’s all good right?
Racketeering Refugees: What the Million Marching Pussyhatters Really Want? (28 January 2017)
Rise of the sugar mummies: Led by a host of celebrities, more and more older women are dating younger men (25 January 2017)
Former Beauty Queen Lives A Life Of Luxury By ‘Working’ As A Sugar Baby (6 January 2017)
“Men are supposed to be caregivers and take care of women”
Jilted lover, 42, sues her 86-year-old ‘sugar daddy’ for $1.5M claiming that he said he would provide for her ‘for the rest of her life’. Buhl has moved on to another girlfriend, Zahradnikova claims she’s still owed $1.5million in unpaid wages. How low can you go! Reddit mens rights discussion thread and linked article
Lavish lifestyle of sugar baby Simone Toon (4 November 2016)
‘European Sugar Mamas’ – Women sex tourists in Kenya (29 July 2016) Reddit discussion thread
Daddies, “Dates,” and the Girlfriend Experience: Welcome to the New Prostitution Economy (7 July 2016)
‘You don’t have to give him anything’: Inside the life of a $75,000-a-year sugar baby (1 February 2016) Australia
Monica Lynn travelled the world for free by getting her dates to pay for it (2 January 2016)
The art of ‘rinsing’ landed these sisters $160,000 worth of gifts (27 November 2015)
Sugar Babies: Controversial trend taking off online (21 July 2015) Mainstream media at it again: Content to promote parasitism/prostitution as a legitimate lifestyle choice #racetothebottom
Where the sugar babies are (15 January 2015)
How to date older rich men for cash and prizes, avoid having sex with them and still imagine YOU are the exploited victim (18 December 2013)
Regarding OnlyFans and other variations of commercialised debasement
Influencer claims she was detained entering US ‘for looking like an escort’ (28 October 2022)
Influencer slammed for crying while driving down poverty-stricken street in LA in Tesla (7 September 2022)
Teacher fired over racy side-hustle by appalled school board (8 July 2022)
Teacher turned OnlyFans star reveals pregnancy to former student (29 June 2022) These grubby sorts of stories now feature in pro-feminist mainstream media outlets like news.com.au, on an almost daily basis.
Why there is nothing ‘empowering’ about signing up to OnlyFans for women (19 June 2022)
‘I work as a dominatrix while my kids are at school’ (15 May 2022)
MAFS star Jessika Power opens up about her love life (29 April 2022) Pure class. Not
World’s ‘hottest truck driver’ hits back at X-rated side-hustle critics (18 April 2022)
“I’m always getting slut-shamed and discriminated against because of how I look, she said. Honestly, most of the hate is coming from women, which is always so disappointing. Women need to be supporting each other no matter what, not pulling each other down”.
Australian mum and daughter are both on OnlyFans (14 April 2022)
OnlyFans star, 25, is arrested for ‘stabbing boyfriend, 27, to death during a domestic dispute’ in their luxury Miami high-rise (8 April 2022)
WWE legend turned porn star Tammy ‘Sunny’ Sytch involved in fatal car crash (7 April 2022). “Sytch has been arrested for driving while impaired at least six times. Earlier this year, she was accused of threatening to kill her partner with a pair of scissors”. And now for a comment from the feminist lobby <sound of crickets>
Melbourne ‘Barbie doll’ turns heads in ridiculously tiny dress (6 April 2022)
‘Don’t care what people think’: OnlyFans mum proud of her job (27 March 2022)
Instagram ‘socialite’ and OnlyFans star Casie Caldwell drunkenly spat on police (12 March 2022)
Young mum reveals how she makes up to $10,000 a week (22 February 2022) Another choice offering from @newcomauHQ
Former ‘broke’ Supercars driver’s luxurious life after becoming a millionaire (17 February 2022) A lesson for all the broke girls out there – courtesy of @newscomauHQ
Two-year-old boy drowns while OnlyFans model mum parties with friends (16 February 2022)
OnlyFans star reveals mortifying text from her uncle who found page online (28 January 2022)
Adelaide mum who ate Macca’s everyday reveals weight loss (14 January 2022) Hurray for the stunning weight loss, but this is the sort of example that MSM now provides to young women today?
OnlyFans explained (21 September 2021)
Jessika Power made $50k with raunchy OnlyFans content in just five days (8 December 2021)
Sex, lies and ‘rinsing’ guys – Youtube video – Just don’t call them thieves or prostitutes