I saw two items about parenthood yesterday that got me thinking about a number of the issues I have written about in this blog.
The first item I saw was an article in The Courier Mail, entitled ‘Go forth and procreate sooner’ by Belinda Seeney (“We need to support women aiming to have babies earlier to beat age-related infertility”). The second was an ABC TV documentary called ‘Cherry’s parenting dilemmas’.
A distinguishing feature of both was the total lack of any mention of the role or significance of men in the topic under discussion. It was not that the discussion was gender-neutral – it was more like men were completely inconsequential. This is indicative of a society where the ongoing relevance or value of men in parenting (and in fact, generally) is increasingly under-valued. Another feature shared by both of these stories was the privileged western societies that formed their contextual backdrop.
Most readers would be aware of demographic trends now taking place in many western countries, including for example falling birth rates, increasing age at marriage, increasing age at becoming a parent, the rise in single person households, the rise in single parenthood, etc. I want to briefly mention a few other trends or developments that I see as relevant to this discussion.
- Recent/current research that is increasingly showing the critical importance of having a father actively involved in raising a child, or conversely, the negative implication for the well-being of the child where a father is absent from the household
- The Marriage Strike and the MGTOW movement, and the factors underlying both
- Increasing influence of feminist ideology in western societies, and the consequent demonization of men, and negative discrimination towards them
Where do I see things heading ?
- More and more women moving against feminist ideology and rediscovering the value and legitimacy of parenthood and therefore more women wishing to have children, and at an earlier age.
- More and more women recognizing the value of having a man (or men) actively involved in the rearing of their children
- More and more men discovering the costs and negative effects on them of parenthood and so avoiding parenthood for longer, or entirely
- Continued or even worsening economic austerity making parenthood more and more unaffordable, particularly for single parents
So as things stand now, just as more and more western women are wanting to have more and more children, there will be less and less men willing to partner with them. This is not selfishness or immaturity on the part of the men, it is a rational response to both real and potential threats faced by them in relation to marriage and parenthood. We need to recognise and address those issues, issues such as bias against men in the family court system. If we fail to do so and the than those that will suffer most will be women and children. Yay feminism!
Where the Good Men Have Gone and How to Get Them Back, by Suzanne Venker (22 May 2017)
The day I put my wife in her place (20 March 2017)
Why are married women leaving their men? (14 April 2016)
Want to bump the birth rate in the West? Pay men (15 August 2016)
Cuckold Your Husband: The Raw Marriage Deal For Men (27 May 2016) A rebuttal to the article below
Fewer women are seeking divorce as men behave less badly: Number of wives seeking split drops by half since the mid 1980s (27 December 2015) with related reddit discussion thread here
Feminist in ‘open marriage’ leaves husband for another man (17 November 2015) Included here mainly for the reader’s comments in the linked article
Are today’s women too picky for their own good? (10 November 2015) UK
She’s keeping her vow, by Dalrock (5 September 2015)
Post-divorce reality (11 August 2015)
“You’re just intimidated by accomplished women!” (10 July 2015) Reddit mensrights discussion thread
Petty things I do to get back at my husband (3 June 2015) Like spitting in his coffee? Ewww. As detailed in one of hundreds of reader’s comments
How The Search For Love Fuels China’s Housing Bubble (4 May 2015)
Gender equality begins at home: empty the dishwasher, guys, by Judith Ireland (1 May 2015) and related reddit mensrights discussion thread. And here is a more recent (Feb 2017) article on the same theme. But then read this article.
Spinster: how feminists celebrate being a selfish witch (24 April 2015)
Ready for the marriage apocalypse? (8 April 2015)
How much should a husband share with his wife?, by Dalrock (6 March 2015)
Eva Mendes said you can’t keep a man (1 April 2015)
Bachelor Nation: 70% of Men Aged 20-34 Are Not Married (12 February 2015) Author pushes the standard line that men aren’t marrying because they are immature. More than 2,000 readers put her on the right track
How marriage would work in a free society (22 February 2015)
I don’t want children but worry my husband is getting broody (19 May 2013) If consent to sex is given under false pretences is now considered to be rape, then surely the situation described in this article is fraud?
At home, women treat men as if they are barely competent (10 February 2015)
Or maybe it’s you (2 February 2015)
Marriage rates plummet – Projection of never-married rates to 2017 (12 August 2013)
Why women are rejecting “perfect” men (18 September 2014)
All the lonely feminist spinsters (14 October 2011)
It might also be worth reading this article about gynocentrism to get further understanding of the ‘big picture’ that surrounds and underpins the above-mentioned issues.