Sperm-donation – Prawn of the Patriarchy

Media attention has been given to a practice labelled as ‘stealthing’, whereby men remove their condom during sex without their partners consent (example). Few articles acknowledge that women perpetrate a similar act when they falsely claim to be using contraceptives in order to ‘trap’ a man in a relationship and/or secure an income stream via child support payments. This issue was addressed in this article, and then in a follow-up article by Martin Daubney. See also this Reddit discussion thread.

‘Sperm-jacking’ is a term that’s been used to describe the use of a man’s sperm to cause pregnancy, undertaken without his knowledge or approval.

Paternity theft has been defined as something which occurs:

“when a mother names a man to be the biological father of a child, when she knows or suspects that he is not the biological father; Or, She intentionally does not state the name of the child’s biological father on the birth certificate in order to either to begrudge the father, or to claim benefit” (Source)

I have previously included references to these issues in other posts, for example one that deals with financial abuse, and another with the ‘marriage strike‘. The creation of this new post acknowledges the growing significance of these matters. One aspect of this is the likely adverse impact on small children born either by, or into, such arrangements. This post will also address the growing problem of women kid-knapping infants to raise as their own children.

Some relevant sources:

Warrington mother who forged paternity test to trick ex-partner is spared jail (15 April 2025)

Wiki entry for ‘Sperm Theft’

Baby Traps: Fake Positive Pregnancy and Paternity DNA Tests, by Ann Silvers (2024)

Monique Ericka Hudson jailed for stealing car with newborn inside at Yeppoon click-and-collect (15 February 2024)

‘It is rape’: Stealthing criminalised in Queensland under new laws (11 October 2023) But no mention of inappropriate acts by women. Quelle surprise

Police search for baby missing from Ipswich hospital (13 June 2023)

‘I was a victim of stealthing and didn’t know I’d been raped’, by Ginger Gorman (20 May 2023) Another feminist account that conveniently neglects to mention to flip-side of this issue, where men are the victims.

Tinder date faked pregnancy for nine months after one-night stand (8 December 2022)

Father wants justice after discovering late son’s paternity (5 December 2022)

Lisa Wilkinson questions efficacy of new stealthing sex crime laws (4 November 2022) And not one mention of men as being potential victims and/or women as potential perpetrators.

Sorry ladies — the number of young men who want kids is on the decline (17 October 2022) Be sure to also look at the readers comments

Stealthing: German woman jailed for stealing partner’s sperm (6 May 2022)

Woman puts baby up for adoption after sperm donor lied about ethnicity and education (14 January 2022)

My partner secretly got pregnant because she felt me slipping away (2 November 2021)

Woman who faked pregnancy to ruin ex’s life released on bail | Stuff.co.nz (3 September 2021)

Man who found out daughter isn’t his own fights off child support claim (2 March 2021) UK

Sperm-donor pursued to pay child-support (15 February 2021) UK

Husband’s shock as baby’s birth reveals wife’s infidelity (15 December 2020) USA

Sperm Donors Need To Cross Their Ts And Dot Their Is, Or End Up Like This Guy (26 August 2020) USA

Husband wants divorce after wife ‘baby-trapped’ him (21 August 2020)

Surprise! I know she’s not my daughter (29 July 2020) Why would you do this to me? (She says)

Dads by deception (5 May 2020)