Now, some of you might think, “oh, MRA huh? So you’re one of the those #$@* that hate women?”
Well, no, I’m not actually. Advocates for men’s rights don’t hate women, nor do they claim that everything bad that happens to men is due to women. These are just two of many baseless claims put about by feminists in order to disparage and demonize the men’s rights movement. Feminists who, by the way, represent less than one in five women in the community.
This blog does not, however, shy away from discussing flaws apparent in some women. It does so not to shame, but purely with the intention of keeping things ‘real’. In so doing it reminds us that there is good and bad and many shades in between on both sides of the gender divide.
I also recognise and applaud the fact that many women are sympathetic to and/or actively involved in, addressing issues and concerns raised by the men’s rights movement (see examples here, here, here and here). Indeed many of the most articulate advocates for the men’s rights movement happen to be women who eschew feminism.
Cynics might assume such women are drawn from the ranks of the cotton pinafore and paling fence set, but they are in fact an extremely diverse group. And further, they pay a high price for refusing to walk towards the mirage of feminism, as the feminist attitude towards female men’s rights activists is toxic in the extreme.
As of April 2022 I have uploaded about 280 posts, most of which include links to a myriad of further relevant sources of information. Please take the time to review these, and when so doing be sure to scan the ‘comments by readers’ section (where one exists), as this is often where the best insights are to be found. My blog posts are rarely static, and over time I endeavour to expand, enhance and/or update them.
Sadly, most people in the community remain rather clueless about the true nature of the men’s rights movement. Some think they have a handle on it, but their research has been confined to biased and misleading material contained in the mainstream media. Those who would like to learn more might like to read my post on the subject. This particular paper is also a useful starting point.
Contrary to what you will read in feminist web sites and in the mainstream media, there is a great deal of thoughtful and valuable information and discussion produced by members and friends of the men’s rights movement. See the ‘Further Sources‘ page within this blog for details and hyperlinks.
In a perfect world men and women would work together in pursuit of fairness and equality, and in constructing solutions that generated those outcomes. Unfortunately though, the direction that western society is moving with feminism is highly problematic in that regard. It is quite clear that many within the feminist movement are intent on advancing an agenda that is very much at odds with achieving true equality for men and boys.
Look, I have a simple way of gauging if something is fair and reasonable in the gender stakes – a ‘sniff-test’ if you like. I just substitute ‘women’, ‘fat people’, ‘negroes’ or ‘jews’ (etc) for ‘men’ in a statement or situation and see whether it comes across as fair and reasonable. There are now daily examples of statements being made about men that, if said about women (or almost any other demographic), would cause outrage. Further, these double-standards are all-too-often subsequently ratified through the adoption of public policies or laws.
One such double-standard applies in the case of male circumcision. Many female authors comfortably discuss the aesthetic or functional appeal of altered versus natural penises (example), but heaven help the man who dared to champion the benefits of women who had been subject to ‘genital mutilation’. This situation occurs because many people fail to appreciate the extent to which the two procedures are similar, and hence should be considered in the same context.
When men question the way things are in society now, their concerns are immediately dismissed as lacking any substance or value. Men’s words are waved away as nothing more than a misogynist backlash against the “advances achieved by feminism“. There really is very little genuine gender dialogue taking place. Feminists offer directives in relation to every aspect of the lives of men and boys. Meanwhile men who offer a view on women’s issues (or more often than not, shared issues) are told to ‘STFU‘ (also here).
Once we move beyond the work of its early pioneers, many are now seeing that the costs imposed by feminism already greatly outweigh any broader social benefits being achieved. Indeed feminism, as currently espoused by those in a position of influence, is dragging us down a path that hurts women, men, families and society in general.
By the same token, there are instances where feminists raise issues that warrant action. But we will not find a middle ground in which to address them by blacking out important parts of the equation for fear of undermining feminist ideology. Yet this is exactly what feminists persist in doing. We must consider and discuss all facets of important issues, however unpalatable that may be to either feminists or men’s rights activists.
To move forward from this point demands meaningful dialogue. The best that most feminists can manage at the moment is “Shh! Misogynist!” and “Shh! Hateful bigot!”. Upon being publicly challenged about their ongoing censorship or misrepresentations, feminists routinely respond with shaming or silence or abuse, broken up with the occasional offering of errant nonsense like this.
Look, life can be tough. Both men and women can do bad things sometimes. But the fact is that many of the issues that feminists rail against are reflective of human frailties rather than some sort of gender-specific behaviour disorders. We cannot and will not fix these problems by demonising one half the population, whilst white-washing the other half.
Promulgating lies and misrepresenting reality will fix nothing. The only thing that the current approach taken by the feminist lobby will achieve is an ever-deepening polarisation of views, greater and greater injustice, and more and more bitterness and anger.
A wise fellow once told me “As for feminism. In the larger view an example of identity politics, which have the function of keeping the masses divided so that they do not attend to the fundamental political questions that affect us all.” Let’s cut the posturing and get on the same page with the issue of gender, fix what needs to be fixed, and move on together to address the really big stuff.
I believe in addressing issues via consensus, but consensus is only meaningful where people have access to accurate and unbiased information necessary for informed decision-making. We live in an environment where there is a considerable amount of hidden censorship and manipulation, and this is certainly the case in relation to gender-related issues. Things are exacerbated by the fact that most people cannot devote the time and energy required to reveal the complete picture, even when to comes to important issues.
Politicians, the media and vested-interest groups take full advantage of the situation, adopting strategies to push or pull people in a particular direction. I talk about some of these in this post. Hopefully this blog will, in some small way, expose and interrupt their plans.
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